My very closest male friend and I have recently started sleeping together.............we've never dated, talked about dating, and up until now I've never really considered it. We've known each other for at least 7 years, met and befriended each other's g/f's&b'f's, we have never lied to each other, therefore we know all each others dirty little secrets - which is the best part!! I am afraid if I tell him that I have been wondering lately and he doesn't feel the same way, that he won't treat me like he used too. The kicker is that no one knows what's going on, though we always get asked, even by strangers and family, we always laugh it off and tease each other about how gross the other is................24 years old and I still need advice.........
2006-08-23 02:51:10 · 8 answers · asked by alysinvunderland 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is good that you have a friend that you can tell everything to. The problem is that you 2 have become dependent on each other for things you shouldn't. Neither one of you will be able to find a partner that you would like to spend your life with cause you have each other and it is convent for you and safe. Unless you both feel the same way about each other I suggest that you just stay friends {ONLY} no benefits!
2006-08-23 03:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he hasnt already asked u to be exclusively his, then he, at the moment isnt interested in a relationship. U guys are good friends so he isnt shy about asking, and when a guy HAS to have u, he will do everything in his power to make u his, to avoid the risk of losing u to someone else. This is a sex thing, if u cant handle it, u need to communicate this to him, and stop it right now. How would u feel if he ended it first because he found a girl he "liked". He probably thinks this is the ideal situation, sex with no strings attached, and ur feelings arent the same way. Maybe he needs to see u with another guy to let him realize what he has, but dont do this to urself babe.
2006-08-23 09:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by funkygurll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like friends with benifits.
Eventually I assume you want a bf and if he can only keep you a secret then move on. If he cares enough he will honor the fact that you guy are indeed a couple and come out public.
Otherwise you guys are just USING each other...with no strings.
Maybe some evening whisper in his ear playfully....." I think I am ready for strings...." And see what he says.
Eventually you will need to move on. who wants to be a secret lover. Arn't you worth beiing his gf?
2006-08-23 09:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should tell him. Chances are very good he cares about you as well. I fell in love with my best friend, and he knew me like no one else could have. It was a wonderful experience and even though things did not work out in the end, I still love him and would do it over again if I could. Take a chance, it could be the best thing you've done for yourself, and for him.
2006-08-23 09:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you two are obviously close. Now you're close and naked. You need to have a talk to see what's going on. Ask what he thinks first if you don't want to tip your hand. My guess is if there were zero feelings, it never would have progressed to naked time, but I'm not him, you have to ask. Things have changed for you from how they used to be, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing.
2006-08-23 09:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him, if you're in a no secrets relationship it should stay that way.
Ask him what if any his intentions are and then tell him yours.
Good luck
2006-08-23 09:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time reveals all. You will know in time.
2006-08-23 09:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it some more time
2006-08-23 10:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋