he has short temper... looses temper for small things and acts so harsh with me...
he has wearied fantasies like .. he enjoys me telling him sex stories online and he wants me to say stories on me and some other guy...
he is possessive about me... he don't like me having friends in boys...
he is very much spiritual and he shows no interest in real world things.. he has no big admissions in life.. the only things he loves in life is me, food and sex... he is an introvert and don't have much friends and loves to stay alone or spend time with me...
if he is in a bad mood he makes issues out of small things and ends up with a fight with me and later comes and cools me down
but he is a sweet person when he is in a good mood...
Is he normal?? .. how can i change him?? i really love him allot... i need help
2006-08-23 00:46:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go ahead and hit yourself, then think again. Listen to yourself. You're asking people wether you have to stop a guy from getting his agressive moments, or letting him run over you..
I'd hit him good.. =)
2006-08-23 01:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by koooeeen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh hun, you can't change him. Don't ever think you can or that you should. Although you love him and he may love you, this is the beginning of a possibly dangerous relationship. If he's possesive of you as well as having a serious temper, as your relationship progresses there is a high risk of him becoming physically violent with you. From the stories that I've heard like yours, 9 times out of 10, things just become more dangerous. I'm sure you love him, but if he's harsh with you and constantly fighting with you and then trying to make up with you, you shouldn't be with him. You should never be with a person who treats you like that. Every relationship has problems and arguments, but if this is constant, you really need to think about whether or not this is the right person for you. To be prefectly honest, he sounds very much like the stereotypical abusive husband. If this is so, then you really need to leave before things get much worse. Be careful if you decide that you want to talk to him about seeing a therapist or psychologist, that can go very badly and in that case you should involve people who care about him like his family and pull an intervention if you have to. If you do decide to stay, you need to be extra careful. If he ever hits you during a fight, then you need to leave. That's the biggest sign that things will go downhill.
Good luck and stay safe.
2006-08-23 00:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by stormymidori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal? No way. You can't change him. Only he can change him. You need help but what you want to do can't be done. The only person whose behavior you control is your own.
You say he's a sweet person when he's in a good mood. But you don't get only the good moods. You are on very, very dangerous ground when you allow him to isolate you by keeping you from having other friends. You've got part of a nice guy. The not so nice part will not get any nicer so you have a decision to make. I hope you value yourself enough to make the correct decision for your own peace of mind and happiness.
2006-08-23 00:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should read your own question as if was done by other person and the answer will come easily to you. You you should start running away from this guy. He is not normal at all, and is showing you early signs of anger problems and that he can be violent and possesive in a sickly way. I seriously think that he has psychological problems, and needs a sweet person, as you are, to manipulate, use and abuse. You deserve someone better. He is not good for you and, most importantly, YOU CAN'T CHANGE HIM. Men don't change, and a guy like you the less. Believe me, if you don't start running now that you can, we'll have another question from you asking how to scape from the cell where he has locked you up... just because he loves you so much...
2006-08-23 00:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sissy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think yes, yes he has the normal behavior of an abuser, and girl a person like that can promise you that he is gonna change but is not true and I think you know it. One they he can hit you and say sorry later and send you flowers, but one they he is gonna send flowers to your tomb. The better thing you can do is let him no matter what, is for your own security, you deserve some one who really loves you and have dreams of a better life together not just sex.
2006-08-23 01:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lunazuly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you cannot change anyone but yourself. If your relationship is unhealthy then you need to get out before it gets physically violent. Honey if he has sex fetishes online then he does show A LOT of interest in worldly things. A man that is spiritual is not interested in online porn. I think that you need to rethink this relationship.
2006-08-23 00:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that you love him, my question to you is why don't you love yourself just as much. And why can't you see that the only way this relationship can go is down. I know about the martyr complex, And that mean you are suffering for love. why? because you need mental health care just as much as he does.
I know how good it feels to love someone but what you are saying has not anything to do with love it is just a form of self gratifications. That can only lead to your self-destruction.......... I am sorry that I can't wish you good luck, why? because of what you are doing no amount of luck will be of any use................
2006-08-23 01:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer... you will not change him.. A lot of his problems are his insecurities.. until he realizes it you can not change it... with a temper and anger problem get out before you are on the news or at the police station.
2006-08-23 00:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt deserve your love,I guess ,why dont you ask some of her relative who is close to him maybe they can tell you about His acts,or maybe He,s having a big problem.Talk to Him about it when He's in good mood.
2006-08-23 00:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by AmandaNikolah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looses his temper? Get a different boyfriend.
2006-08-23 00:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by herbs411_42719 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋