i just told my 6mos old daughter's father that i had nothing to do with him anymore he has screw me and my family over tone's of time's there isn't anything between us anymore except our daughter . is there anything that i have done did i hurt his feeling's or should i be happy and go on with my life?
2006-08-23 05:44:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends. Having been in your situation and done the same thing, I now regret not letting my daughter's father have contact with her. They have since tried to salvage a relationship (she is 34), and it is strained at best. Her father and I are now good friends (being older and wiser) and realize what we share. Had it not been for him, I would not have my daughter or my grandsons.
In retrospect, my intention was to end our relationship as a couple, but I should not have ended his relationship with his daughter. Think about this from your daughter's perspective when she gets older...then make your decision.
2006-08-23 05:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Square your shoulders, give yourself a pat on the back and begin a new life for you and your little girl. Sure his feelings are hurt, he has lost his hold over you..don't worry, he'll get over it.
2 things to ask are...1) Is his name on the Birth Certificate?
2) Is child support worth the frustration?
If you answered yes to the first one then you may have a slight problem on your hands...namely the fact that he has a 'LEGAL' right to your daughter. If the answer was no, then you are free to do what you please and simply think of him as a 'Sperm Donor'.
As far as the Child Support, just realize that if you apply for it and get it, it gives him all kinds of legal rights and you all kinds of headaches.
Write him off, make it on your own and tell your daughter the truth when she is 18 AND NEVER look back.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-08-23 06:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by HistoryMom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your family have let this guy "screw me and my family over tons of times" then it is unlikely that you will follow through and "have nothing to do with him anymore." You have obviously said that before and you keep going back because of your neediness AND HE KNOWS IT. You are not the only person he is screwing - literally and figuratively - and you know that. Now you are stuck with this jerk for the next 17 1/2 years unless you are lucky and he goes back to Mexico or is deported. Stop screwing before marriage and you won't get screwed.
2006-08-23 05:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you mean't it, then do what you say. If he has screwed you guys over, then stay away. For the sake of you and your daughter. Be prepared for a custody battle, visitation privelages, child support collection, etc. This is what always happens, but as long as you are happy and you are seeking the best for your daughter, then ahead with it. Only forgive him if you truly mean it.
2006-08-23 05:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of i could have a concern together with his lady pal looking after your daughter for each week. Why does he choose her to return bypass to if he's going to be working. in line with probability you may contain and ask him to take off for a protracted weekend and then he can spend some genuine time along with her. in line with probability it fairly is the mummy in me speaking yet she's only 3 and that i could have a concern with this occasion.
2016-11-05 11:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by ai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking of your feelings and yourself alone. What about your daughter who is 6 months old. Think ahead. Wouldn't she want a relationship with her father in the future? Do not let your feelings come between a daughter and her father.
2006-08-23 05:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have anything to do with him but you should let him be a part of his daughter's life. I know some father will try to still have sex with the mother's after they have broken up. Is that your situation? If it is than you was right to tell him you don't want anything to do with him, but your daughter needs him.
2006-08-23 05:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by dreamee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be sure he helps you in the future with the financial part of raising your child. That will require some legal help..... Otherwise, since you probably no longer admire, respect, have passion for, nor trust the guy, get on with your life, hon. Toooooo many nice guys out there to be miserable. The purpose of life is to be happy.... just remember that...
2006-08-23 05:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you like it or not that is the father of your daughter and he has a right to be there too, you need to be mature and allow that relationship, children are not pawns in the blame game, get over your feelings and be an adult.
2006-08-23 05:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should b happy and move on w/ your life. Don't look back n the past eithe. U got what u wanted and that's your daughter. Do the right thing. Good luck!
2006-08-23 05:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋