I need help with a classroom placement problem!!!! Please help!?

Question

A disruptive child goes to daycare with my child and causes problems. He is constantly talking back and throwing temper tatrums and he's 6 years old. He also uses language that I do not want my child using and is always instigating other children to misbehave as well. Last year the school had to switch the child to a different kdg class because of his behavior. I really do not want my child to be in the same class as him but I know it's wrong to ask him to be switched to a different class, but is it wrong to talk to the teacher in the first week of school and let her know that I do not want my child being seated next to the disuptive child. Besides the fact the child has behavior issues, I do not want my child's learning to be affected by his disruptive behavior. Any advice would help.

Answer 1

Do you know for sure that your child will be in the same 1st grade class with this kid? If so, definately talk to the teacher the first week of school. See if you can get your child or that child transferred to a different class. My friend was having this problem with her daughter. A boy in her class was verbally abusing her and pushing her and just making her miserable at school. She went to the principal and requested that the kid be moved out of the classroom. They told her that her daughter could be moved. She told them she was happy with the teacher and didn't want her daugther moved and since the boy was causing the problems he should be moved. Well, they didn't move the boy. So the Mom asked other parents if they had problems with this boy, and many of them had kids experiencing the same problems at school because of this boy. 3 more of them went to the principal, and he finally moved the boy. He realized there really was a problem and it was more logical to move the source of the problem than to expect the kids who were behaving to move. Think about talking to other parents, you probably aren't the only one with concerns regarding this kid. Good Luck.

Answer 2

It is perfectly fine to discuss your concern with the teacher and /or the principal. Chances are they have had to deal with this kind of thing before. A change of class placement is not hard to do this early in the school year if this is your choice. As far as placing your child in a seat away from him, your son will still be exposed to the child unwanted behavior. It may help to some point as far as not being distracted,but you are going to have to rely a lot on the fact of your son knowing what is good behavior and not letting the other boy lead him astray. Talk to your son, he knows him from daycare. It may be that your son is trying to stay away from this boy already. If not,be there for him and reinforce what you expect from him. It would be a good idea to discuss what you would prefer him to do if problems arise at school. Try to relax. Kids sense the tension. This too will pass.

Answer 3

Talk to the teacher and tell her exactly what you just wrote here. You have every right to ask that this child be kept away from you kid. It is bad enough that you child's education is going to be disrupted, along with the entire class, when this problem child gets too far out of hand (which is almost a given), but he should not have to be subjected to it on a continual basis by being forced to sit next to him

Answer 4

You have the right to talk to the teacher about any concern that affect your child. Maybe even get some of the other mothers to also speak up and the school will be motivated to deal with this child's parents. Obviously this child has some problems and needs help but he won't get it if nobody recognizes it. Sometimes that recognition starts with a complaint.

Answer 5

We had this same situation with a student in my kindergarten class the first year I taught at the school. Do not wait until he is already in school. Tell the principle that you would prefer that you child not be in the same class as this other child. Remember, the principle and the teachers are always in favor of the best intrest of the student and their education. Good luck and best wishes on a successful school year.

Answer 6

Why don't you move your child to another class? That way the parents won't have to find out about it and give the teacher a hard time. My sister had the same problem with a child who constantly hit and bit other children. My sister would get so angry and complain to the teacher everyday and nothing was done. Finally, she moved my nephew to another class and it has worked out beautifully.

Answer 7

As a preschool, I have had my fair share of disruptive kids. They command all the attention in the class and it really takes away from the other children's learning experience. You want the best for your child so let the administration know of your concerns and DEMAND a solution. Good luck.

Answer 8

Sure... the disruptive child needs to be sitting at the front of the class... front and center... so it is easier for the teacher to keep him in check. It is a common mistake to put the "bad" kids at the back of the class... thus allowing their negative behavior to go unchecked so they disrupt more students... and basically spread their disruptiveness and create more disruptive kids.

Answer 9

Try to change ur child's class.

Are there other parents also who have the same problem?

Try to talk to the problem child's parents. I didnt mean u must shout at them... but let them know that others are having problem with their child.

afterall, who are the best people to change a child than his parents?

Answer 10

I would mention it to the teacher and also to the school's principal~ or counceler...I had to do the same thing..and the teacher worked WITH me to keep this from happening!~ Keep an open communication at all times..BUT remember the teacher IS only ONE person..