My fiance is very much into tradition. And at our wedding he wants me to wear a very offwhite wedding dress...i mean not very close to white. I wouldnt have a problem with it if it was close to white but its not. This would upset my family im afraid. what would you do?
2006-08-23 03:23:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your FAMILY isn't getting married YOU are! So if you don't have a problem with it, then just put the dress on and explain it to your fam later! Simple as that!
2006-08-23 03:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not marrying your family. You are marrying your fiance. If you are not a virgin and he wants to acknowledge it by having a color that will not be confused with white, be adult and know what the issue is and accept the truth for what it is.
Rather than trying to match as close to white, go with a very stunningly beautiful pastel and have your bridesmaids in colors that compliment it creating a sea of color.
You're approaching this as if you're being victimized. Remember, the way you begin your marriage is the way it will continue. If traditionalism is not what you want, this issue will come up during and throughout your marriage - he will always unbendingly go tradition and you will have to compromise since it sounds as if he won't.
You should have already looked ahead at how your decision making will be affected by his hard line traditions. Good luck, but to me, an inflexible man would be a man standing at the alter. Weddings are about the Bride, everyone knows that and if he will not let you enjoy your own wedding, then YOU have to realize what you're getting yourself into. He will not be the last man to ask you to marry him. Having someone that inflexible will wear on you when there are so many options available. To choose only one way because tradition dictates that is foolish. Wake up or Learn to be a Compromiser for the rest of your life.
2006-08-23 10:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't see the dress before you walk down that aisle anyway, so go buy the dress you want, that makes you feel the way you want to feel on your wedding day. Trust me, he'll only realize how beautiful you are, and won't worry about what color the dress is. However, I'm going to warn you against stark white, it washes most people out and is not very flattering to the complexion, it's best to go with a softer white color. Get some ideas of what you'd like in a dress, and definitely take pictures with you when you go shopping, but don't rule anything out either. Many times the bride picks a gown that the saleslady brings on the hanger, and her first thought is "I'm never wearing that," and it turns out to be "the" dress. These women who have been selling wedding gowns have been doing it for a long time (most of them) and they know their business, and they know what gowns will look good on you. Listen to their advise. Best of luck to you!!!
2006-08-23 12:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would that matter?
It's a dress. And the crap about "purety" means nothing. (Wedding dresses are traditionally white because in the 1600's white fabric was VERY expensive, and it showed wealth to wear white, not purety.)
Do what you want.
I know when I get married I will have an ivory gown because I think they are prettier, and ivory looks better against my skin versus white.
I have one more question, why does your fiance have any part of choice in picking your dress? Do you really want him to know what you will be wearing? Don't you want it to be a suprise?
Tell him, and both families, (tactfully and gently) to get their noses out of your dress.
2006-08-23 10:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
normally the dress is the BRIDES decision. i mean it is women that dream about this day for their whole lives. and if it is your first marriage you have EVERY right to wear a bright white gown. let him know how you feel. i thought in tradition it is white, why would he want differently? But follow your heart. good luck.
2006-08-24 00:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by thedreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another idea...
How about wearing two dresses, the offwhite one and another one that you love?
A friend of mine couldn't choose and wore one dress for the ceremony and one for the reception. She got one dress for only $100 USD.
2006-08-23 10:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by eternitys_hour 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what dress you want to wear and talk about it. Maybe coming to a compromise between a dress that is closer to white that you will both agree on.
2006-08-23 10:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you want to wear a white wedding dress....simple as that!
2006-08-23 10:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by Penguin Gal 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tradition means the dress would be white, not off white.
The dress is also completely your choice.
2006-08-23 10:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to wear what is comfortable for you, are you dictating what he needs to wear? Years ago this might have been important but in this day and age women wear white and walk down the aisle pregnant. Talk to him and explain how you feel about this!
2006-08-23 10:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋