Is this normal? One day he is telling me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and the next day he seems distant and has very few words. I do not understand his behavior. When I approach him about this, he says that he loves me and I am just too uptight about things. I enjoy us so much when he is up, but when he is down, he can make everyone around him miserable. Should I get out of this relationship before I commit and regret it, or is this behavior fairly normal. I haven't been around other men much. I have just recently been divorced from a 13 year marriage. I thought this info. may help when answering my question. Thanks
2006-08-23 06:06:40 · 8 answers · asked by gofigure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is something you are going to have to decide for yourself. He may be moody, but you know that going in. Some people need a lot of space. You know that going in. He seems "grouchy" at times, or are you over sensitive, perhaps he just doesn't want his space encroached upon. You know that going in as well.
However, if you think he is too moody or there are some red flags that may make him an unworthy partner, or dangerous, you need to trust your instinct and get out now.
Above all be aware you will not change this man. He is who he is. Accept it or move on but do not attempt to change him.
So can you live with it? If yes, stay. If no, time to leave. Peace and Good luck.
2006-08-23 06:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The behavior seems normal to me. But if u have a strong gut feeling that this is wrong and u should bail...u probably should. Or maybe he has the problem. My man was like that...in turned out that he might be a bit bi-polar. OR if ur man's in a rut, get him out of it. But I'd check the bi-polar thing out though. Because if everyone's happy when he's happy and not when he's not, it's not u. IF it's too hard to handle, give him some space. Let him know how u feel and what ur plan of action may be if he continues these emotional mind games with u...then he might consider changing a bit for u. Just don't latch on because u feel stuck or desperate(ur divorce reference).
2006-08-23 13:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way some days he can be the sweetest guy and then other days its just like he is so distant from me.. The way i look at it is that there may be something wrong with him like stress wise or have something on his mind.. but in my situation i dont ask too much or get upset about it cause it will only make him even more mad, hang in there, yes this is normal i was thinking it wasnt normal either at first but then i heard from other ppl that it is so im guessing that it is pretty normal.
2006-08-23 13:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by babygurl001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend seems only to get crabby when hes hungry. His mom and I tease him about it, packing 'emergency' bars in his car and such :). But he is very aware of why he is crabby, and when he takes it out on me, which happens, he is always apologetic afterward. Also, my dad, whos 48, still after 28+ years of marriage with my mom, is still like that. He's just a quiet, introverted guy, and I know it drives my mom mad sometimes, or always, but she still loves him.
It seems like somewhat normal (mis)behavior to me, but he should be aware of your feelings, and he should look into himself to see what brings up his crabbiness. He should try to prevent it, if possible.
2006-08-23 17:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every body has there moments woman get to call it PMS i call it the Mr time its when a man acts like a b---- and its for no reason give the guy a break are you alway s on top of the world i have been married to my husband for 28yrs hes a good husband and when he has his mr time he gets quite so i go away from him and give him space a few mints later he comes looks for me and kisses me and say sorry babe just one of them days and we let it go he does the sam for me when i PMS and it works that way we have an agreement good luck
2006-08-23 13:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That behavior isnt common, but it isnt rare, its just how he is. So is upt to u to accept him like that or not. Everybody has something we dont like, so if u look for something in everyone and dump him because of that, u ll never stop. Nobody is perfect...well, maybe i am, but, you get the idea.
2006-08-23 13:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea I think that I would bail before I get into something that I will regret later
2006-08-23 13:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you knock him up?
2006-08-23 13:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by chelsetoots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋