I love him and he says he loves me (of course). He just keeps stalling. Comes up with excuses why he hasn't been to the attorney yet, etc. Says he doesn't want to lose me..HELP!
2006-08-23 05:17:47 · 29 answers · asked by KK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FIRST AND FORMOST HONEY I DID THAT AND FOR 5 YEARS I HEARD THAT THE TIME AIN'T RIGHT SHE STILL NEEDS ME BUT I LOVE YOU 5 YEARS ,,,,,,,,HE IS NOT GOING TO LEAVE HER HE'S JUST STRINGING YOU ALONG FOR THE RIDE AND REMEBER WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN HAVE THE MILK FOR FREE ,,,,,,,,THAT'S WHAT A OLD LADY AT MY JOB TOLD ME THAT WAS MY WAKE UP CALL TO LEAVE AND MOVE ON,,,,,,,,I HOPE THIS ADVICE HELPS GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN
2006-08-23 05:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by BENITA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're headed down the road with a say'er.. not a do'er. I know what it's like to be in love and believe that the love you have will keep you patient and tolerate until 'your day comes'. But you can't be with somone based on what's going to happen. I do know couples who slow walked getting divorced.. the reasons are usually money issues, loss of medical benefits, tax purposes, etc. But if you wait until your guy is ready you'll resent him and the relationship once you've realized just how long it took and how much time you wasted, waiting for someone else to make up their mind about where to put you and your relationship on their priority list.
I can see if he simply didn't wanna commit and asked you to wait. This guy is already committed and he doesn't take his committment very seriously because if his relationship was in that bad of a state, they'd be legally separated.
My suggestion is to find another man and let this other guy trail off because once you're no longer sleeping with him, that's exactly what will happen- he'll trail off and you won't hear from him anymore. Next time you see him, he'll still be with his wife and give you a lame *** excuse as to why he's still with her.
2006-08-23 12:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need some time away from him until he files the divorce papers. Assure him that you love him but have to do this for yourself. Otherwise he has every reason in the world to continue to stall.
Then surround yourself with friends, do some things you love, cry and miss him if you must, but stay away from him and do not talk to him until he files the papers. You are better off in the long run.
2006-08-23 12:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl... you know the answer..so why are you in denial? If you are that concerned....why dont you get urself another man on the side, and he will prob take your mind off the married dude. And hey if the married dude finds out...then you'll really know what the answer is! IF he leaves his wife for you.... u're all set, but if he's quick about dumping you....then he was never going to leave his wife in the first place!
2006-08-23 12:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he is not leaving his wife because of you, huh?, because that would not make any good woman proud. I have a feeling that he would have left his wife anyway, without you being in his life. Let him make his own decision. I advice you to never raise this topic again ,next time you see him. He will do what he has to do, when the time is right , irrelevant of what you say or how much you push him to divorce his wife
2006-08-23 12:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by angelabetter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mess around with a married man! This excuse is old and tiresome and it's the most used excuse in the book. He is lying to you and loves his wife more than he will admit. He is using you and you are allowing it......he will never leave his wife!
2006-08-23 12:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by lexxy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isnt going to leave his wife or else he would have done it by now.
Besides do you really want a man that will cheat on his wife.
Because he did it with you more than likely he will do it after hes divorced and with you, he will cheat on you with some woman that wants him to leave you.
I dont understand women like you that have to reach out to someone elses man.
There should be a law passed that allows married women to sue or beat the hell out of the "other woman"
2006-08-23 12:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These men are the sort who have their cakes and eat them...he has the stability of married life and home with a wife there for him doing the wife things in life and then he has you - his escape from it all,the satisfaction of his fantasies, and the one person he can focus on when he wants out of his 'normal' life, but honestly girl are you just going to sit back and be used by him when it suits him, sorry but if he wanted to leave her for whatever reason he would have done it by now........open your eyes
2006-08-23 12:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by purplepatty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting the milk for free, he's got a wife at home and you on the side and he is never going to leave her and when you walk he will find another to take your place
2006-08-23 12:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's tough isn't it? Tough to face the truth, losing him, and the "security" of a connection. Is the pleasure worth the pain? Only you can answer that. BTW, it's probably not a question of losing him, only when you'll lose him.
2006-08-23 12:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋