Heres the situation;
My 8 yr. old daughter (Brook, for refrence) has cried begged and pleaded for me to put her in cheerleading. Since she could walk and talk she has wandered about claping and cheering. She watches competitions on tv, cheers in line at the grocery store (and every where else). Any way, It was difficult, but I pulled some strings, and got her one of the last spots on the local football clubs freshman squad. I had to make special arrangements at work to accomidate practice schedule, had to get her a last minute phyiscal and pay for it, I had to sell 100 raffle tickets (bought @ least 25 my self). K, I am not complaning. I would do it all over again. that is what parents do. well, at her first practice she cried and sai she did not like it. Made a scene at the field. Her dad showed up and she beeged him to take her home. I told her she had to go though with it. MORE TO COME
2006-08-23 02:05:05 · 16 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
so she was fine with that. we went to the next practice, and she did well, except she won't let me out of her site. (I am the only parent there, besides the coaches.) If she doesen' t like what the coaches tell her she pouts and rolls her eyes. If she does know a cheer she just doesn't try. She won't really mingle with the rest of the girls but i know she wants too. when some of the girls talk to her she is rude to them. ( these are the less pretty chunky girls) I tell her her attitude is wrong. i try to stay out of it at practice, but the coaches just let her behaive that way. so yesterday she was not cooperative, didn't want to run her lap, would cheer right (on purpose, when she trys even a little she is really good, Loud strong voice, good movements etc.) then she got a smart mouth with me. So I made her run laps after practice and told her she would do it every day she acted that way. When we got home she was fine. Cheering in the living room, ready for the nect day. Am i wrong?
2006-08-23 02:12:39 · update #1
The football club is for children fom elementry - middle school. It consists of a freshman , JV, and varsity team/squad
2006-08-23 02:21:21 · update #2
You did the right thing. It is important that children learn to follow through otherwise they will go on quiting everything that does not go the way they want. This must start from an early age or you will be looking at retirement with the kids living at home unemployed asking for money whenever they want to go out. This also will carry over into relationships, instead of learning how to negotiate or except differences they will just turn away quit. Good luck mom.
2006-08-23 02:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by tman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, first off....if she ever decides she really wants to quit and you think she is serious, do NOT tell her she HAS to do it. If she does it in the middle of a season, tell her that she must finish the season because she must finish what she starts. But, I disagree with the first person who commented....you shouldnt make her do it for years.
Also, I am a cheerleader. Been cheering since I was 6 years old and I absolutely love the sport. Its one of the best sports out there!! I also coached cheer (8/9 year olds, actually!!) for several years. Make sure you're daughter understands that she is not the only person on the team and she needs to understand that in joining the team she has a made a committment to them to always give her best and respect the other people on the team.
Don't make your child run after practice. That is a little odd and totally stage mom! You should discipline her at home or something if you want, but don't make her run after practice. That has got to be a bit embarassing for her to be punished by you in the way a coach would punish one of the members of their team.
Also, tell the coaches you don't mind them taking a little discipline to her. When I coached, we were constantly scared of certain mothers who felt if we tried to teach their daughter any kind of discipline, we were overstepping our boundaries. There were some parents who were definitely cool about us making sure there daughters behaved during practice, and let me tell you that those kids were the ones who improved the most, their attitude and skills included.
2006-08-25 09:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by rachael b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being pushy, you are teaching your daughter a good life lesson. If you want some ideas, you could tell her that if she wants to cheer then she needs to stick with it and if she can't fix her attitude then you won't take her to practice. Tell her rudeness is not tolerable, and coaches are to be respected. A lot of coaches don't know how to deal with this type of behavior, and are worried about stepping on parent's feet while they are there. It would help if you talked to the coach(es) and told them that you would back them up if they choose to sit your child out or make her run additional laps for bad behavior. Tell her to either stick it out now, or she's done with cheer forever. You can also show her you're serious by taking her home from practice if she misbehaves and telling her she can't come back and then not allowing her to come back until she changes her attitude. You could also try having her sign a contract saying that she'll behave better or she won't be able to go, or some other punishment.
Good Luck!
2006-08-23 18:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Trick B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I have always taught my son- once u start something- YOU WILL FINISH IT! He joined track 2 years ago and totally hated all the practicing especially in the cold and snow! BUT I told him- you wanted this soooooo badly now you WILL finish the rest of the year out. You dont have to do it next year- but you cannot let the team down! It does sound like she has a bad attitude towards not so pretty people BUT alot of that is tv and society! My god- tv alone makes a girl think she has to weigh 80 lbs and look gorgeous ALL the time and if u dont- well- get lost loser! Talk with her and find a way to show her how it feels and how it hurts the other girls when she treats them poorly! Make her run the laps- i agree! I think your doing a great job at being a mom! Just because u pulled some strings to get her in does NOT make u pushy! It was something she wanted to do! I think she just didnt realize cheerleading is not always fun! I was a cheerleader for 4 years in highschool and its alot of hard work that alot of people dont see! She was thinking its all fun and now finding out its not all fun! Its a wonderful lesson for her! Make her finish out the year! Your doin great mom!
2006-08-23 03:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your not a pushy parent. It is not uncommon for kids to not like something or someone one minute and then like it shortly after. Stick it out. Find out what about it she didn't like. It may not be cheerleading she has a problem wit. It may be some one or that it's a bit scary doing it with people she doesn't know. She'll make new friends and I bet she'll love it again. By the way, I'm proud of you. It isn't easy making a little girls dream come true and you have done everything you could. Now it's her turn.
2006-08-23 02:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Karen B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confused - your 8 year old daughter is cheering with a freshman in high school squad?
It sounds to me like she is too used to getting what she wants. Momma fought to get her on this squad because she wanted it, even though she wasn't old enough. Now she got on the squad bu wants to do things her way and doesn't like being told what to do so she's throwing an attitude in order to try to get her way again.
If this really is a high school squad, then she's just flat out too young! She isn't ready to follow directions and do what she is told the way a 14 year old would be!
2006-08-23 02:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What didn't she like?! The practice itself?! Did she think she'd walk out there and be like those cheerleaders on the competition tv shows?! That kind of dedication takes YEARS!!!
Was it the coaches telling her what to do?!
I was a cheerleader all the way through college ~ and after an injury sidelined me for good...It was alot of practice and giving up free time...She's 8 yrs old and she needs to start learning that trying something means you try with your whole heart...and if you love something with the kind of passion she SEEMED to have for this sport...then you should tell her to stick with it and NOT to quit!!
2006-08-23 02:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she was my daughter I would yank her so fast her head would spin. The coach should expell her for her attitude. She just wants to do everything her own way. She is spoiling it for the rest of the group and they will hate her before long. And speaking as a mother who raised two children and as an aunt of a child who behaved that way, she needs a good spanking for that behavior.
2006-08-23 02:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by blondee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It;s only fair that after all the effort you put into what she wanted, you would like for her to at least finish the day, now, kids are just kids, most of the time they don't know what they want. talk to her, to see what is making her uncomfortable to say she did not like it, and teach her that life is not all roses, maybe it didn't turn out to be what she wanted, but she needs to learn to make up her mind and commit to whatever it is she starts
2006-08-23 02:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Def sounds like shes used to getting what she wants...You need to break her of that. And shes acting snotty to people who arent as pretty/skinny as her? Youre not a pushy parent...thats your problem. Shes becoming spoiled...and she knows it. You did everything you could to get her on that squad.
But kudo's to you for making her run laps after practice...teach her thats no way to act...esp when it comes to something she wanted so badly!!!
2006-08-24 04:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by inevitable2277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋