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i am a sister in law, this shower is for a niece. I was called by the mother and ask if i would like to help(said sure) and then i was told about the shower and where the mother had choosed and it would cost me about a $100.00. I told her this was to much, she get very upset because no one in the family has offer to throw her daughter a baby shower. (this is the first baby for the family). I told her i didn't know we where suppose to. I feel if we where to do this why didn't she come to us first and ask us what we would like to do for her daughter(there is only 1sister and 2 sister in laws)
2006-08-23 04:06:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Throw the shower at somebody's house. If the mother (I'm assuming you mean the mother of the pregnant lady) wants to have it somewhere else then she should pay for that. The rest of the costs should be split as evenly as possible.
I don't know why everybody thinks they've got to spend so much on the shower itself. The less you spend on the actual party, the more you can spend on the baby. The baby needs stuff. Who cares about the venue!
2006-08-23 04:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family obviously isn't very close. That is an expensive shower, but her mother is trying to do something special. I think its kind of sad that your family doesn't want to have involvment with other members simply because you are 'only' an in-law. Maybe she feels she should not have had to come and ask for your help and support right off the bat. Not all families function the same way.
You might try helping out by suggesting other places and helping her mother out in finding some place that is still nice and possibly more affordable instead of getting into an argument about why you are supposed to do anything. If you really don't want to help out with the shower or have involvment then you should be making that clear as well.
2006-08-23 11:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any one can throw a baby shower. I am doing one this week for my neighbor. It doesnt have to cost that much. We are doing ours in our apartments. I think I have proabably spent about $75 with food decoration gme supplies and my gift to her. A lot of the tiomes family doesnt give the baby shower a close friend does.
2006-08-23 11:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, is that a baby shower should be like a surprise party.
The mother to be should not asking people to throw one. Family members and/or friends should be planning it all and letting her know where and when to be there.
If she's planning it herself, I think she should be paying for it. You really don't need much. A few decorations, some food and some small party favors.
Personally, I've never liked baby and wedding showers. It's like your being forced to buy them stuff. I've had people invite me to their wedding shower AND bachlorette party, and they barely knew me. We had already bought them a gift to give on the wedding day itself along with cash, why should I give them 2 more gifts?
2006-08-23 11:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is the person responsibility that wants to throw it. However, you agreed to help. If you agreed before she had picked out the place and you were not involved in picking it out, you should not have to foot any of the bill; however; you may want to contribute something to help defray her cost-But if she had already picked out the place before you agreed, then you should contribute the $100.00
2006-08-23 11:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by BB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figure have it somewhere else,,,where you can afford to help.
2006-08-23 11:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Loki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋