i cry every night coz im scared of whats to come for my grandfather he has cancer and i keep asking the same Q's and dont belive that hes diying im sad .
2006-08-23 05:37:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
don't cry, celebrate his life and pray for a happy death for him.
2006-08-26 21:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CRY. Let it out, there's no better time.
My grandfather has been gone 10 years now from cancer & I'm still hardly able to believe it.
I was diagnosed with cancer @ 29, I had just got married and my baby was 2 when I went thru chemo and radiation. I had a tumor that ate my ovary and they gave me a complete hysterectomy so I can't have any more children. I'm in menopause now which they say makes me the same age biologically as my 60 yo mother.
Now that I have no hormones I can see my face age every day and I have Old Lady problems. I only have a 50/50 chance of surviving 5 years and I'm afraid my daughter won't even remember me, let alone that I'll never see her graduate or get to see my grandchildren.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. My grandfather died and a year later my dad's brother died of anal cancer. Then my other grandfather got prostate cancer and by the time he died his son (my mom's brother) also has prostate cancer. I've always been terrified of losing my mother because my family is so close and she almost had a mental breakdown when we found out she might outlive me since I got the cancer first. Now my half sister is on the watch for breast cancer as well as my ovarian cancer becasue /her/ mom not only got breast cancer - 4 out of 5 of her sisters have it.
We all seem to get to the point where we realize all we have to do is live long enough for them to find a cure. And then you realize it's your turn to join the decades of people who waited and it didn't come. As you can imagine we are all volunteers in our local cancer care communities and we work hard with our local organizations to spread awareness and raise money for research. Call the American Cancer Society and they can help get you in touch with someone to talk to and they are always happy to answer your questions regarding different kinds of cancer. Please, people, join your local Race for the Cure or give what you can when you can. IT WILL MATTER TO SOMEONE YOU LOVE sooner than you think.
In the mean-time, cry when you need to ~ your in mourning. And spend all of the quality time with your grandfather that you can before he get any worse. Oh only because I have cancer can I get away with saying this but: my doctor believe cannabis is proven to retard tumor growth and actually REALLY help cancer patients in ways WAY MORE than just an anti-emetic (vomiting). My grandfather refused anything he thought would make him an "addict" and then in the end probably faded away on a morphine high in the hospital. So anyhow my doctor also swears by glyconutrients and nutraceutical dietary supplementation during adjudant therapy (if he's having chemo or radiation I really wish I had known about this stuff -- I would have tried it) if he can afford it you should look into it.
Sorry that was so long. BIG (((((HUGS))))
2006-08-23 06:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by aylawins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what u are going thru and it is a very hard thing to grasp i lost my mother 3 yrs ago from cancer and it was hard to look at her without crying but i made sure she knew that i loved her and i made as many happy moments that i could with her, enjoy the time u have with your grandfather and make evey moment count cuz we are all leaving this earth and going to a better place. there is a book by author silvia brown called the after life read it, it will make you look at death and life diffrent and when the time comes you will be alright it doesnt; seem like it now but you will
2006-08-23 05:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by ROBIN K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you. My grandmother is in a nursing home and she is 98 years old. I kinda know what your feeling. But ya know everyone has thier own time to go, and when he does just think that he will be in a better place. You will get to see him again one day. I know that its scary. But you have to face the facts. Don't be sad. Just go and spend as much time with him as you can. And pray for him and you. You will make it through it. ok? Don't worry, and don't blame your self.
2006-08-23 06:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you but you need to stop asking the questions because there aren't any answers and you'll just drive yourself crazy. There is no rhyme or reason. The only thing we know for sure is that what lives, also dies. Just spend as much time with him as you can and know that you can visit your memories anytime you want.
2006-08-23 10:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong for his sake. have you visited him? Is he in a hospital? It is very hard seeing the people we love in a state that we are not acustom to. chemotherapy is not an easy treatment for anyone. You need to reconnect with your grandfather, talk to him, console him, let him know you love him. it will be hard but having someone who may be dying know you cared to see them and take time to be with them even at their hardest moment helps them and you. Would you rather you didn't contact him and he die with you once telling him face to face that you love him? It is ok to be sad but at one point or another you will have to make peice with the fact he may die because of it. Hold On and Be Strong.
2006-08-23 05:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. I know the feeling. I lost my dad to cancer. It's hard on everyone, but please don't let your fears and anxieties keep you from spending as much time with your grandfather as you can.
2006-08-23 05:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by Pask 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELLO, I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR GRANDFATHER, I DO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE FEELING, MY DAD DIES OF CANCER, AND I KNOW THAT ITS A HARD THING TO DEAL WITH, BUT YOU KNOW THAT WHEN THE TIME COMES THAT GOD WANTS TO TAKE HIM THAT HE WILL NOT BE HURTING IN ANYWAY... JUST SPEND AS MUCH TIME WITH HIM AS YOU CAN AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HIM..... DON'T DWELL ON THE BAD STUFF, LIVE LIFE AS HAPPY AS POSSIBLE,,, THINGS WILL BE OK,,,,
2006-08-23 06:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, this is fact of life. sooner or later, we all die. You will have to face it sooner or later. Be strong... It won't make him or you feel better if you keep crying. Just go and enjoy the days while he is alive. Talk to him more and show him your love more. Maybe that will make you feel better.
2006-08-23 05:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize with you. My great-grandma died in the same way. Be rest assured, you are not the only one on planet Earth going through this trying time.
I hope you have brighter days in the future!
2006-08-23 05:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Oklahoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have faith that when all his suffering is done, he will be in a better place. Just remember the wonderful and great memories u made with him when he was healthy. My deepest sympathy is for u and ur family.
2006-08-23 05:43:08 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋