and she started first grade today. i felt like crying b/c she is getting so big and i'm scared that them kids will not treat her right. she's a good, nice, beautiful girl who is shy. i hope that her first day will go ok. but the question is will i always feel like crying every year she starts school again. she is my only child my baby and i want her to have the best of everything including friends and lots of them.
2006-08-23 02:20:25 · 18 answers · asked by lover143 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
how do you deal with the emotions of sending them to school. i feel sad for her and just want to cry. it's like it's my first day of school all over again.
2006-08-23 02:27:03 · update #1
OHHHH boyyy!! I know EXACTLY how you feel!!My son is 5 almost 6,he went to his first day of kindergarten yesterday!! I wish I could have went with him!!He didn't go to pre school or day care so he's completely new to this situation!!I have come to realize that kids will find their way,my son was put in the corner yesterday for not paying attention,which I can't undersand how a teacher can be so mean on the poor kid considering it was his very first day of school,EVER!!He is shy too,he still said he liked school(I thought he would want to bail by now!!)and he said all nice things about his teacher,WOW!!!(I was ready to go to the school and smack a teacher! I KNOOOW.....,it sounded good though!!)She will be fine,the teachers helped my son find his way arround and sat him by other boys so he could make friends easier,teachers know how to help kids along at school,it's so hard but you just have to let them grow and be their own little person.I did cry when he left yesterday,my other 2 kids started school yesterday too,it's hard every year to see them all growing up.You will get more used to it later on,and it won't hurt as bad,my 11 year old started middle school and I was terrified that he wasn't going to be able to handle it,but he is and he really likes it.I would ask your daughter every day if she likes 1st grade, and ask how many other kids she is talking to, or if anyone talked to her, and see if she says she has a new friend yet.Don't get discouraged if she has a few bad days,kids get into squabbles sometimes but after a day or so forget about it,and go on being friends.I think of it this way,when my kids get mad at their friends or their friends get mad at my kids,I know it's because my kids have an opinion and are getting smarter,and they are figuring out for themselves,how a friendship works.Keep her interested in making new friends and encourage her to talk to other kids,that's the only way you can really help her have a good school year.Having sleep overs on the weekends and inviting kids from school to the park,are 2 ways of helping her make some friends too.Don't push too hard though.She should make friends on her own just fine,kids have been doing it for centuries.I hope this helped you!!
2006-08-23 02:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by ~Misty.babydoll~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the sweetest story, I went through the same type of situation myself. It's hard to be a parent. I had to take my child to daycare, she was 2 yrs. I would cry too.I understand how it worries you about her. but if you trust her as she is a good child, I'm sure she will love school. I believe it is harder on us. In time you will adjust to her going every morning and later one day you'll look back and she will be all grown up. It goes by in the blink of an eye. My daughter is a woman now with her own child. so enjoy every second of it and cry all you need to , I think it is natural
Bless you and your family
2006-08-23 09:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beginning of every school year is nerve racking for parents. We want our children to be safe but at the same time we know that we have to let go a little so that they may experience life on their own. Whether life is first grade or college. I am sure that you daughter will do fine her first day of school. She will have a lot of stories to tell you when she gets home. Listen to them and remember them so that when she does start college you can tell her how she did her first day of first grade. Good Luck
2006-08-23 09:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by tinar92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting school is one of the earliest and most challenging goodbyes between a child and parent. That is a normal feeling. Ask to sit in on classroom sessions to observe not only what the children are learning but whether they seem to enjoy learning. Gradually you'll begin to feel better about entrusting your child to the care of others. And once you believe school is going to be an exciting experience, there's a good chance you and your child will feel the same way.
2006-08-23 09:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by Miss M ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids usually cry on the first day of school, but they will stop when they older. Your daughter is this way because this is her first time away from you. When she gets older, this problem will go away.
Your daughter is very lucky to have a mother like you. You want your daughter to have to best of everything and it concerns you that she is not happy. Although she is not happy now, but she will get over it. All you need to do is to give her more support and guidance. Then she will get over it very fast.
2006-08-23 09:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be 16 after 10 years
2006-08-23 09:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by foniboki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I have one child and he started first grade last week. I worry each day at work about him. I worry that he isn't having a good time, that he isn't making any friends, that he isn't eating his lunch, etc. I worry too much, like you. It's hard when you want to do anything and everything to protect your kids, but ultimately you can't. Just be sure to ask her each and everyday about her day. Make sure she knows you care. Good luck and it will get easier. (I hope)
2006-08-23 09:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Fool in the Rain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well every thing has a start... I don't have kids but i would feel just like you if i had one...I hope for your daughter for the best and good luck on her first day.
2006-08-23 09:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get scared and think negatively. I am sure everything is all right. It's just your concern for her that made you think like this. I know as a parent you would like your child to have everything which is the BEST for him/her but at the same time being too secure is also not good.
2006-08-23 09:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably worried much more than she is. Relax a little- she may start picking up on your fears. Every parent wants the best for their children. Give them a good sense of self-esteem and worthiness and they can deal with anything.
2006-08-23 09:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋