We need something kind, short and sweet, expressing our regrets to the bride. I am at a loss as to what to say.
2006-08-23 01:27:13 · 26 answers · asked by cheyenne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How about
Dear bride,
I would like to express my deepest wishes for you on your wedding day, and would like to also express how deeply sorry that I can't put aside my differences with a certain someone who will be at your wedding for one day ,,,long enough for us to be able to show our love and support on YOUR SPECIAL day. And i am sorry that I can't be mature enough to do this for you, because my PETTY LITTLE FU@KING SQUABBLE IS WAY MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR FIRST STEP INTO HOPEFULL WEDDED BLISS.
Sincerly,
Big dofus who can't put aside her own feelings for one day to make you happy!
2006-08-23 01:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
With weddings costing so much now, to get an invite must mean that the bride considers you an important part of her family and wants you to witness a very special day and to be a part of it. I guess it depends if you feel a scene may be created by you attending by the other members of the family. Could you not attend the church service and maybe disappear early from the reception, at least she will know you went, and youdon't have to stay long. If not I think being economical with the truth is best, that your presence may cause unnecessary tension on what is after all her special day, you wish her all the best and are really looking forward to a visit from her and her new husband/seeing the video and/or photos of the what you are sure will be a lovely event. I hope you can resolve your differences prior to the wedding.
2006-08-23 01:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Breeze 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please do not use any excuse to miss this event. First off it may cause more family tension and can later be used against you. This day is for support of those getting married. How many family events are joyous celebrations like this? If the situation does show signs of tension than walk away and talk to someone else! Who knows maybe this will be the perfect time to end the family tension. I can remember several people at my wedding six months ago who didn't show and it made me sad that they couldn't enjoy this event in my life with them. Especialy since not all friends and family could be invited. Those who did come and expressed regrets about no gift I smiled and told them all the same thing, " The greatest gift you could have given me was being here!"
2006-08-23 01:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mark S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is one thing that is being forgotten. At this moment the bride is not worried about family tension or anything else but herself and as she should. If you feel you can't not attend just simply send the response card back stating that. This way they have actual numbers to be able to give to the caterer and anyone else who needs to know how many guests will be in attendance. If after the wedding she wants to know why you were not there she will contact you and you can tell her in person.
2006-08-23 04:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear such and such,
Due to a conflicting schedule, I'll be unable to attend your wedding, may God bless you with happiness and joy in your new life as a married couple.
Best wishes,
Grudge Holder
Ps/ This is not all about you, you know! Well, less people to feed, you'll be saving the bride some money in the reception and I'm sure that the family will be relieved that you are not going to ruin the wedding with your sour face/attentiongetter/is all about me attitude.
Grow up!
2006-08-23 03:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend the wedding and skip the reception. Arrive only a few minutes before the ceremony....enough time to sign the book that will say you were there and be seated. Leave promptly after the ceremony. You don't have to socialize with the family members you are in a squabble with. If it is in a church......nobody is going to pick an argument in the church.........wait I live in the south, what am I saying??? LOL
Anyway you will be there to see them get married, the reception is just a party. Be there for the important stuff.
2006-08-23 03:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by jescl32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad that you feel that way. She was kind enough to put the issues aside and invite you, now you want to lie to her because you can't do the same? It's just for one occasion and a very special occasion at that - it's not as if you have to see and speak with whoever the family members are, everyday for the rest of your life?? Do you think in 10 years time you will regret not going?
2006-08-23 01:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by ang_172 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try telling the truth, softly. Let them know that while you are happy for their union in marriage, but because there is a particular tension in the family, you feel it would be best not to attend so that peace and not tension would fill their special day. Then congratulate the couple.
Hope this helps you figure out something.
2006-08-23 01:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dog Mama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear so and so:
We're so sorry we can't make it to your wedding. Congratulations on your marriage, and we wish you all the best.
--seriously, excuses aren't needed on the RSVP. If she really wants to know why, she can call you about it. But then she's being rude, and you can be rude back.
2006-08-23 04:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth with an invitation to get together when they get back from their honeymoon. But send a gift ahead of time.. Etiquettely Correct
2006-08-23 01:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by marie1257 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would go anyway regardless of whoever didn't like it. I would want to show the bride and groom some love and support and show whoever had a problem with me that they don't run or affect my life.
2006-08-23 03:49:02 · answer #11 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋