My 5 year old talks constantly from the time he gets up until the time he goes to bed.?

Question

I know alot of parents would say that every child does this but I've been around alot of kids and I've never seen one that talks as much as my son. He literally talks constantly, so much so that one can't concentrate on anything else when he's around. As soon as he opens his eyes, he starts talking and he doesn't stop until he goes to bed. He's loud and will talk to anyone who'll listen to him. (He even strikes up conversations with strangers in the grocery store, even though we've told him not to talk to strangers.)He gets alot of attention from his father and I and from his grandma.

His brother is two and everyone wonders why he doesn't talk alot and I tell them that with his big brother around, he doesn't get the chance to say much.

My 5 year old is very intelligent and will be starting Kindergarten homeschool next week. The problem is, I don't know if he'll stop talking long enough to learn anything.

Do you have any advice on how I can get him to stop?

Answer 1

When my son was five he did the same thing. Now he's sixteen and he hasn't shut up in 11 years. On the upside, that is considered a sign of intelligence. But on the down side it's also considered a sign if hyperactivity. And I'm happy that my son isn't one of those typical sullen teens who speaks to no one in the family. I do worry that he is grating at the nerves of others like he does mine sometimes, but other people don't seem to mind and he's very popular at school with teachers and students alike.

Just use his talkativeness by directing it toward whatever he is studying. And you could have him prepare speeches about what he's learning. I know it seems like they talk so much they cannot possibly be absorbing knowledge, but trust me they will absorb everything. They've gotta have something to talk about.

Answer 2

You could be describing one of my sons when he was that age. Honestly, I would get tired at times; and there would be times when it was frustrating for me and his father to try to have a conversation. He was the sweetest and nicest little man, though, and his talking was because he liked adults and liked the world and had a lot to say. Five years old may have been the height of his talking thing, as he got older he continued to like to talk but it did slow down. Just wait it out. I think its his age, his intelligence and his liking the world and being interested in it.

I once read a book on children who are very bright. It pointed out how they can talk so much they exhaust their mothers. When I read that in this non-fluffy/academic-type book I was actually moved to tears because it said how mothers sometimes go stay in the bathroom in order to get a rest, and I finally felt as if I wasn't the only one.

Don't try to get him to stop. Some day he'll be a teenager, and he may not have much to say (although, if he's like my son, he'll continue to still have more to say than many teenagers do). Go hide in the bathroom for a half hour or so with a book (there will be knocking on the door and asking when you'll be out, but just say "in a little while") (Of course, I mean if there's someone out in the house so he's not alone.)

I do think that attending kindergarten at our local school was one of the best things in the world for my son because he absolutely loved having his wonderful teacher, his friends, the activities, the work, etc. It also gave him the opportunity to know that he was one of many other children and that he belonged and had a world that was his own. It was what such a bright child needed.

I'm not trying to talk you out of putting your little guy into kindergarten at a school, but it would give you time to spend with your little two-year-old fella; and a nice school kindergarten could offer the social benefits of being with a lot of other children. When they come home from kindergarten they're usually kind of exhausted and the talking sometimes slows down a little!

Answer 3

Well.. your "problem" is a bit unique. I have heard of inquisitive kids and that is healthy when they want to learn more and more but just to be talking.. that is a bit unusual.

I have a strong suspicion though that in school, he will be disciplined moreso by the teachers and he will not be allowed to talk up a storm. I think I would wait for a while after he has started school and see what the school effect will be.

Answer 4

My 5 yr old talks a lot to. Even more when he's the only kid around. Does he get a lot of interaction from other kids or is he just around adults? Have you considered public or even private schooling instead of home? That might help.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

My youngest daughter was exactly the same way. This is normal, I think. Each child is different. As for school, you probably won't have a problem with him talking. In the beginning, yes, but he should settle down after awhile. Mine did. She was constantly chattering away with others, the teacher said but after awhile as I said she settled down.

Answer 7

i don't want to tell you that your ideas are better than mine or vise-versa but maybe if he were go to school and interact with children his age he would burn off some steam talking to them. someone his age to talk back and forth with might be good for him. I'm not a big fan of homeschooling but i respect your reasons for choosing that style of learning. does he play with children his age? play groups or daycare? from what you say something just tells me he is longing for someone to talk to with the same interests and imagination. please don't take this as an insult, just thoughtful suggestion.

Answer 8

This is 100% normal! A child who talks alot is a GREAT and WONDERFUL sign! he is outgoing and wants to fill himself with knowledge and at a young age thats wonderful! Irritating I know! lol BUT great!! In school it may be a problem- but they WILL teach him to respect and raise his hand in class. Sounds like you have a very bright outgoing and smart little boy! Try ear plugs? lol

Answer 9

You really do not want him to stop altogether; you want to teach him that sometimes talking is no appropriate. At his age, this is normal behavior, but you still need to get him to understand that everyone needs some quiet time. Start this by playing a game to see if he can remain quiet for one-minute. Reward successes and laugh with him at failures. As he becomes more successful, gradually increase the time of no talking.

Give him scheduled quiet time where he must occupy himself with playing for a set time. I like to do this 15 to 20 minutes before naptime, and eventually you do not have to remind him to take his nap. He will play for a while and take a nap on his own. My nephew slept on the floor amongst his toys as often as he slept in his bed at naptime.

Give him books!!! Teach him to read. Big talkers usually have an easier time learning to read because they have a large vocabulary already. As he sounds out words, he will easily figure out the correct word. Have him sit and tell the baby stories, even if he “reads” the pictures. I love watching kids “read” pictures because the stories take on lives of their very own. =)

Teach him critical thinking skills by “changing your name from mom.” Saying, “I changed my name. I am not Mom any more.” The child asks, “Well, then who are you?” Answer saying, “I do not know, but now I am a stranger and your mom said you cannot talk to strangers.” You told him to quit talking to you, but in such as fashion as it becomes a game of pretend. You also reinforce the stranger rules.

Since he speaks to strangers already, you need to make sure he knows that if anyone ever tries to get him to walk off with them he should pitch a screaming crying fit. Give him permission to throw the types of fits that you do not allow when he is with you at the store. =) Help him understand being secure by getting him to remind you put on your seatbelt when you get in the car. Get him to remind you to lock all of the doors if the car starts moving before you lock them. You may need to prompt him by saying, “I think I forgot to do something. I wonder what I forgot. Do you know?”

I am sure that by now you have done the requisite research for home schooling and know that younger kids have short attention spans. Keep your sit-down lessons short, and mix in a lot of activity time. By the way, the two-year-old may want to participate in some of the lessons; allow him to do so. You do need to schedule a naptime for him so that the older son has your full attention during part of his lessons. Allow participation during counting, alphabet, and some activities. Teach the older child more complex lessons during the younger child’s nap. Learning the sounds of letters and sounding out words definitely need him focused. Once he conquers the sounds, include the younger child with some of the sounds, but do not expect too much. Word games take on a life of their own when you have more than one child to quiz during car rides or while doing chores.


Good luck!

Will D
Enterprise AL
http://www.notagz.com

Answer 10

Have you listened to what he is saying?
Is it intelligble? Does he make sense?
Maybe this is the time for a doctor & his diagnosis, but I am not sure I would home school this kid..maybe other kids will help him break this habit!