Is it ever rude for a woman to not pay for her husband's meal?
2006-08-23 01:39:47 · 23 answers · asked by ladetina2cute4u 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
NO. My wife pays for things all the time. Although I do give her money even though she works. Familys, SHARE EVERYTHING.
2006-08-23 01:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Gaur 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm married.. and the person who pays is the person who thought it would be a good idea to go out. It's a marriage, it's 50/50. ... there are mitigating circumstances though.. if the wife is a stay at home mom who doesn't have a job.. then she should never be expected to pay for a meal..
But in my house, where we both make money, If I suggest going out to eat.. then I pay.. if he does.. then he pays.
2006-08-23 02:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You must be one of those cheap men. Why suggest going out, if you can't afford it? The woman will know you can't anyway.
That has never made sense to me. I had a boyfriend who used to ask to take me out to dinner, and then after the meal, then he wants to go dutch. What a cheapo! Why even ask me out? Why not say you can't afford to take me out now? I'd understand that. Later, he would expect me to pay the tip, if he paid for dinner. That's still so cheap. It's bad enough that some women don't even make as much as men, but our income goes towards children, work, and running a house. Guys can't even feed us?
It's really rude for a real man, not to pay everytime.
2006-08-23 01:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by classyjazzcreations 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be rude to suggest to a wife that she should pay. After all, isn't the money all coming for the same account? Historically, decorum says that a husband would pay for his wife every time they go out. If you are married now, that going dutch stuff went right out the door when you said, "I do!"
2006-08-23 01:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better if the paying goes equally. For example, the husband could pay dinner and the nxt time, the wife. It's not necessarily that the husband has 2 pay unless he wants 2 and doesn't mind doing it.
2006-08-23 02:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by ginie_in_a_bottle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every situation is different in today's society. Normally, married couples have a pre-agreed upon plan when it comes to finances. However, if a man or women pays their portion of the check only, when it isn't the norm, then it would appear that person is being deliberately rude to the other.
The person who picks up the check, should pick it up for both people in the party, in this case!
2006-08-23 02:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by briang731/ bvincent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no going Dutch in a marriage...lol You are married so its community money.Now with that being said, my hubby and i have seperate accounts. My husband pays sometimes and i pay sometimes. I don't think I have ever thought, He owes me one. Now if you are constantly running into having to pay for your own meal i would just tell me husband he is going to be eating alone pretty soon.
2006-08-23 01:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you stand on join/seperate accounts. But at the end of the day, isn't it the same money? I think it's funny that men and women get hung up on this. For example, my husband and I have a joint account, and then we each have our seperate accoutns. But when we go out to eat he'll always insist on paying, even thought he's paying from our "joint" account. I could understand if he pulled out his own debit card. On the other hand. When I take him out for special occasions, I will pa with money out of my account. It just depends what kind of guy you have. Sometimes, they just enjoy being "they man" and paying (even if it is your money he's paying with)
2006-08-23 04:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Evelyn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very rude for a husband to make his wife pay her own way all the time and sometimes a woman should pay, it's only right.
2006-08-23 01:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A husband should pay for his wife's meal, out of THEIR account.
2006-08-23 03:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't nearly all married couple share their possessions (including money)? In that case, what does it matter who pays for it? No matter which one picks up their wallet, they're both paying for it (assuming that both have an income).
As for couples who don't share their money, I'd say it's fair that they take turns paying. I'd think it was selfish and kind of rude to never pay for the meal, no matter which one of them does it.
2006-08-23 02:00:52 · answer #11 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋