k first so you know the situation my ex bf and i dated for a year and two months..we broke up in june due to arguing all the time..we talked all the time still and now im pregnant...every once in awhile we talk about getting back together but for the most part he runs from his responsiblities. well last night i tried to talk to him and tell him that the roller coaster ride needed to stop...one week he calls 101 times the next week he forgets to call at all.(we dont see eachother a lot..he moved)..and he said he agreed but when i tried to come up with an alterior motive as to what we should do....he wouldnt listen...i mean literally....he said ok well i love you and im gonna go (mind you i poured my heart out for like 5 mins...not harping or knagging at him) and then without response to what i said...he says well i love you..i might call you later and when i call lets pretend we didnt have this conversation...bye babe....?!?!? wtf..what is that....what is his problem..can anyone help?
2006-08-23 03:15:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOTICE...THAT I DIDNT ASK HELP FOR MY PREGNANCY!..I ASKED HELP ON WHY HE IS DOING WHAT HE IS DOING. thanks
2006-08-23 03:28:00 · update #1
Erm, he's living a life of his own. Your are a part of it, but not a special part. When he has other people to be with, he ignores you, and when he doesn't, he calls. He has no desire to make his relationship to you anything particularily special. Considering you have a kid and he still isn't doing anything about his behavior, you may consider saying bye babe yourself and not picking up the next time he calls. The whole pretending we didn't have this conversation thing, wow. He's such a child. Let him play with his preschool friends and get on with your life. Oh ya, he doesn't love you, even if he may say he does.
2006-08-23 03:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know this man, so I can't tell you anything for sure, but here is my input. If he is a good man, then he is probably insecure about having a child with a person whom isn't his wife. Or, maybe he isn't ready for children, even though he's going to have to be. I might suggest counseling to get some real help on your situation. Counseling would be by far the best option, because then you could really figure things out. Make sure, even if you aren't together, that you are both part of this child's life- this is VERY important. Keep calm with him and see how things go. But again, I highly recommend getting some sort of counseling or help. Wish you well.
2006-08-23 10:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he is blowing you off. He has left you with the responsibility of raising the child. Get child support and move on. It will be hard, but stress is not good for you or the baby. Don't let him play yo-yo with you. Be the mature one and move on show him that you don't need him to have a happy and productful life. Always remember that you should not be with a man because you need to be, be with him because you want to be.
2006-08-23 10:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're pregnant. You need to stop focusing on this guy, he is too confused and to childish to take responsibility for the situation you have both created. Please do what is best for your child and start to make a STABLE environment for him/her. I'm afraid that it doesn't sound like your man is able to provide such an environment, so you need to say to him "I'm focusing on the baby, because he/she is what is most important to me now. If you want to be a part of his/her life then that's great but i wont be chasing you any longer".
Please put your child first.
2006-08-23 10:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by grahamknighton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop wasting your time he's not ready to be a committed boyfriend and definately not ready to be a dad. You're wasting your time waiting for him to grow up he hasn't got the maturity in him yet, settle down to being a single parent, stop having sex with him whenever he feels like visiting you (he's got sex on tap and not even a relationship)
2006-08-23 10:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both r too young? R U?
A man is scared by responsibilities when he's young. In fact they r little boys. that's why he acts like that. Hope things will get better. never been in this situation so I cannot advice u.
2006-08-23 10:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by marianaadrianaioja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're pregnant...he's scared.
And frankly hun...he's probably seeing someone else or sevearal someones and only calls you when he isn't busy.
I'm sorry sweetheart...this is a bad situation. You need to look into counciling for your own peace of mind and for the sake of your baby.
2006-08-23 10:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words..... Child Supprot!
That is all you need. You just need to leave him alone because all of this is not good for the baby or you. You need time to yourself because once the baby comes you will not have any time to devote to you.
2006-08-23 10:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a lot of growing up to do before you have that baby.Go to a parenting class.
2006-08-23 10:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk. Also sounds insecure and unable to deal with real life problems logically.
2006-08-23 10:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋