My ex husband and I had a proper style when it came to intimacy... now I am a boyfriend who is utterly romantic, and I like it, but sometimes I dont feel free to be myself, as I have to keep a certain 'censure' over what I do and what I say... He likes to follow the same steps: romantic words, hugs, kisses, making out, etc. it is great but sometimes I guess that people who are already intimate can skip some of these steps as I dont think you have to be so romantic all the time, but some times you just want to be more... practical! I have started missing the intimacy I have shared with my husband, and our more playful and joyful ways of being together, without the obligation of creating a romantic moment everytime we would touch each other... Should I change to fit my bf style and forget other things I like? Should I talk to him? I am afraid of scandalizing him by asking for different things...or disappointing him... I guess he thinks I am special, and I dont wanna spoil that...
2006-08-23 02:55:44 · 4 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first you need to decide what you want, then talk to him about it. Maybe he thinks you need all the romance, tell him it's not always so necessary, there should be a happy medium.
I'm having a similar problem myself, and we're trying to find a happy medium
2006-08-23 03:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should surprise him. Grab him in the kitchen, something where it doesn't seem all planned out. You have a right to be getting what you want.
2006-08-23 10:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try taking the lead and doing it the way you like it next time. He will probably follow your lead.
2006-08-23 10:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the word of the day is... COMPROMISE! every relationship needs to be give/take. work with each other.
2006-08-23 09:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋