What should I do now?
My girlfriend just told me that she cheated on me and everything. She said that she was sorry, but I don't know if I should believe her. I haven't done anything wrong. I have not even thought about cheating on her. I really don't know what to do. Can you please tell me what to do. Please Help!!!!
2006-08-23 04:11:52 · 22 answers · asked by Brandon S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
right now u r probably thinking about taking her back cos u love her and feel u cant b without her. Been there done that!! Didnt work!! If someone loves u they treat u with respect. Sometimes its not meant to b no matter how hard she begs. The trust is gone!There is a reason why she cheated.....time to move on!
2006-08-23 04:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to find out why she told you. Did she tell you out of guilt because she wants to be with you or because she wants to be with this other person? Either way I would tell her that you need sometime (like a month) to just figure things out. No one deserves to be cheated on. During that time evaluate your life and your relationship. See if you really do want this person in your life or if you should move on. If she really cares about you she will give you the space that you need and be there when you are ready with your decision. Only you know what's right for you but whatever it is make sure you take the time to think about it and don't rush into anything. I wish you the best.
2006-08-23 11:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "I'm sorry" is meaningless. How long have the two of you been dating? If you haven't been going out with each other for a long time, then, perhaps she isn't taking the relationship very seriously and I'd suggest moving on.
On the other hand, if you've been dating for a very long time, then I'd discuss with her the reasons why she felt it necessary to do this. If you love her, then suggest counselling to try and deal with the underlying issues that led to this. If she refuses counselling, then she isn't committed.
My guess is, that if she thinks she can just say "I'm sorry" and that's it, then she is probably not serious and is uncommitted to the relationship. You've been faithful. You deserve better. It's better to be single than to be unhappy. Don't compromise yourself and what you deserve and move on.
Good luck!
2006-08-23 11:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by srhonda61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave her. I have too little patience for trying to rebuild respect in a relationship. I've been cheated on or things just as bad and the love has died every time. Is she the one? Do you still believe you couldn't do without her? Couldn't love another?
If you have no choice but to love her you need to regain her respect and she needs to commit the relationship or things won't improve. Tell her she needs to prove to you that she won't cheat again. Tell her that the other part of that is that you expect her to get counselling to help her find out why she cheated in the frist place. Tell her you'll give her whatever support she needs but you can't simply pretend that it's forgivable.
2006-08-23 11:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you need to set aside time for the two of you to have enough privacy to discuss this issue. You need to find out why she did it.
If she did it merely because she was lusting over another man and she got caught up in the moment, then she isn't worh your time because she could obviously allow it to happen again.
However I feel that cheating, especially by women, usually occurs when something is missing out of the relationship. You need to get to the bottom of any underlying problems in the relationship....
Sometimes men aren't even aware that there are obvious problems in the relationship and walk around blissfully ignorant....
Hear her out and find out what her excuse is. If it is lame and doesn't deserve your forgiveness, move on and find a girlfriend who will treat you right....Good luck....
2006-08-23 11:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is to dump her and move on. If you did nothing to deserve this, then I doubt it will be the last time. My 2nd thought is that if you love her and think you can trust her give her a 2nd chance. Heres what you have to consider: if she's 5 minutes late coming to your house or meeting you, do you want to worry where she's been? If she's not answering her phone, what is going to be the first thing you think of? I can't live like that maybe can. Good Luck.
2006-08-23 11:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can make this decision. You have to go with your heart. Does your heart tell you to stay with this person? Do you want to be with someone that cheated on you? I wouldn't... That means that they aren't really into you like that. Maybe you should ask yourself if she is worth it and then come up with a conclusion.
2006-08-23 11:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by Starlesha23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Brandon, get rid of her, if she cheats on you once, why wouldn't she do it again. Next time would prbably be easier for her because she knows that you'll forgive her. You are better than that. She doesn't deserve you. Good Luck!!
2006-08-23 11:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
anyone that cheats does not deserve a 2nd chance.I am a firm believer on this. we can not tell you what u should do it will ultimately be your decision........but once a cheat always a cheat
just one persons opinion
2006-08-23 11:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by meemeemee40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duno how long r u together but once a cheater ..., why did she do it in a first place ask her than ask urself and dont know answer is not an option
2006-08-23 11:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by leed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋