I need feedback. My BF talks about engagement rings here and there. Usually when we are in the car and it's not really expected. He often asks things like what shape diamond I like, what type of metal I like, etc. Would it be in bad taste to go to adiamondisforever.com and send him pictures of those I might like? I'm pretty simple in taste and honestly, I could care less if there were a diamond at all but I'd rather wear no ring at all than wear something I didn't like. Am I being stupid about this?
2006-08-23 03:50:18 · 28 answers · asked by sweetypie9 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh boy! First thanks everyone. This is what I decided to do. I showed him a couple of pictures of what I like and then said:
2006-08-23 04:07:11 · update #1
I dont want you to think that my sending you those pictures earlier is in any way saying that is what I expect from you. You've been asking me a lot about what I like & dropping hints like crazy. You asked to see pictures. I thought I'd make it easier on you if I showed you some pictures of what I do like give or take. Quite honestly, I'd rather wear no diamond ring at all (a regular band would be fine). You already know I will say yes either way (band, no band, diamond, no diamond). I want a family and a life with you. It does not matter. These are just ideas and I hope you aren't upset by it. I am not expecting anything from you. I'd rather wear no diamond than something that just didn't quite click (quality is not important because no one goes around with a magnifying glass). Your love is all that matters to me and a simple band would just be fine sweetie.
2006-08-23 04:07:27 · update #2
Was this ok guys?
2006-08-23 04:07:47 · update #3
His reply back: I know honey. Did I make a mistake??????
2006-08-23 04:36:11 · update #4
If he asks, tell him. I wouldn't go as far as to show him unless he asked. Be grateful for whatever he picks.
2006-08-23 03:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be subtle and don;t ruin the surprise by being specific. You can get the same results and still get to be surprised.
You can get a jewelry catalog and circle the ones that you like. Live that page open on the cofee table when you are not home.
You can also go to the mall together on an "unrelated" purchse trip and end up in the jewelry store, you can have a pretext of havinf something resized, or cleaned or repaired heheh and then say.. ohh look how gorgeaus, etc... the conmversation will go natural.
Congratulations and best of luck
2006-08-23 10:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be poor taste to give him suggestions. He's clearly trying to get a fix on what you would prefer to wear... it should be something that you both like -- since the idea is to wear it for the rest of your life. Diamonds are not mandatory -- there are many cool rings out there that have no gemstones at all.
I've always liked the style of these rings... check out this site:
(and good luck to you both!)
2006-08-23 10:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being stupid!! That's the case with a lot of people and you shouldn't feel bad. You could go shopping with him for one and it won't seem weird at all. Just do it naturally and nicely and it won't be a big deal. Celebrities do it allll the time!! If this is out of the question, you coudl always just tell him what you don't want. Like if you don't like them square or big and gawdy or yellow, just tell him!! OR you could send him ONE and ONLY ONE picture from a website and say "this is about the style that I like, give or take." He'll be GLAD that he has an idea what you like!! Good luck and congrats.
2006-08-23 10:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you showing him what you like. I took my bf to the mall and told him what I liked. Because even though its a beautiful thought that a man goes out there and get you a ring you want to make sure you like it. Its a little upsetting that in such an important day (engagement day) you get something you dont like. My bf has showed me what he likes him self too. So, in my opinion I dont think there is anything wrong. At least he has an idea of what you like and he doesnt buy you something that you dont like. My bf doesnt have good taste in buying me clothes so imagine he spend like 5000 dollars on a ring and its not the shape that i like or the metal that i wanted.
2006-08-23 10:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I picked out our rings together. Dulls the romance perhaps, but then you what you want. We looked at dozens of diamonds until we found one that was large enough and that you couldn't see anything wrong with without a loupe.
You should definetly help. It would be pretty crappy to spend a bunch of money on the wrong diamond. Wether it be a large diamond that is to imperfect or a nearly perfect diamond that is too small. My friend says it depends on your finger size. My wife has small fingers, so her diamond is nearly perfect, but fairly small.
Gratz, and good luck!
2006-08-23 10:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is ask him if he would like to see pictures of the type of rings you like (make sure prices are not with the pictures because you want him to have some element of control over the surprise facot) and just let him see the types you like so he can formulate a unique design that you may like better.
2006-08-23 10:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you're at the computer, look at rings. Tell him that his questions made you curious about what you really do like. Then point out the one or two or three that you do.
No you are NOT stupid for wanting something that pleases you.
One young lady was distraught the other week because her fella bought her something HE liked, and it just wasn't what she would wear.
Or if you want, next time you're in a mall together, suggest stopping by a jeweler just to look.
2006-08-23 10:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Most gentlemen give engagement rings that they know would be adored by their mates.
If nothing else, they want you to say yes and they want you to thank them for buying you a ring they like that boost their ego to see you happy about their choosing of the ring.
Your the one who has to wear it so yes you have a right to get him knowledgeable of your taste and he might appreciate your help in case he can't decide on his own.
Do you know how many guys stand in a jewelry store for hours lost at what their mate truly would like as a ring.
Also, please be considerate of what type of finances your mate might have when you bring the rings you like to his attention. Good luck.
2006-08-23 10:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont send him pics, but next time he brings it up, just be like if ya really wanna know what I like... lemme show you. & then pull up the site, it would be in much better style to approach it like this than to send him msgs, that might be percieved as rushing him, but if you make it seem like it was his idea, it will work out better. Good luck
2006-08-23 10:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is bringing up the subject then you have every right to show him what you like. Good luck, I hope you get something really nice.
2006-08-23 11:48:14 · answer #11 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋