We had an argument last night and I felt pretty upset about it as he was not very kind towards me. He was stressed from work and I felt iike my support has meant nothing to him. When I got upset, he got angry with me. Anyway, I was in tears last night but I said nothing. I am meeting him this Thursday and I am sad that we had this argument as he was really sweet with me for the last weeks. He was the first one who sent me a message today and he was trying to be nice to me and then he said that he hoped I wasn't upset anymore as there is no need. I replied and explained to him that his comment yesterday hurt my feelings and made me feel as if he thinks I am not good at supporting him and I said that I didn't deserve that because I was only trying to help and I was sorry it turned to be an argument about it. He replied and said "ok sorry. you are so sensitive.. " I am now upset even more. Why did he say that to me? I told him that I should be able to express my feelings if I am upset.
2006-08-23 05:57:48 · 18 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said I was childish when I sent him a message to support him when he told me that he hates his work. I felt my efforts were rejected.
2006-08-23 06:07:57 · update #1
He said I was childish when I sent him a message to support him when he told me that he hates his work. I felt my efforts were rejected.
2006-08-23 06:08:03 · update #2
You posted this drivel AGAIN! What are you wanting to hear?
2006-08-23 05:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said that because guys are dumb. I'm sorry to admit that I have done precisely the same thing MANY times. Everything is going great. Then I say the wrong thing. Then I try to patch it up and end up saying a few more bad things, and she ends up hating me.
What he had really meant to say was that he would not have hurt you for the world. When he said what he did he didn't realize the way you would take it (there are a few girls I know who I'd wish would read this answer). Afterwards he just wanted to apologize, he wanted to move on, he wanted you to still be together despite the horrible thing he said. But what is he supposed to say to make you feel better? What can he say that will make you forgive him? There is nothing, and we guys know this. And yet we try and try, digging our own graves.
His comment about you being so sensitive meant that he was frustrated because he didn't know what to do to make things better. Girls have a hard time understanding that guys really, really care about them. When we talk, most of the time it's just to fill up empty air and possibly to bring us closer emotionally to the girl we are with. He just wants you to like him.
You made it sound like you still like him, even though what he did upset you. So tell him that. Tell him that he said stupid things and made you feel bad. Let him then tell you how sorry he is and how much he cares about you. But don't push him away because he's upset. Because then you'll both be sad and the relationship will be over. I'm not going to say that it's over a trifle, because that would land me in the doghouse, but it's stupid in my opinion to end a relationship where both people actually care about one another, when the only trespass was a few poorly chosen words.
I really hope you can forgive him.
2006-08-23 13:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,you gotta grow up and be a little matured....
understand that arguments are nothing but a difference of opinion,no 2 people can think alike and specially in a relationship where one is from mars and the other one from Venus,2 different planets!!
you have to adjust and compromise and he said he was sorry about the whole thing right?no point digging and self pitying,please don't sleep over an argument..move on with it...you've told him all that u felt and he has apologized so why do you want to carry it even further?
men,u have to understand,have heavy work pressures....do not dig,nag and make him feel more miserable.....
best thing for you would be be even sweeter and supportive then before and all will fall in place...if you start getting upset about such Lil issues in life you would never be able to enjoy and be happy!!
2006-08-23 13:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give more insight into the situation if you want better answers. What did he say that made you upset in the first place? what was said? what were you fighting about? There are ups and downs in any relationship and you have to take it all in stride.He probably made the "you are so sensitive comment" because he may not have felt that whatever he said warrented the reaction he got from you. different people react different ways. Men and Women react different ways. Good luck and i hope everything will turn out ok :)
2006-08-23 13:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer I can give you is communicate your exact feelings, no matter what! The same thing happened with my husband and I recently- we were both stressed and got into a huge disagreement, which left us both very upset. When we finally communicated, we realized we both misunderstood each other, and vowed not to let work ruin us anymore!
2006-08-23 13:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by soleil7372 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of yourself. Give the guy a break. You are an emotional wreck. You've posted the same question over and over. You are overly sensitive and seem to need to much nurturing.
He was upset about work and possible didn't want to talk about it. Give him some space and get over yourself.
2006-08-23 13:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to avoid any responsibility for the argument at all. That is a weapon when people say they are sorry that YOU are so sensitive. He is still being unkind to you. I hope you get this straightened out before the relationship gets any more serious.
2006-08-23 13:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my boyfriend ... they don't think they way we do. If this is something that becomes a pattern then you need to decide if this is where you want to stay. Try talking to him when he's not on the defensive. Guys don't realize when they say something stupid and on top of that they expect us to get over it as quickly as they do.
2006-08-23 13:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't share the same feelings and has a different idea of how you feel about things. Take some time and reconsider this relationship
2006-08-23 13:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh... the whole thing sounds like it is being spun. Sounds like you are either lying or holding back important information.
Sounds like he will break up with you, eventually, anyway. So, no need for you to really go deep with your analysis.
2006-08-23 13:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by Badspe11er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. guys are different when it comes to stress.
you may think he doesn't care about your support but he does. believe me. I am the same.
but but but, try to come up with an idea to support him. men like logic more than emotion.
2006-08-23 13:10:50 · answer #11 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋