I met him in may and fell head over heels in love..... we only spent a week together.... best week ever!!! we kept in touch over the phone, emails etc for the last few months.... we talk about everything... anyway I went to go see him for 2 weeks got bk yesterday... on friday he proposed to me.... I s aid yes!!!!!!! I want him in my life without a doubt and love him so much but I cant help but be scared.... were thinking about getting married in december (military reasons) I want to marry him but am nervous... should i be this scared?is it normal..
2006-08-23 02:17:49 · 22 answers · asked by shit_happens_partyin_naked 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your body is unable to differentiate between fear and excitement.... My guess is that you are both crazy ecstatic and nervous as hell!!! \who wouldnt be... you are in love...congratulations!!!!!!
2006-08-24 02:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal to be scared. I've been with my fiance for 5 years and I'm scared Sh*tless too! lol Marriage is a big step and, in this day and age, a huge risk. But here's the bottom line- you love this man? You can't imagine your life without him?? There's your answer. Whatever is going to happen will happen. While some people will tell you you're crazy, some people will tell you you're romantic and others will be totally jealous, you have to trust your heart, and sometimes that means going against conventionality. (My parents dated for 4 months, got engaged, and married 3 months later....and here they are 27 years later, just as in love as when they first married) Fairy tales can still come true- Enjoy your newfound happiness, best of luck and Congratulations!!!
2006-08-23 02:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by melody71081 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations !!! I say that you should wait a little bit more before marrying the guy... what about on your one year anniversary in May 07? Don;t make any sudden decisions that you may regret later.
Do you have an engagement ring? If so, then you should set a date sometime next year, but if you have no ring and want to marry this guy after only 2 weeks of physical bonding I would be concerned as well.
Good luck
2006-08-23 02:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is normal to be scared, but i think (sorry) you may have reason. you don't know what they are really like, sometimes when you live together it is different and sometimes when you spend more time together it is different, although some people have hardly met and gotten married and been forever happy. but if you are seriously that scared i would think about delaying it a bit. are you going to be together more now that you are engaged? those are a few things i would be thinking personally. good luck and i hope it works out for the best.
2006-08-23 17:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by thedreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Dont be scared...everything is going to be okay! Being nervous is normal. Just be sure that your ready for the whole marriage thing...not just the idea of it. Beware on rushing things...I have a few friends in the military and they all got married just for the extra money the goverment pays to married military men....make sure your doing it for the right reasons! Good luck! PEACE!
2006-08-23 02:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by sublime7912003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal, you only met in May. Love can happen fast, but it takes a while to really know someone and marriage is a big commitment. You've only spent three weeks actually with each other. If December feels too soon, postpone the marriage. Nothing wrong with a long engagement.
2006-08-23 02:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not have a longer engagement? Live together first for say, a year, and then review the decision to get married. Marrying into the military, or being in the military and getting married, needs plenty more thought and consideration into the future if one of you gets deployed etc. Anyway I understand how you feel being in love and wish you all the best!
2006-08-23 02:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by favershambles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very normal to be scared. Marriage is a big step that sometimes changes relationships for the worse. You have only known him since May. You don't really know him that well yet. I dated my husband for about 6 months before we married. I didn't know him at all. His personality and actions are nothing like they were when we dated. I didn't give myself time to know the real person. I made a big mistake. However, some people meet, marry, and everthing is great. I don't want to discourage you because only you can decide what you want to do. Good luck and no matter what you decide I hope you are very happy.
2006-08-23 02:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by Midnight Blue 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont be scared. i meet my finace over the comp and we talked for over a year,when he come home from R&R (he is in iraq) in may we spent 2 weeks together and they were the best two weeks of my life. we are getting married in oct 07. follow your heart no one said there has to be a time limit on how long you have to date someone before you relalize you love them.
my man comes home in 2.5 months yeaaaaaaaaa
2006-08-23 04:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Course its normal, your making a commitment to someone you love for life, its not like popping to the shop for a loaf of bread, its a big thing in any man or woman's life and your bound to be nervous, if you love him like you do and do want to be with him for life then chill out a bit, it does get easier, good luck.
2006-08-23 13:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my man 8 months ago. We are discussing marriage. He has yet to propose. I am scared, but it is a great scared. I know I will say yes. He knows I will say yes. But we are both very happy and both very scared. Best of luck to both of you.
2006-08-24 00:05:07 · answer #11 · answered by DragonRyda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋