2006-08-22 23:37:40 · 24 answers · asked by Trix 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try to remain as calm as possible, for your son's sake as well as your own. It is very difficult watching our "babies" grow up. If you are "freaking out," he will play off of that and will not want to go to school. Remember, children are very resilient he will be making friends and playing within the first few minutes, and will have lots of exciting and new things to talk to you about when he gets home. So just power your way through the initial moments, and then you can "fall apart" when you have left him in the school and he will not see you being upset. Believe me we all have our moments. My "babies" are grown-up adults with families of their own and I still tear up after they leave my house after visiting. I don't let them see me; although I am sure they know me well enough to know this.... This is just a natural progression of parenthood, you will survive!!!! Best of luck to you and your son on a wonderful new adventure in your lives. Have a great day!
2006-08-22 23:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, don't make him think he should be "a big boy" and not feel sad at separating. please respect his feelings and don't tell him how he should feel.
Five years old is far too young for most boys to separate from mom for that many hours a day. Kindergarten and Preschool are bad for boys, they punish boys for being boys, expecting them to start being interested in the things girls are typically interested in - circle time, coloring, what other kids are wearing.
If you are going to be a complete mess, maybe it's because you know that this is not the time or place. Why not homeschool him for at least a few years - give him what he really wants and needs.
Ugh, if my baby were going off to school, I'd be a complete mess, too. Fortunately, people clued me in before it was too late. My boys are HAPPY, briliant, gentle, excited about learning, friendly, self-confident, individuals. Good luck getting those results with school.
2006-08-23 00:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE the first day of School. NO crying here. Never made a HUGE event out of it. I did do some picture taking but not alot.
TODAY is my older 2 children's first day of school. YIPPEE!!! HIP HIP HOORAY!!! LOL I think I am more excited than they are. LOL
The younger one starts the day after Labor Day - Sept 5! Can't wait.
I always just dropped them off & smiled. My kids did great. NO CRYING from them either.
2006-08-22 23:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be horrible for you but don't show it in front of him. Try to be as happy as you can about it and tell him about all the great friends he will make.
It will get easier as the week goes on and you'll soon be looking back thinking 'what was I worried about?'. I know you are thinking of him as your baby but going to school is the lesson we all have to learn that baby's grow up.
I was more of a mess when my daughter started nursery!
2006-08-23 01:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for him. Make him a good breakfast and take your camera as you go to drop him off. Smile alot. Remember its about him, not you! No crying! As soon as he's in the door, turn away and then you can bust into tears. But he doesn't need to see you crying over him going to school. He's not a baby anymore. And at least its just school instead of high school graduation!
2006-08-22 23:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is show him ur upset as this will only make him upset. i know my sons first day at school he looks all so grown up in his uniform i had a lump in my throat all you have to do is grin and bear it. after all its his day and he will be very excited tell him how nice he looks and you will see him later when you are out of the school gates then you can get your hanky out. good luck
2006-08-23 12:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by sarah m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son started school last year i was in bits ,but he was great just ran into the class didn't even say good bye,but i say bye and have a nice day and smiled ,when i got out side i realised i had a few hours to my self and went and had coffee with a friend ,but i still worried ,and the best was when i picked him up he ran over to me and gave me a big hug and kiss and told me about his day,so don't worry and good luck ,bring a hanky
2006-08-23 02:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by LORRAINE J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My twin Boys are starting K in sept. I feel the same as you do.
From what I have heard the most important thing to remember is not to cry in front of the kids.
I have also taken them shopping and they picked out their backpacks and helps with clothes shopping.
Get your Son involved.
So.. how are things going?
2006-08-23 01:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him see how upset you are.
Once you drop him off find something to do but if go and sit at home it will be even worse. Ask his teacher if you can call and check on him at some point during the day too.
2006-08-23 04:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by led321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 and I remember my mother on my first day of school. She wouldn't come outside to wait for the bus with me.. and I didn't care, I was too excited standing there with my lunch box and back pack that was too big for me. Then the bus stopped and I wouldn't get on it. I stood there looking at it and all of a sudden I started crying and turned to run back up the driveway... I got 3 steps and my mom was flying out the door.. she was crying too.
She told me that I was getting to be a big girl, and big girls had to go to school to make new friends and learn lots of new things. She said that I was brave. I asked her why she was crying.. and she told me that her big girl was going to school to make new friends and learn new things, and that SHE had to be brave.
The bus ended up not waiting, and she drove me to school. On the way she talked about all the fun I was going to have, and all the people I was going to meet.. I think she was trying to convince herself.. anyways.. when I finally got there.. I was ready.. and so was she.
I hope that when my son goes to school next year, I'll be as 'brave' as my mom was with me.... and make his first day one that he'll always remember.
2006-08-22 23:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋