2006-08-23 02:29:56 · 13 answers · asked by HELP!!!!ME!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well i am wondering if right now you should get involved you need to try to stay out of it due to the fact that you do not wanna get hurt you need to try to find help for yourself and for your mom and you need to stay in check with everyone around you talk to people about how you are feeling bout your parents fighting and i think that your mom is brave to stand up to your dad for him useing drugs and you need to try to support your mom but you need to stay away from the fight itself or you or your mom or dad could get hurt and if gets too bad such as violance you need to call 911 and get help and you should try to see how you remember your dad before the drugs and do not let him see you even as a ploy to get you to be on his side over the fight because he will try eveything in his power to turn this into a family battle and you do not need to be used as a player in the game and one other thing you need to pray to god for your own life and you need to love your dad no matter what happens and you need to support him trying to get better ok i am always around if you need to tslk i have been this but it was my mom and my step-dad but my mom left and took me and my son with hera way from the whole situation so above all else talk to someone you trust so that you will not blame yourself ok but get help for yourself and seek help for your mom and any other family member involved
2006-08-23 03:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by skyppolar_green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your mum, tell her how its making you feel, all the fighting is probably upsetting you so express this to her. try not to worry to much if they love each other then they will sort this problem out... Also alot of people use drugs to cover problems they have. so try explaining this to your mum and ask her to sit and talk with your dad. it may take time but things will work out for the best. And remember to stay positive and keep u'r chin up, you need to be strong at a time like this. hope it works out for you and good luck!!!
2006-08-23 09:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to write your dad a letter telling him how you feel about his drug use and how it has affected you. Unfortunately, unless he really wants to, he will not seek help and come clean. If I were your mom, I would ask him to leave and not come back until he has gone into a 12 step program for help. You may want to go with your mom to a program for families dealing with someone on drugs or alcohol to help you deal with him. This should send a message to you, addiction is in your family which means you are at risk if you ever try drugs. So, I suggest you never start, with anything, to be safe. I will pray for you.
2006-08-23 09:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. Let it be between them, as far as not choosing sides. It's not up to you to be completely on your mom's side or completely on your dad's side. You can dislike the things he does and still love him, and he may need your support now more than ever, to feel as though not everyone is against him.
Try talking to a friend or relative, a therapist about it if it's bothering you. That seems like a lot to deal with.
Good luck.
2006-08-23 09:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by meyouokay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really should get outside help. Try speaking to a pastor at your local church or someone in authority. Is there a responsible adult in your community that you can trust? Drugs is a serious problem and need to be resolved.
2006-08-23 09:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by adventuremantraveller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, for once it is a realy difficult situation at your home. you can ask for some rehabilitation centers and tell them about your dad. try to talk with your mum. tell her that you have found a center and she should pay them to cure that bad illnes. try to usefull and help mostly your mum. she needs your help and so does your dad. belive in your self and in your family. thats the only way to get out of that hell. good luck !!!
2006-08-23 09:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to be his friend parent can't always really on there kids with these type of stuff , so don't get stressed out because of it.
Hey it worked for me.
2006-08-23 09:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sex witch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong...4 urself and ur parents sake. It can be rough but if you give in and start acting depressed your parents will know that its their fault and get even wrose. If you have to get a consuler.
2006-08-23 09:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by joker16d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK IF YOU LOVE YOUR DAD THAN YOU SHOULD HELP HIM OUT. RIGHT NOW WITH ALL YOUR FAMILY MAD HE FEELS DOWN AND THAT MAKES HIM WORSE SO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS HELP HIM OUT AND BE AROUND SO HE KNOWS SOMEONE LOVES HIM AND NEEDS HIM. TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FELL ABOUT HIS DRINKING, IT WORKED FOR MY DAD AFTER I TOLD HIM HE DIDN'T DRINK AS MUCH.
2006-08-23 09:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmin M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. This is between you parents.
2006-08-23 10:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋