u see i was in love with this guy before he went to prison and we were talking about getting married before he got his time. so when he did get his time he talk to me and wanted me to marry him while he was in there. so my question is would you marry someone that is in prison and have 3years and 6 months to go.And he won't be home till Jan 2009. It's just 2006.
2006-08-23 03:58:37 · 18 answers · asked by sexy diva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The advantage of getting married to this guy while he is in prison would be that you two could have intimate visits while he is locked away.
Personally I have learned that if someone is REALLY IN LOVE with you, they would not want to put you in this predicutment and set you free. Now if you still feel the same way about each other upon his release, you know that it is really love. Even if you choose not to marry, it doesnt mean you can't keep in contact with him.
I would also consider the reason he was put in prison in the first place before making any life time committments. This is your future too you know.
I think it is the best decision to not marry, let him know how much you love him, and let this time apart decide. You never know if you are going to fall for someone else during this time, unable to remain faithful.........(that is if this is something that is important to both of you), or just fall out of love with this man during his absence. You could continue to communicate and visit with him, but be honest to him with what is going on in your lile, and how you are feeling.
If he is truly in love with you, he will respect your wishes and hope for the best. Just remember, "love is not selfish", and he will want what is best for you regardless to his own desires and possible heartache.
If you were already married to him for a long time, this would all be a different story.
I hope this has helped you and maybe gave you something more to think about before making this decision.
I hope everything turns out for the good.
Lisa
2006-08-23 04:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO!!!! If you love him now continue to be there for him, but people change while they are apart. Especially over a few years. If you are still in love with him in 2009 when he gets out marry him, love him forever but don't make any rash decisions concerning your fate and the rest of your life when he wont be there to work on your marriage for at least another 3 1/2 years
2006-08-23 11:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by gina r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends on how much you really care for him. It also depends on how long you have been together before he went to the big house. If you were together a year or so well its worth considering but if you were only together for a couple months maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship. It also depends on what he did. If it was serious is that something you really want to live with for the rest of your life? I would put a lot of thought into it before you jumped into anything.
2006-08-23 11:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope.. he wants to marry u now in the hope that it's his way of "keeping you"... tell him u'll marry him when he's out and a reformed person, coz i'm sure u dont wanna start a family with a guy who'll always be in fear of being caught
simple!!
and what if.. during that time u DO meet someone who's right for you? what will you do? break off the marriage? why give him such hope when there's a big chance that your whole life changes while he's gone? and what if HE changes when he's in jail?
2006-08-23 11:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m a man
but i never was in that position before
dont lead him on
tell him there could be a possiblity of u guys getting married in the future (now u only say this if u want to marry him)
but in the meantime dont stop yourself from finding in the outside
because 3 years is a long time
good luck
2006-08-23 11:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't.. if u were in luv then u should still be in luv when he gets home.. i'd wait until after he came home and started doing something for himself... this is a diff kind of committment.. it'll be as if ur doing the time as well.. visiting him, having to send him $$, writing him, being lonely on the outside while he's doing time inside..
u need to live ur life and be happy and when he comes home if he's still interested in getting married then do it then.. this is just a way to keep u on lock down and to get a visit so u and him can have sex..
2006-08-23 11:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him that much to wait?? And be faithful while he's gone? I know someone that did it. They got married before he went to jail. He served 3 yrs and got out last yr. And now they are having a baby!
2006-08-23 11:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well only if he promise to change his ways, then ...maybe. hehehe
You got to know girl, do what your heart tell you. You're the one who have to live with this man for the rest of your life or will be living with regret.
2006-08-23 11:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you really totally insane. do you really want to marry a criminal, to have a criminal as a father to your children The guy is a scumbag looser...unless of course you are a scumbag looser too then you are probably well suited and will probably breed the next generation of scumbag loosers
2006-08-23 11:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely no! He's going to be a different man, and, perhaps, one that you will not like that much ONCE you get to know him again.
He's paying his price, but you don't have to pay it with him. Move on and don't squander years that you will never get back.
2006-08-23 11:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋