I spoke to my boyfriend last night on the phone and we ended up arguing. I am really sad actuall as he has been really sweet to me for the past 3 weeks. He told me yesterday that he hated his work and I tried to support him in the best way I could. He told me, however, that my support was childish and I got upset about it. He then got angry and he said he was tired and wanted to go to bed. We are meeting on Thursday but I am really sad that we had to argue before meeting? He has sent me text messages each morning for the past week but today he is silent. Why does he get angry when I get upset? Please help, I was in tears last night.
2006-08-22 23:54:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweety... When us men get upset about things like work, some choose to take it out on whomever is around as well, by the sound of things this just happened to be you. I am certain he'll be feeling very sorry about the way he spoke to you by now and I'm almost convinced you'll receive an apology when you next meet. As for not receiving a txt... chill.... he may have left his mobile at work, could have no battery, or is just not in a position to reply.
Keep your head up :o)
2006-08-22 23:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should send one more text saying that you are sorry if you have upset him, you did not mean anything bad by what you said, you just thought you were helping, you just wanted to support him and let him know you were there for him and sorry if it did not come accross the way you wanted it to. Tell him you cant wait to see him and hope that he can forgive u. It was just a misunderstanding and not worth falling out over. Then just leave it up to him hun, give him space and a chance to think over what you have both said. I think he's being a little silly and will probably realise this if you give him the chance to. Dont bombard him with texts no matter how tempting it is to confess your undying love and apologise every five mins guys hate that and you'll probably only agravate him further. Hope everything turns out ok hun xx
2006-08-23 00:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by nuttybird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm afraid with the sketchy details you have here it's hard to say what exactly went on, but speaking as a man when I complain about what a dumbass my boss is I am not looking for my girlfriend to console me. I am just venting and the best thing for her to do is just listen. So I am going to guess that's where the problem lies. He was venting and you tried the nurturing problem solving thing and that just rattled his cage even more. So it would seem that it just snowballed from there. I guess I'd just tell you to send him a message apologizing for last night even though you may not see what you did was wrong but let's not forget Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. I've done my share of apologizing for the most nothingest of things but for some reason my girlfriend made a big stink about em.
It's a two way street.
2006-08-23 00:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Emporer_Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make it out to be more than what it is. If he was already upset about work, nothing you could have said to him (despite your efforts to be supportive) would have made a difference. Go meet him on Thursday and act like nothing happened. Give him his space in the meantime and when things have blown over, if you still feel it is necessary, let him know how hurt you were because you were just trying to be supportive.
2006-08-23 00:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and tell him how you feel and be honest. If he is a man then he would tell you how he felt about the argument. Be sincere and honest when you talk to him and be sure not to start another argument because you want to clear up this one before you guys meet. They key to make any relationship work is communication. So pick up the phone and tell him how aweful you feel about the argument you had. Shed a few tears if it is possible he will soon feel guilty and will tell you that everything was his fault. Problem solved. Best of luck amigo.
2006-08-22 23:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets angry or upset sometimes, you shouldn't be so thinned skin about it. If your going to have a relationship you are oing to have to deal with all sorts of moods, good ones and bad ones. Give him time to cool off and then talk to him about it, don't be defensive and don't be abusive, just be honest and communicate.
2006-08-23 00:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you...he is probably just totally hacked off with work...but also not knowing how to communicate with you after your disssagreement...I would text him a lightish cheery hi saying hope he feeling better today and looking forward to seeing him tommorow...you could but only if he asks suggest he tries to look for another job...goood luck
2006-08-23 00:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by janey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime the best thing to say is nothing. Because there upset about something you had nothing to do with so just let him deal with it. The best thing for you to say is I'm sorry and thats it.
2006-08-23 00:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the same question to HIM and maybe you will get the answer you are looking for.Each relationship is different and sometimes we need to ask the person involved and not other peoples opinions.
2006-08-23 00:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby his dummy back. He'll get over it - just get on with things until Thursday and then ask him to say sorry. I bet he can't do it!!
2006-08-23 00:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Robbie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋