2006-08-23 04:18:30 · 28 answers · asked by Moneymaka 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Explain that the baby is going to be a gift from _________ (insert the name of your higher power, if you have one) and that, regardless of its race, it will be special.
2006-08-23 04:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations on your new addition! Your rephrasing makes a huge difference in understanding what is going on!!
You need to prepare her that this baby will probably not look the same as her - then go on to explain that the baby will still be a part of mommy just like she is and will still be her sister / brother and will love her no matter what color it is. Maybe you could buy her a dark skinned cabbage patch baby or other doll with a different color skin and let her begin the acceptance of the new baby that way. Point out the things about the doll that are the same no matter what color a person is (2 eyes, 2 hands, etc...) and she will soon come to realize that the only thing different is the color of the skin. She'll do well. Just make her a part of the pregnancy and caretaking of the baby when it arrives.
2006-08-23 11:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by heartforhelping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you need to put a stop to that right now. Stress to your 5 year old that race should never be an issue & that the baby you are going to have will be her brother/sister no matter what & that she should lov them just the same. At 5 she may not even understand the "difference" between color issues, she just sees that mommy & her are white & thinks that that is how it's supposed to be. My best friend also has 1 white child & a mixed (black & white) child. She explained it in terms that the older one could understand- puppies. She told her son that a white puppy was no different than a black or brown puppy & if he had the choice which one would he pick? He said that he would take all of them & she said, well there you go, you love them all the same as it should be with people. I don't know if I helped at all, but good luck. I'm sure you can also get a hold of your local health dept & they have counseling services that will also help you explain it to your daughter.
2006-08-23 11:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by starlightstarbright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's crazy children don't have a clue about race that young to the point where they're asking for a white sibling because she is white you obviously have been explaining the difference to her a normal child that was expecting a little brother or sister would just be excited to be having a little baby around they would not be thinking about the race of of the child you're daughter is only 5 some one is explaining the difference to her and you need to explain to her the right way if you know the right way good luck for your kids sake!
2006-08-23 11:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by HELLO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Shorey!
Your daughter's 5 years old so she's still pretty young, probably feels she'df rather have her mummy to herself, she's probably told her friends she's going to have a baby brother or sister and heard friends tell her that mummy will be really busy with the new baby, she'll miss out on your time etc.
About the biracial baby, talk to your daughter, tell her it is neither white or black or anything else but your baby, in your womb same as she was and that once baby's born she will not care about his/her colour! All she'll see is a little person, sme as herself who will grow up to love her just as she'll grow up to love him/her.
Explain to her that colour doesn't matter. Yes some people will notice a difference but try teaching her that colours our eyes recognize are nowhere as beautiful as those we can see in our imagination when our eyes are shut. Also tell her that a colour is just a colour, nothing else and that she'll soon learnt to see beyond it!
Best wishes
2006-08-23 11:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 5 she really shouldn't be so prejudice. Just let her know that the baby will have a nice tan and let it go. Don't try and explain it to her. There is no need. Don't expect her to be reasonable on something that she is too young to understand. My son wanted me to have a boy baby, but he got over it when my daughter was born and now he doesn't even remember wanting a boy. He was 4 at the time.
2006-08-23 11:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your daughter. She needs to understand that the color of someones skin doesn't matter. You're the mom, you're having the baby. She can't always get what she wants, especially in this situation but she needs to understand that just because the baby is biracial doesnt mean it is any different than her and you will love them both the same.
2006-08-24 15:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by SAMANTHA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in simplistic terms that genetics don't work that way. If the daddy is from another race the baby will probably be a little darker than her. Tell her she'll learn to accept and love the new baby regardless of it's skin color.
Don't know if that's what you were asking about or not but hope it helps.
Have a great day!!!
2006-08-23 11:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter that you really don't know that color that baby is going to be. But that no matter what it is going to be her little brother or sister and that it is a very special gift for God to be able to be a big sister. And that her new sibling is going to love her very much and that they are going to look up to her. I am sure that your daughter will love the new baby no matter what. She just wants the baby to be like her.
2006-08-23 11:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by rranderson1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o honey, you need to make this child understand that all people have color......would this 5 year old care if the baby had a different hair color?
While the 5 year old is so young she needs to learn not to have any prejudices against anyone else for any reason.....that a sister (or brother) is part of her no matter what she looks like
2006-08-23 12:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you cannot change the color of your baby. Tell her that you will love her and the new baby. Also explain to her that she is the big sister and will have to help take care of the baby b/c the baby will need her too. Try to make her a part of this. Maybe that will help her to feel better.
2006-08-23 11:21:25 · answer #11 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋