I haven't got a "best friend" that I would want to ask to be the best man at my upcoming wedding. My fiance will have a bridesmaid, and her step father will be walking her down the aisle. I have asked my daughter if my grandson could be the ring bearer. Is it Okay not to have a best man in attendance. Also we have decided that I will be changing my name to hers...politically correct? or not?
2006-08-23 02:52:17 · 11 answers · asked by bigbaddave2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Congratulations!!
Most counties require the signature of two witnesses on the marriage license. That's basically what the "best man" is, legally speaking, your witness. Who will you be asking to sign the license? Can they "stand up" for you? If it were me, I'd ask my daughter. There's no law saying the "best man" needs to be a male, many weddings have men standing up for Brides and vice versa.
Changing your name to hers is certainly progressive! If you want the same last name, you have three options. She takes yours, you take hers or you both choose a new one together. Any one of those three choices is "politically correct". Though the third choice can create some interesting snags at the DMV and Social Security offices...
2006-08-23 06:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kya Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance is having a maid of honor (that's what she'll be if she's the only one) then you should have a best man. These are also people that will be your witness on your marriage license. Perhaps her step dad knows of someone you could ask to stand up for you on this special day. In regards to changing your name to her's.....it's not usual but if that's something YOU want to do, I see no problem with that. Just remember that now you will have the issue of changing all of your legal documents such as driver's license, social security card, etc.
2006-08-23 03:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely acceptable to not have a best man, however you will need someone trustworthy to handle issues that you won't want to be bothered with. The best man usually is the one who pays the officiant, and gives the tips to the caterer, limo drivers, etc., etc., etc., so that the bride and groom don't have to bother with it. The best way I've seen this done is the groom gives the best man a bunch of sealed envelopes with cash on the wedding day, marked to each person they go to. I also suggest that someone have some extra cash for any unexpected expenses that usually turn up. It's just nice to have a "go-to" person for issues like that, that way the vendor's aren't bothering you or your bride on your big day, it doesn't have to be a "best man" at all. As far as changing your name to hers, it's politically correct and legal to do whatever you want, as long as there's no fraud involved. Be prepared to explain it repeatedly though, since it's not common. Congrats and best of luck to you and your bride to be!!
2006-08-23 06:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He in all probability desires to take heed to what you're able to say, in the previous you're saying it in front of an entire wedding ceremony. wedding ceremony speeches are form of problematical to get suited - what you may locate humorous would be offensive to the bride/the groom/the households, and the groom is in all probability only attracted to assisting you get it suited. No, you're no longer breaking some custom.
2016-11-05 10:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need someone to witness for you. What about asking your dad, grandpa, brother, or someone from her family? I'm sure that someone would be happy to witness for you!
As for the name change... I know a guy who did that. He thought everyone would just accept it. But he's been married for years now, and he's still explaining it all the time. The people I know really look down on his choice. Personally, I don't care. But just be ready to explain your decision again, and again and again.
2006-08-23 04:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changing your name is fine.
Deciding not to have a best man is fine, but you will probably need two adults to sign as witnesses-- it's usually the maid of honor and best man who sign, but you can have others do it if you want.
2006-08-24 11:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to have a "best friend" be a best man. this is someone who you are close to and want to stand as a "witness" to your marriage. it can be anyone, brother, father, son, grandpa etc. as far as changing your name to hers, that is definitely not w/ "tradition", but i dont think that there is anything wrong with it. If it's her thing of not wanting to take your name, then you can just both opt to keep your own last names instead of changing yours, espeically if you are questioning it..good luck and congrats
2006-08-23 05:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your county requires witnesses, you don't need a best man.
Otherwise, you need to choose someone, not necessarily a man, to stand up for you.
I will be having a male attendant.
2006-08-23 03:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding. It's perfectly fine not to have a best man if you don't want to.
Changing your name to hers ??? I don't know about that. That's a bit too progressive and if I had my way, I'd make it illegal. Unless her name is REALLY THAT COOL like Ferrari or something. :-)
2006-08-23 02:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ain't Not Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have your daughter (and any other kids you may have) stand up at the alter for you? She might not be your "best friend", but she certainly is a big part of your life.
2006-08-23 03:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋