here is the story, about year and half ago, my bf had crush on one of his friend(before me and him start dated). They went to college together, later on even work in same company, almost hang out everyday. One day he told her that he wanted to be more than friend, then they started dated for almost two weeks, then she left him to other guy worked at same company (who is other friend of his, this guy usual to like me asked me out couple times but i did not go out with him. WE ALL WORKED AT SAME COMPANY BEFORE I DATED MY BF I DID NOT KNOW, HE TOLD ME LATER ON), she left the company and other guy got fire(later on i left the company too). For about a year and halp, there were communication between them. About a month or two ago, she start e-mail and txt msg to my bf, and she came back to the same company, they become co-worker again. I do not know what should i do? i do trust my bf, but i do not trust her. Me and him dated almost for one year right now.
2006-08-23 03:02:42 · 16 answers · asked by xzhou11377 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WE ALL WORKED AT SAME COMPANY BEFORE I DATED MY BF I DID NOT KNOW, HE TOLD ME the whole thing LATER ON
2006-08-23 03:04:12 · update #1
If you really trust him don`t be possessive but do put some restrictions on him. The e-mail messages should be avoided as much as possible, get to an agreement so that they don`t have to meet each-other except the job. Talk to him, show him that you really trust him but you don`t want to see them alone in any place because you will not feel well and if he really loves you he will make an effort to avoid this friendship and respect your opinion.
2006-08-23 03:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1rst off u cant worry about every hoochie who wants ur man, 2nd u have to trust ur man. If she comes on to him fine, but it is HIS RESPONSIBILITY, and his respect and commitment to u to tell the girl: "HEY I have a woman, so back off"! If u cant trust him to do this, u got the wrong man babe. Just sit back, be agood girlfriend, and chill, dont act insecure, dont accuse, this may prompt him to do something he's not even doing. Now if he betrays ur trust while u were being this good girlfriend, get rid of him, and find someone better, he was obviously not the man for u, and wasnt good enough for u either, let him be with a girl who dumped him for his friend! Bone-head!!. Whats in the dark will come to light, so please chill out
2006-08-23 10:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by funkygurll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him, then it doesn't matter what you think of her. Contrary to what people may think, none can get "trapped" into cheating. It is always a voluntary action. He will not do anything except be friends with her if he's happy with his relationship with you. It doesn't matter that they worked together or that he didn't tell you before you and him got together. The only thing that matters is if you trust him. Nothing else. If you do, then nothing else matters. If you don't, still nothing else matters. The lack of trust is enough to ruin what you have.
2006-08-23 10:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should behave more nicely to ur bf for some days so that he would fell guilty when he will be attracted to other gal.
then tell ur bf that u really love him
and understand him completely
let him be comfortable in ur company
then u jus watch that watever the gal does ur bf will be urs!!
and jus tell the other gal to stay away from ur bf
2006-08-23 10:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well people can be friend..... I understand u might be a bit jealous but dirty will be dirty and it'll all get thrown in the trash....... just keep a close eye on the TXTing and if u can cell phone bill.... by the way how did she get his number?..... n-e-ways ... if not then tell u'r man U dont like him talking to his x and how would he like it if u did the same to him?.....
2006-08-23 10:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should find out her phone number/e-mail address, and contact her urself. Politely, but firmly tell her u r in relationship wth him. And tell him if he loves u he should respect you and ask her to back off too. Find out from him if he told her he is in relationship wth you, then if he's woth it, make your move.
2006-08-23 10:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by luv2rite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really like the guy don't give up , love is a battle field
2006-08-23 10:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by leed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him about it and dont let yourself be made a fool of again let him know how you feel and if you feel if anything is suspicious going on with them get rid of him and show him the door
2006-08-23 10:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by luvlifeshell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on, you're only going to get hurt by this...I promise. If they don't become bf/gf, then they will hook up.
2006-08-23 10:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by woodersondylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would just not go out wit him and find a boyfriend who will trust you and you can trust him.
2006-08-24 09:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by starboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋