they say were the ones who nag but its not true you men are just as bad if not worse
2006-08-23 02:14:49 · 32 answers · asked by bigboobs1@btinternet.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes the day when women stop talking
2006-08-23 02:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Spike 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is Nagging?
Have you ever thought about what nagging is? Here are some related terms for nagging:faultfinding, continually complaining, criticism, catty, carping, coaxing, cynical, demanding, dunning, hairsplitting, insistent, nit-picking, overcritical, peevish, persistent, pestering, pettish, pressing, quibble, recurring, relentless, shrewish, slam, swipe, unrelenting, urging, and wheedling.
The Vicious Cycle of Nagging
Nagging can become a vicious cycle. The more you nag, the more your mate avoids you or withdraws both emotionally and physically from you, so the more you nag.
Is this really how you want to live?
Why Nagging Doesn't Work
Even though your gripes may be valid, nagging makes your spouse resentful.
Nagging makes your spouse defensive.
Nagging puts you in the parent role, and your spouse in the child role. This isn't healthy for your marriage relationship.
Nagging is disrespectful.
Nagging is often perceived as criticism, so your spouse may tune out making what you are saying ineffective.
When your spouse is being nagged, he/she probably feels attacked personally.
Nagging can make your spouse feel inadequate.
Ways to Avoid Being a Nag
Don't blame.
Don't demean.
Don't attack.
Don't criticize.
Avoid making your spouse feel stupid.
Don't give in to your frustration and do your spouse's chores. Your mate needs to learn to deal with the logical consequences of being messy.
Instead of Nagging, Try Positive Approaches
Share your feelings.
Stick to the issue at hand.
Keep your statements brief so they don't turn into long lectures.
Don't make ultimatums.
Avoid using the phrases, "You always..." and "You never..."
Consider saying "would you" or "will you" rather than "could you" or "can you". There's a subtle difference in the way the request will be heard by your spouse.
Set a good example in picking up after yourself, putting your clothes away or in the hamper, leaving the bathroom is good shape after your shower or bath, eating healthy foods, exercising, etc.
Try to brainstorm solutions with your spouse.
Acknowledge your different perspectives regarding chores and housekeeping expectations.
Show your appreciation when your spouse does put dishes in the dishwasher, or picks up a towel, turns off the television to take a walk with you, or when dirty clothes end up in the hamper.
See what happens if you stop nagging.
If you are the One Being Nagged
Accept your responsibility in helping to create a home environment that has triggered a nagging response in your spouse.
Honestly evaluate your attitude about chores, picking up after yourself, annoying habits, and more.
Ask yourself if you have a pattern of avoidance when it comes to chores or other issues.
If you ignore your mate's requests or refuse to even acknowledge that you heard what your spouse has said to you, stop this behavior. Really try to listen and to respond to your spouse. It is okay to say no. At least your spouse will know you heard what was said.
2006-08-23 02:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh puleeze. women are such hypocrites. i just had a discussion with my wife the other day: why do women lie whenever it's convenient for them, but demand superhuman honesty from their mates? the example i used was that a woman will lie without hesitation to try to see if the man is lying.
imho, no matter how much a man nags it will be "too much" to a woman, but a woman feels it is her duty to nag to improve her man.
another exercise: whatever you nag your man about, if he stopped or changed, what would you nag about next? and next after that? and next after that? nagging is a woman's natural condition and they won't stop until the man is comatose in bed between shifts at work.
2006-08-23 02:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL well if we nagged as much as you girls do, then we would have periods and metapause. The difference between men nagging and women nagging is that men know when to stop. Women dont.
2006-08-23 02:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men rarly nag, we are happy and content with getting on with life without hassle or causing trouble, women are the ones who normally nag and cause trouble and seem to enjoy preventing a happy life for everyone else.
After living with my mum and sister and then a girl friend, I am farly well versed in this one.
2006-08-25 00:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it more important to ask why the man is nagging you? Not everyone nags... me... I just ***** and joke around and then throw my hands up in the air and scream when stupid people irritate me... or when people say I nag them. Ha... you want to see nagging... I'll show you some nagging... I will put any woman to shame... Yea, baby... yea...
2006-08-23 02:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't nag....I don't have time what with all the football I play and sex I have...I can't think of anything to nag about to be honest
2006-08-23 02:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, they nag all the time, I have one nagging here right beside me!
2006-08-23 02:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by dekrgsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no y should he?? its like women nag and men nag right back so men don't need to stop nagging as long as women don't stop it too.. a nag for a nag.. haha!!!
2006-08-23 02:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one really nags they just want attention
2006-08-25 00:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man only gets to nag in the short space when the woman pauses for breath.
2006-08-23 02:17:57 · answer #11 · answered by Spadesboffin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋