We were thinking about requesting money instead of gifts because we would have to ship everything,but didn't know if that would be rude. We also looked into requesting gift cards but those expire in a year and we wont relocate back to the states for
2 years. Are there any other alternatives? We would like a few gifts because they are personal but are there any other alternatives?
2006-08-23 05:23:25 · 20 answers · asked by spkn42004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Most people give money anyways. Just be happy what you get, and either store it somewhere if you can't take it, or sell it either on ebay or have a yard sale. But really, most people will give cash.
2006-08-23 05:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by mixemup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never request money, it is rude and inappropriate. The fact is, no one HAS to give a gift at a wedding. It's more of a tradition than a requirement. Therefore, word of mouth is the only appropriate way to spread this request. Furthermore, it would do you some good to register for some small items. Then, if people want they can give you gift cards. They do not expire after one year (or at least they don't here in Massachusetts). And even if they do, you can still buy gifts w/the gift card online and have them shipped to you, no?
2006-08-23 06:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please DO NOT request money gifts. That is totally totally RUDE. Actually, requesting gifts of any kind is rude, and asking for money specifically is extra rude.
Pass around by word of mouth that you will be living overseas after the wedding. People have enough sense to put two and two together-- they know that you can't move overseas with a truckload of appliances, and they will gift you with money. No need to make a crass request for money outright. (And if anyone doesn't catch the hint, you simply have to smile and graciously accept the gift anyway-- give it away or put in storage or whatever.)
Maybe this can also be accomplished by printing up "At Home" cards when you get your invitations printed-- it lets people know where you will live after your honeymoon, as well as whether you are changing your name or not.
2006-08-24 11:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to have a gift registry, but it absolutely inappropriate under any circumstance to request money or giftcards on invitations of any kind. This can be done by word of mouth. Also, check into shipping charges at many stores. If you are moving for military reasons and will have an APO/AFO they don't charge any extra shipping and you can still use the cards while overseas.
2006-08-23 05:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that you have a few choices. You can just not register and your friends and family can spread the word. I think that under the circumstances your guest would understand your request. The option is to register for very selective items that would be easy to move and ship. For example you probably wont want to register for anything that could break in the move. But things like flat ware, cook ware, and linens are easy to move and you wont have to worry about damage. Some people prefer to bring gifts. I would still have family and friends spread the word about preferring cash. Best wishes!
2006-08-23 06:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just register for very few gifts, and have your parents/immediate family/close friends causually spread the word that you guys would rather have money. Some of the credit cards/banks now also offer a "gift card" that works like a credit card. Perhaps that is an option for you?
Nowadays a lot of people prefer giving money -- it's the easy way out and the recipient is always happy.
Congrats on the engagement!
2006-08-23 05:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by thatgirl 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't get to pick what gifts you get, sorry. You can spread the word that you'd like cash via word of mouth from your parents, friends, etc., but please don't put it on the invite, or write it on a web site, or anything oh so tacky (and rude) like that. The gift is from the giver, and you should accept any and all gifts very graciously, and respond with a personally written thank you note, preferably within 1 month of receiving the gift.
2006-08-23 05:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you send your invitations, add a notecard that says something to the effect of; Due to shipping costs, in lieu of gifts, the couple invite you to help their money tree grow. A money tree will be available ______ (either at the entrance, or at the reception). It might be fun if your guests know the denomination of your new country, too!
Alternatively, you could have a vow renewal upon your return and invite friends to bring gifts at that time.
2006-08-23 05:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by kaylora 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
under no circumstances should mention of gifts be on or with invites. but you can spread by word of mouth the idea that you need money to start your new life overseas.
if you don't register for anything, people will either give you whatever they think you'd like/need, or they'll give you money. whatever you get, be thankful, because nothing is worse than a bride & groom acting ungrateful for gifts people spent money on.
2006-08-24 07:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by ms v 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can not ask for money, it's rude.... but you can set up a web page and give people choice to donate money too..... like whatever store that you like or for your honeymoon etc... Or a saving up for the house fund... So this way your not asking for actually ask for money, your just suggesting things you need. I would also make a list of what you need household wise and an address for people to mail it to. Some people are very traditional and will not send money but they might mail you towels and sheets!!
2006-08-23 06:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋