I met this man on a singles website pretending to be legally separated at first then he told me he was actually married that's why he couldnt spend anytime with me he was living 2 lifes so I dropped him fast, He even asked me to tell her that we were seeing eachother and I dont feel it was my place after all I didnt know from the start since he lied and is still lying now stating he is divorced. He infact is still married I have reported him to the sites but they havent done anything about it either. Unsure of what to do should I be the bearer of bad news or let him get caught afterall he said it was inevitable for him to get caught.
2006-08-23 04:50:46 · 18 answers · asked by someonesbabyin05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How should you tell her? That's the hard part I am facing, all answers are cut and dry now I need to know how to tell her, and what if he gets very mad and causes trouble
2006-08-23 05:08:00 · update #1
Let him hang himself, I'm sure he will.
2006-08-23 04:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you actually know his wife? His wife could be the type to take your head off rather than confront him at all. Yes, he could actually not want to be with his wife but have no heart to leave- why else would he ask you to tell her you were seeing him. But do you want a man with no heart in your life? My advice is to leave both him and his wife alone. Be the bearer of bad news when it concerns you or someone you love not someone you barely know. You don't know what kind of drama they have going on in their house.
However, here's what I did a few years back. I met a guy on a web site and I found out he was married. I unfortunatly found out after having sex with him. I didn't feel bad for the wife but like I was betrayed. In my mind, it was all about me. So I emailed her the link to his page on the web site and a nekkid picture of him. She replied to my email with a picture of her having sex with another guy; the body of the email said "I COULD CARE LESS". I felt stupid. I wasted time and energy on something that ended with nothing. I had no love for the guy and neither did his wife. If I had just walked away and done nothing.. the same result would've occur (him out the picture).. and I wouldn't have had to spend any mental energy or emotions whatsoever.
If I were the guys wife, it's not so much that I wouldn't want to be told but it would feel like an embarrassment to hear it from someone I didn't know. The first thing I'd think is.. "who in the hell do u think u r". Unfortunately, that's how some women are. I'm not saying that some women prefer to live in ignorance but rather, they need to know on their own without any provocation from anybody else.
2006-08-23 05:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should NOT tell his wife. You know the saying that the messenger is always the one that gets in trouble for the message. If his wife was not a friend before this started, then you owe her nothing. Do yourself a favor, though, and find someone that is available to love you.
2006-08-23 04:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Krista R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely tell her. I would be outraged at you and him if I found out. Just be honest and tell her who you are and explain the situation. She does not desserve to have a husband who does this. If he was afraid to get caught he should have never entered the website. It is strictly for single people looking for a relationship.
2006-08-23 04:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by rkb12584 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. I mean, seriously... Try emailing her the link if you can get ahold of her email even?
My partner was on lavalife at one point, naturally he denies a lot of stuff in relation to it, lol - but I am not stupid, I can look at records ^-^;
It helps to see it yourself, rather than being told. But if you cant show her, telling her is the next best thing.
2006-08-23 04:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he wants to get caught-if you know his screen name and the site names I would leave an anonymous message telling her to check the sites for this individual. Just say "I think this may be your husband". I wouldn't tell her that you were dating him and I wouldn't leave my name. Then it is up to her to do whatever she chooses to do.
2006-08-23 04:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let the women know would you like some to know that your guy is lieing to other women and for the most part to you!//i would want to know weather or not my man was doing stuff behind my back
2006-08-23 04:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Girl 24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want someone to tell you if you were the wife? I am a man but my ex wife had a woman friend her mother told me and I am glad she did.
2006-08-23 04:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you get if you tell this secret. You must know that everything that's done in the dark will eventually come to the light.
2006-08-23 04:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and if it's vice versa tell the husband
2016-12-02 21:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by el10jon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes or she will never forgive you..a woman never wants to be the last to know.Of course it will hurt but sounds like u will stand by her.
2006-08-23 04:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋