Im not sure what to do.... I care for him soo much and I know i am in love with him... It has been about 5 months now and i want to say I love you but im scared he wont say it back... Is there any way i can hint towards it or should i just tell him flat out... Or should i wait for him to say it first? Im not sure if it would be to soon to say it but i want to... can someone please help me!!
2006-08-23 05:21:01 · 23 answers · asked by countrylove0707 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girls are always too concerned with whether or not their feelings will be matched by the other person, and most of the time, its not. You can play games of cat and mouse if you want to, but I suggest that you always express your feelings no matter what. Guys are not the emotional creatures that girls are, so whereas you are in turmoil with this and all up in love and stuff...he is cool as hell and has no clue. The only thing you can do is tell him how you feel and hope that at some point in the relationship his feelings will match yours. Dont expect anything though...cause girls fall a lot quicker than guys so he may not feel like you do. But dont take it negatively either...there is still time and room for him to catch up to you...take it slow and be patient.
2006-08-23 05:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie_6234 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five months is not too soon to tell someone you love them. You can know after a week if you love someone. It is scary being the first one to say it. Sometimes guys find it hard to express their feelings outright in words. If he expresses love by actions, and you are sure he feels love for you, then I would have a serious talk with him and express to him that you think your feelings have gotten stronger for him. I would take the initiative. This way you will know if he feels the same about you, and if he doesn't respond back with the same, he either doesn't feel the same way, or he has a problem with verbally expressing his feelings. But you need to know which it is, so you know which direction you want to go.
2006-08-23 12:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by telling him he is someone you could really see yourself falling in love with and see how he reacts. I don't think 5 months is too short to know. But sometimes guys are slower to realize these things...
I don't think it's necessarily the guys responsibility to say it first either. I've dated guys who would have NEVER said it, if I didn't first. Some guys can be just as nervous as a girl that they won't hear those words in return.
2006-08-23 12:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ginny D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad always says, if you are wondering about doing something, don't. It generally works well.
I'm not telling you to sleep with a guy, but listen up: don't tell him, show him. There are so many ways to show someone you love them, like being considerate, taking him out on a picnic, buy tickets for the next ballgame, or something like that. First invest some money, and check it out. You'll soon know if he's worth investing your emotions in.
2006-08-23 12:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by kruiskryger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... never is to soon to say "I love you"... that depends on what are you really feeling... As they say, actions sometimes works way better than words... but if at some point you REALLY feel like saying so... just tell him. Love is supposed to be about giving without expecting something in exchange... so don't expect an "I love you too".... if he gets scare... well... maybe he isn't the one.
2006-08-23 12:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by MARCO_ALONSO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I didn't say I love you til after a year because we were both scared. It almost broke us up but I totally understand where you're coming from! That's exactly why I didn't say it. 5 months is a little soon though.
2006-08-23 12:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by krd12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you’re in love with him…. say it. Never be afraid of expressing your feelings. You don’t have to say “I love you”, maybe you can say like” You know, we’ve been dating for 5 months now and I think I’m falling in love with you” Don’t expect an answer right away from him,,you might be disappointed. Sometimes it takes time for a guy to say those words.
2006-08-23 12:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just as it is hard for you determine if it's the right time, it could possibly be the same for him. In one relationship I was the first to say it and he didn't respond. So I never said it again.....he later asked me to marry him and had NEVER said it....needless to say, we are no longer a couple. I would wait and a situation might develop where it would be the perfect time to say something.
2006-08-23 12:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him if he says it back good if not then ask him why either he'll tell you or he won't but if he doesnt let it go and if after a few weeks he still doesnt say it or have an answer as to y not then chanes r hes not feeling it the way you are but theres no reason y you shouldnt tell him how you feel
2006-08-23 12:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by lazerus2391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If love is what you really feel then let your feelings show. Tell him you love him becasue he may feel the same but is afraid to say it. And if he doesn't feel the same yet this will let him know you are really feelin him and he will get more seriuos about the whole thing also. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-23 12:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by BabyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋