2006-08-23 01:23:55 · 15 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My sister was in this very situation, her "then husband" use to push her around, hit her and verbally and emotionally abuse her, and yet, she couldn't leave him. The problem was, in as much as she didn't want him to treat her that way, for her, she would choose staying with him, rather than being alone. Much of that stemmed from her own insecurities and fears, and the fact that the relationship, although abusive, was emotionally familiar and she was not "alone!" The word "alone" was extrememly fearful to her, she would rather have subjected herself to being treated inhumanely than to face herself by herself.
Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, consideration and compassion and, if the person in your life who is suppose to love you and be the person that treats you the best from all the people in the world, isn't, then it's time to get out of that relationship. Inevitable, and statistically, the abuse will only get worse with time. People who mistreat the people that they are suppose to "love" have a bag full of problems of their own, and they make their partner suffer as a result. Don't let them make their problem yours, don't allow them to treat you badly, you deserve better than that, and unless you start demanding that people treat you with respect, compassion and kindness, they won't. We teach people how to treat us, so you need to start putting up some boundaries and demanding that everyone start treating you better. Get out of the relationship if your partner cannot be the person in your life that they are suppose to be, there are so many people in this world that would treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Raise the bar for the qualities of the person whom you accept into your life as a boyfriend/girlfriend.
2006-08-23 01:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by zoegiri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the poster child for bad relationships. I just broke up with my b/f a couple of weeks ago. He criticized me about small things and was verbally disrespectful. Every time I broke it off he would always work his way back in. This last and hopefully final time he broke up with me which is good cause I dont have to worry about him calling trying to get back together. He still wants to have sex though which would be a big mistake to do. All you have to do is act like them and they will definately break up with you cause they dont want to be treated the way they treat you. Yeah I know its hard but you have to start looking out for yourself because obviously she isnt. One thing to always remember, never do something for someone that they wouldnt do for you. Would you die for someone who wouldnt die for you? You shouldnt respect anyone who doesnt respect you, thats just silly. That person shouldnt even be in your life if they cant do that! Until there is a resolution and willigness to change, let it go, do bad by yourself...easier said than done but its a must. If not today then when, tomorrow? nip it in the bud as soon as possible!
2006-08-23 01:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by michelle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really it comes down to does the pain of the mistreated feel worse then how you will feel when you're lonely and have no one.
Have to treat relationships like jobs don't throw one away till another comes around unless of course it gets really bad then you have to leave and at least at those times you will be very happy all alone because your live will be far more relaxed and stress free without them
2006-08-23 01:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Gary Bucht 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sure!I couldnt leave him and that sucked.Eventually I got tired of been treated like im not worth anything and showed him that I can do without him.
2006-08-23 01:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. I didn't think I could leave my kid's dad. But eventually I did. It was almost too late. I was lucky.Those kind of relationships aren't healthy for anyone. If yours isn't treating you the way they should, please do yourself a favor - find the door or the phone. There is help.
2006-08-23 01:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Karen B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, their esteem has been broken so far down that they don't think they deserve any better. I tried and tried to show her that she meant everything to me and that I would never treat her other than a queen........it didn't work. Treat her like ****. She may not respond to that either, but if she doesn't respond to u treating her good, then it'll end anyway.
2006-08-23 01:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by woodersondylan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When smb treats you bad and you still stay with them, it's not a matter of love anymore. It's a matter of low self-esteem.
Don't be weak and respect yourself.
2006-08-23 01:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about sex. What is there in a relationship if there is no trust or respect for one another? You can't go back to him or her if there is nothing there, unless you be getting some like every night or so. It's all about sex.
2006-08-23 01:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by toy_00song 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! but, it all dendeds on the badly. If it is physical I would just leave.
2006-08-23 01:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hell yes. but it worked out. treat them the same way they treat you. they relize then that it hurts and maybe you guys will be able to figure out a way to work things out
2006-08-23 01:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by gingersnappz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋