What happened was I found myself liking him, and when i discovered he was single, and he asked me to spend time with him, i agreed. But, i had hoped for a relationship. When i discovered that all he wanted was sex, i agreed to sleep with him, thinking 'well, it's been a long time, just this once won't hurt'. But, it did, because i slept with him a second time. After this second time, i swore it wouldn't happen again ever, but i discovered that i still wanted him. The problem now is that i recognise that he is, like you say, 'unavailable' because i discovered that he was making a move at another colleague at the same time he was sleeping with me, and still is. My pride is really hurt. It's not that i love him, but as i do not have a boyfriend and haven't slept with another man since him, so i find myself wanting him during my weak moments. I hate this and i want to overcome this. Can you help me with ways that i can. Also, I desire a relationship but i think i keep dating unavailable me
2006-08-22 23:49:26 · 28 answers · asked by Hmmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get someone to take pictures of the two of you together (at a restaurant or something, not necessarily in bed), then sue the company for sexual harassment. You should be able to get a nice nest egg for your retirement.
2006-08-22 23:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can u allow a man to start a relationship with his terms on at the first place. U have made urself really vulnerable to him by letting him enter ur comfort zone at his free will. He is now using u without really caring what u will go through when u cometo know about ur colleaue.
U still cherish him knowing he is a womaniser,he knows how to make his ladies dance to his tunes and go weak on his knees for a RRRRRRRRELATIONSHIP.
its not so late , run away from him and always check a person before opening ur legs .
2006-08-23 00:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by dolly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was a very big mistake and at least you should be self-conscious about this. Well, one way is to find another job; if you really can't then try going out with other people: friends...colleagues...people with a positive outlook to life, so that you can feel better.
If you can, try going out with good friends who really support you, but you will still feel hurt if you see him everyday at work. So...better quit that jo and find a new boyfriend who will help you overcome this moment.
Good luck
2006-08-23 00:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like a playa hun,,and if the sex was good,,that is probly the reason for your attraction. Trustr me hun,,you will get no where with a man like that,,although most people confuse sex with haveing feelings for another person.
It will be very hard to ignor this problem while working with this person.Maybe tyou should find another Job,,,and do not ever have sex with your boss,,,to many problems can come about from it.
2006-08-22 23:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by ladydi_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though you say you dont love him it is clear that you love him and want him more and more...
If you think he is not serious about this relationship then you should also take it easy and enjoy the life with hims as it comes..
Sometime he may not be available for you so sometime you also make yourself unavailable for him when he wants you..
You need not to restrict yourself for other guys because ultimately this guy is going to go sonner or later and you will need to find out another guy.. so better date with some other guys too..
Beware playing with two will not be an easy task...
2006-08-22 23:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should look for another job since you really fu*cked this one up by humping your boss. This is NEVER a good idea and causes hard feelings in your work atmosphere not to mention the emotional stress. You can see you were used and he's having a ball using all the available women around him. He's not an ethical boss. Look for another job, honey, get yourself a 'friend with benefits" outside of the workplace, and keep your panties up at work.
2006-08-22 23:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes so dont beat yourself up about what you cant change. Recognize what you can change. You can change your attitude about the situation. You realize he is basically a whore and is going to sleep with whoever he can. That in itself should be the turn off that helps you quell your desire to sleep with him again. In the meantime you need to seek counseling or read self help books that will help you with the problem you recognize in yourself that you are dating men that are unavailable.
2006-08-22 23:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously know what the mistake is, "You never mix business with pleasure". Your pride shouldn't be a concern. You need to search for a new job ASAP. These type of situations end horribly. Good luck
2006-08-23 01:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by s_4perry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady take a cold shower and re read your question. Think of it as someone else writing it. What would your reply be.
You need to get your head together. You can get sex anywhere you want.
Buy some toys and introduce yourself to self satisfaction.
Also if you keep jumping bed with him he doesn't have to pursue you. Stop jumping in the sack and see if he start courting you.
Get those toys first.
2006-08-22 23:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mit 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You just have to distance yourself. Do not let your animal instincts take you over! You need to stay strong and end this charade right now because your job could be in jeopardy. There's a guy out there who will respect and care for you, maybe you just haven't found him yet.
Don't compromise yourself or career! Hang in there, hun!
2006-08-22 23:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Slippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋