my parents hate my boyfriend. we're both in highschool and we like to have fun and he's totally sweet. but he's a bit of a goof, and that's the way i like him. my parents can't seem to accept that especially my dad. what can i do to make my parents be civil with him?
2006-08-23 05:17:04 · 24 answers · asked by lia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't change their mind, only he can.
2006-08-23 05:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents "love and care" about you! Parents are wise and were young like you once, they have been there and done that (your dad was young like him, think about it, he knows)! They see something in him that bring up "Red Flags"!!! You don't see it now because you like the guy and are blinded by your feelings, you do not have life's experience to see it yet. One day in the future you will see it and thank them it. Listen to them before it is too late!! You will meet other guys and go through the same feelings again. Be patient and do not let your emotions blind you! If your parents are wrong, this guy will prove them wrong. Warning! Do not do anything that will compromise your virtue's. At this age; guys are out for two things, having fun and using girls, do not become one of those girls! You are better then that!
One day you will meet the right guy.
2006-08-23 05:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by SAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't do anything to make ur folks like him. He could totally be on his best behavior, and they still might not think he's good enough(or up to their standard), for their daughter. No matter who a child dates, parents will always have a problem with them...they'll never measure up. It's a rare thing when a parent genuinely likes/loves their child's significant other. They'll learn to accept him as long as ur dating him...particularly if u guys get serious...but don't ever hope that he'll grow on them, 'cuz, he might not, and u'll just have to deal with it. But since ur young and still in H.S. think about y ur folks don't like this guy, and don't stay w/him just cuz ur folks don't like him(not that u are). Wheln u end up dating a guy even worse than this one...they'll want u to dig HIS # up and re-connect.
2006-08-23 05:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up has its ups and downs... You have to follow your heart. If you think this is the guy you want ot be with just try to talk to your parents and make them understand. In most cases they won't but since you still live with them don't disrespect them. I was one of those who didn't listen now I'm looking back saying D A M N, I should have listened. BE Careful and Good Luck
2006-08-23 05:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by BabyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my grandparents met my husband (boyfriend at the time) they didn't like him, they criticize him any way they can, me and my husband just care about what they think anymore, since they're not the one to marry him, so they just have to live with my choice.
Parents are always going to be parents, especially to their daughters when they have a boyfriend, they're more strict with the daughter. because you know, once a man leaves the woman, the woman's the one who to suffer, not the man. They'll always find something to criticize about your guy doesn't matter if he's a really good guy, that's just parents' nature.
2006-08-23 05:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have years more life experience to draw on than you do so maybe they see something you don't. Perhaps your boyfriend could try to be polite and kind around them and make the effort to win them over. Just a thought.
2006-08-23 05:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by eyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they see him as just a foolish boy with no real ambition....parents like to see some potential in a guy and they don't look at things like personality and sense of humor...especially when it comes to who their DAUGHTER is dating...they probably see him as some horny teenager out to bop their daughter.
You are only in high school...every adult knows what goes on in the minds of youngsters in highschool and that's their worry.
I don't know what he could do other than to make an effort in front of them to show them what he's made of.
2006-08-23 05:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a whole bunch. Just make sure your boyfriend is respectable around your parents and always treats you with respect. It wouldn't hurt if he spoke of his goals around your parents, college, whatever. If you stay with him long enough, they will realize he treats you good, and that's all your parents really want for you in the first place.
2006-08-23 05:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by mixemup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain all the good things about your boyfriend, never talk about the negative. But to be honest from my own experience your parents are usually right, he probably is a loser.
2006-08-23 05:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by estes1234567@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him and like his goofy ways, then continue to date him. Show your parents that he is the type of guy that you like to date. They'll accept him eventually.
2006-08-23 05:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents really disliked that my ex-husband was an immigrant.
The whole situation shed light on my parent's negative biases and prejudices.
2006-08-23 05:19:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋