My husband says that it's embarrassing to him when I ask for him to pick up tampons or douche from the store on his way home from work. Is it improper for me to ask or is he just being a douche?
2006-08-23 00:57:46 · 37 answers · asked by Hippie Bill Clinton 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I enjoy picking up feminine products for my wife, Gertrude. She is morbidly obease so it is very difficult for her to get out of the house, infact the only time she leaves the house is to attend church. I believe your husband is being a douche and we should pray for him.
2006-08-23 04:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tampons are as much a fact of life as toothpaste; does he ask you to pick up condoms for him?
He's said he's embarrassed, and this IS a legitimate quirk, so in courtesy try to make sure you don't run short unexpectedly. But if things DO happen (you're traveling, and the pads didn't get packed, for example), he shouldn't have a conniption about doing you a favor and grabbing some at the store. Partnering is about give-and-take.
P.S. Women have "traditionally" been the shoppers for everything and we're not supposed to be embarrassed about stuff. If you DO have to send a man off for feminine items---anything from pads to a breast pump to personal lubricant, whatever----it probably would be a charitable action to add a few other items to the shopping list for camouflage. Murphy's Law will probably put some 16-year-old giggler at the only cash register that is open....
2006-08-23 05:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by samiracat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tricky tricky!
I can understand the embarrasement side of it. When I was younger, and had just started menstruating I was mortified when I had to pick up femenine products. But at the end of the day, he should be happy that he's in a relationship. There are men out there that wish they had a girl (even if it means they have to run embarrasing errands!) If it makes him uncomfortable, maybe there are ways to compromise. Maybe spare him of the douche and just get tampons. And make sure you always reward him when he does pick up our girlie stuff. Then he'll know that doing those favors are worth while!
2006-08-23 05:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Evelyn R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd only do it occasionaly or in an emergency. Plus, I'd try to make it so that it would be part of a big grocery list and not the only item he needs to pick up.
Anyway, regardless if other men do this or not - he has specificly pointed out this task as something he does not like. Why ask him to do it? In other words, pick your battles. You know you need the stuff at a certain time, I'd just stock up on it. This doesn't have to be a big issue for you to fight over. Save your energy for an issue that is really important to you.
2006-08-23 03:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a bit embarrassing to purchase such items;even for women. Help him realize that, and also that anyone who sees him purchasing them, knows why. However, have respect for his feelings as well; meaning this should be an extremely rare request you would have to make of him. For you know when you will need these products, and extras can be kept on hand, so that even if you forget to get them one time at the store, you will still have some at home to use, until you go to the store next time. If this request is somewhat common, then perhaps you are "forgetting" to get them yourself, because you too are a bit embarrassed.
2006-08-23 01:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's alright 2 send your husband 2 buy feminine products if he knows which ones 2 buy lol. He feels embarrased 2 do it, like he said.
2006-08-23 02:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by ginie_in_a_bottle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm male. I'd buy them for you without embarassment. These are just everyday items we buy for everyday bodily functions. Would you be embarassed buying a man's deodorant or jock itch powder? Furthermore, I doubt the clerk in the store has any interest or cares about the products your husband is buying--I doubt that they read beyond the barcode most of the time.
2006-08-23 01:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why he won't do it if it's on his way home from work. He's an adult and it shouldn't be embarrassing - it's not like he's a 12 year old buying condoms or anything!
2006-08-23 04:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jayna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't proper. A woman knows that once a month she is going to need these products and has plenty of time to stock up before hand. It isn't fair to ask your husband to buy feminine products. I have enough respect for my husband to never ask him to do this for me.
2006-08-23 01:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is a wimp. Real men aren't scared to buy tampons, douche, or condoms. It says 'Im taking care of the oriface that I stick my schlong into'. If he's buying you enemas, he should be bragging to his buddies about it. If you don't swing that way, buy your own damn enemas.
2006-08-23 01:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋