Do you mothers out there believe that fathers deserve equal rights when it comes to family court?

Question

do you think its is fair for the normal standerd to just be visitation to daddy and custody to mommy

Answer 1

I honestly feel like custody should be given to the parent that shows better dedication to their child along with a stable home for them whether it be the mother or the father. We as mothers give birth to the children & most times do share a stronger connection but there are always cases where the mother is not a nurturer & the father is. In these cases I do think the father should get custody.

Answer 2

I think it should be equal. custody should not just be handed to a woman because she is the mother. All states have the rule that they go based on the childs best interest but the sad thing is most states put the mothers first. The father has to go through a lot more and prove a lot more to get custody taken from the mother than the mother does to have the child taken from the father. I think that it should soley be based on who can provide for the child. Lets say the father has a great job, stable home, car, pays his own bills, no help from the state, maybe re married. Anyways has a stable home. No lets say the mother still lives at home hasn't been stable in her job very long, gets help from the state, has family members taking care of the baby, other people helping pay her bills. Then the father can provide a more stable home and should get custody and the mother get visitation, but in most cases it doesnt work like that because men are not treated equal when it comes to children

Answer 3

It is physically impossible for the child to be in both households at the same time. It defies the laws of physics. One person is awarded primary custody and the details of that should get hammered out to an equal portion of time spent with the child(ren). If we start from the basis that it should be 50/50 then it should only go down from there if either parent demonstrates poor parenting. Past behavior on the part of either parent tells it's own story though it's not an indicator that the behavior will be repeated.....still, it's part of the broader picture. If one parent smokes and the other doesn't, if one parent uses illegal drugs or legal ones illegally, if one parent drives drunk and there are dui's on record to support this, if one parent shows willful neglect of a child or any signs of abuse that have either occured or that could escalate to the court's attention....if these or any number of other ill-behaviors are exhibited then the chances of it being a 50/50 split get changed to 60/40, 70/30 and so on. Or they should. But where both parents are equally responsible and equally good at parenting, then I think that 50/50 should apply. Perhaps this is idealistic but if both parents put the needs of the child first and work their lives around that (as should be) then there is no reason why an equal living arrangement can't be made. Just remember, what might feel equal to the parents could be tough on the child so consider the needs of the child first and always.

Answer 4

I am completely for it!!!!!!!! My husband has a child from another marriage and he only has visitation and he doesn't even get her often. This little girl is the most wonderful girl and her mother treats her really bad she admits to keeping her full time to get the child support. and we are trying to get full physical custody and we were told unless the child is in real physical danger there is nothing the courts are going to do. I believe that the on;y thing that should matter is how the parent act not the sex of the parent!!! Mothers can abuse children just like fathers. I am all for equal rights!!!!

Answer 5

I think options should be weighed out. If both parents are fit and can support their children's needs, why not split custody equally? Obviously if they live so far away as not to be able to attend the same school all year, etc, there should be consideration too, but a daddy can be as good a mommy as mommy can be a daddy!

Answer 6

I think that you need to look at all the history.

You choose. Who would you let the baby live with and who would you give visitation to?

Before you can pick something so serious you need to find out both sides of the story, most times a judge hears part of the story and makes his own decision. They really don't have all the time in the world, and hearing everything would take days. Yeah somebody might get screwed over but that's life. All you can do is go back and fight again.
The one thing both sides need to realize is that they need to do what is right for the baby, not themselves. That ended when they became parents.

Answer 7

Yes. Despite the fact I'm battling for custody of my daughter with her father (wish he'd give it up) Sometimes the mother isn't the best guardian for the child. I've witnessed many cases of mothers being addicted to drugs and still being granted custody because of the legal system being set up to protect women. The system needs to invest more in protecting the children involved in these cases rather than the parents to make sure the decision they choose benefits the child.

Answer 8

I think that the one that can take better care of the child should have custody. Sometimes the father can do a better job. I also think that joint custody is a good thing. Both parents and the court should think of the child above everything else. That and it takes two to make a child and two to raise one. Unless one of them can't or will do harm to the child.

Answer 9

The one and only person who SHOULD have legal rights in a divorce is the kid. A kid needs both his Mom and his Dad, but in the majority of custody cases, neither the Law nor the parents give a flying f*ck about the kid, they're too occupied with themselves and THEIR hurt feelings.

Sorry if I'm raving, but I work with young, troubled boys and am confronted with their pain and losses daily. Some Dads just give up after the divorce, start a new family and forget about their other kids, and try as I may, I just can't understand them. Some Moms can yak for hours about their awful ex-Hubby and never once stop to wonder how their bitterness will effect their kids.

The kid has to live somewhere, right? If he lives with his Dad or his Mom or alternates btw them, so what? As long as both parents RESPECT each other, act like civilized people and really care about the kid, everybody will be fine in the end.

Answer 10

I think both parents should have equal rights if they are a fit parent. I think there are so many double standards out there in cases of custody. I mean I was watching abc last night on the twin girls who are anti everybody who is not white. any of you watch that? The parents are divorced mom won custody because dad was on drugs. He is now clean and as I see it a better fit parent then the mother. She is destroying the innocence of these little girls by teaching them to be racists. Its a sad world they just went to court again and the mom won again and is now moving them to a white premices town in montanna. Not fair to the kids.She is totally brain washing them. I think the dad should've won now that he is clean and all that. Its a sad unfair world to the children.