well i met this girl who is great i like everything about her and she says that i am just what she wants.we have kissed and slept in the same bed together but nothing more...she broke up with her boyfriend who she was engaged to last december..now he is trying to mess with her head and keeps telling her he loves her and ****..but i can see he is just useing her for her money..i cant say anything cuz i know she cares about him which is fine..but i just dnt want her to fall back into that relationship...she said she is confused and that she should be jumping all over the oppertunity she has with me.so i dnt know
2006-08-23 03:40:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she really wants you she shouldn't be confused. Ask her to make a decision. If she's with you then you do have a right to ask her to make a choice. She needs to be the better person and not be with you while she's not sure if she wants to go back to him.
2006-08-23 03:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to step back and look at everything she is confused about, maybe write it down. then ask her what advice she would give a friend if that friend was in the same situation.
if you love her and care greatly about her. tell her you love her and its her life to do with as she pleases and as her friend you will stand by her decision.
you don't want to see her get hurt again and tell her you have an opinion about what you think she should do but you wont give it to her until you feel she can hear it with an open mind.
and when she persists on your opinion tell her as little as possible. i mean just give her a simple answer that you would give any person and don't interject your personal feelings for her in that opinion.
never give someone an ultimatum unless you want to lose them.
good luck
2006-08-23 10:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay of course this guy could be messing with her head. but i dont know because i dont know what is going on in that relationship. if you have feelings for her she needs to know. that is how i am happy and about to be married now. i was in a bad relationship and he kept coming around for years to let me know he cares. and her ex wont quit i assure you im still trying to break through to my soon to be ex husband that im not coming back. some people just dont want to hear its over. just tell her you can forgive what he has done but ask her if she wants to go through that every day or have happiness with someone like you. and let her know she is showing mixed emotions that way your heart doesnt get attached to her and then broken. good luck
2006-08-23 10:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by nuzzihuzzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's cool that you're there to support her and all....but here's a serious warning.....if you over do it, I mean if you support her ways with her dealing with both her ex and you for a long time...then she's just simply enjoying the ride, receiving attention from the both of you. She's playing the both you and the ex for a couple of fools. Have self-confidence in yourself and give yourself a time limit for her to make up her mind and stick to it. If she doesn't want to make up her mind then either you'll put up with her behavior and be miserable for a very long time to come...or you'll have some balls and say, **** this ****...there are a bunch of other nice girls out there deserving of your time dude.
luck bro.
2006-08-23 10:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by davemg21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her how I feel, but the choice is ultimately hers. She may want to be back with him because when you are truely over some one you don't give a flying F#*K what they say to you. SO you can talk until your face turns blue, but you can't stp her from gettin back with him, if that is what she wants she will do. I think you should be more concerned with protecting your heart from her instability.
2006-08-23 10:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Pisces Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to be tactful in handling this sensitive issue.First, make her realize the meaning of real love and someone who pretend to for benefit of her money.Try to be a true friend, don't rush or pressurize her into loving for now. With time she will see clearer and love you from heart for being there for her always.
2006-08-23 10:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by sankara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with her and ask her what do she really want. If she is in love with you and her ex. Time apart will be a good thing now. She need to be alone and figure out what she wants before someone get hurt.
2006-08-23 10:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's afraid of getting in to a deep
relationship w/ you due to what her x did
just be her friend for now, show that you care for her & be there when she needs you to talk to
give her time & she will find out who the best guy for her is.
2006-08-23 10:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously the ex still has the ability to affect her. it is not for you to determine if she has to stay away from him. let her live her life and make her own decisions or she will end up resenting you. hopefully she will see what a jerk he is and come to you on her own volition. you don't want to end up being the rebound guy anyway. good luck. hang in there.
2006-08-23 10:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she broke up with him there must have been a good reason. Maybe you should remind her of this. If it was for something bad that he did then he probably hasnt changed.
2006-08-23 10:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Froggy*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋