I have, or had, a crush on a guy who I found out is gay, but I decided to become friends with him anyway because i still think he is a great guy.. but I feel like I am flirting whenever I talk to him, and I don't mean to..I don't want him to think I still like him in that way even though I know I probably always will..is there a way I can make this less obvious? and If I invite him to go somewhere with me will he think i am still flirting,because I REALLY don't mean to.. I just want to be able to hang out with him like I do with my other friends, but I am scared that I already freaked him out because he found out I like, or liked him, and that there is no hope of a real friendship..
2006-08-23 02:06:17 · 7 answers · asked by confusedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well talk to him and tell him you use to like him and now that you gottrn to know him and everything you would like to nbe friends even tho you cant date tell him you would really enjoy just being friends with him...p.s gay guys normally understand thos sorts of things
2006-08-23 02:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by cutiestnowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with this guy, but you need to keep any romantic feelings in check, since that's not going anywhere. He won't think you're coming on to him if you just suggest friendly activities. If he's gay, you need to let him know you're open-minded and accepting. Lots of gay guys have best girl friends to hang out with.
Just be sure you're not trying to keep close to him out of hopes for a romantic relationship. Lots of girls develop crushes on 'unattainable guys' for various reasons. As long as all you want is friendship (and be honest about this!) go for it!
2006-08-23 09:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that there is hope for a real friendship, a way to make him realize the crush is over is to start going out on dates with ohter guys and ask him about his love life and start checking out guys together. Let him know that your cool with his sexuality, hey you both have aleast one thing in common now (boyz)
2006-08-23 09:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk to him and say that u like him as a perfect guy to be friends with and that crush is now past...so ask him wether he is comfortable with it and make it very clear to him that you are'nt flirting..but on the other hand make sure that you dont get emotional and do things that interfere with your friendship...
2006-08-23 09:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by soniesaloni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres definitaly hope for you guys yet. if you wanna try to not flirt just talk about some guy you think is cute or something like that
2006-08-23 09:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by gingersnappz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him...let him know that you did like him but know you just want to be friends with him. He'll understand
2006-08-23 09:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by ryan d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him.
2006-08-23 09:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by golden oldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋