my bf is a short tempered person.. he takes things to ego sometimes and fights with me ... twice he used bad words on me which was hurting but later he calls put and cools me down like anything... he is sweet when he is normal.. but when he goes nuts i see a complete diff personality out of him... what should i do? do u think he is normal?
2006-08-22 23:07:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be very careful dear..short tempers lead to abuse .. if you really care about him and wish to stay in the realtionship seek outside assistance .. what I mean is talk to your local mental health about his anger problem .. is he showing any other signs or symptoms
Persons with mania can be openly combative and aggressive. They have no patience or tolerance for others. They can be highly demanding, violently assertive. In this state if patients are not helped they may assault others or destroy property, get beaten up by others and may end up in jail.
Their judgement is seriously impaired and they make terrible decisions in their work and family. They may invest the family fortune in very questionable programmes. They start a series of dramatic unsound fiscal or professional ventures. They do not listen to any feedback, suggestions, or advice from friends, family, or colleagues.
They have no insight into the extreme nature of their demands, plans, and behaviour and often it is advisable to seek help from police to commit the patient to the nearest mental health unit in your location.
If you are able to talk with his doctor i suggest that you do so ..
Wishing you all the best
2006-08-22 23:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal for some people to be short tempered.u just need to understand ur guy and avoid those things that get him angry.whenever he flares up, just cool down and keep quiet until he calms down then gently talk things over.the truthof the matter is that both of u cant shout at the same time and being a woman i will advice u mellow down for him after all u will not marry yourself.by the trime u understand ur bf u will enjoy him more so why not give it a try and see what happens next.thank God he's such a sweet guy
2006-08-23 06:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by babygal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends how often he acts like this , because verbal abuse can hurt just as much as physical abuse , almost anyone will tell you that. If it's only once in a blue moon than yeah its normal , were human and we all lose our cool once in a while. However if this is a everyday occurrence than no , this is not a healthy relationship than you or anyone else should feel comfortable around. And you should leave as soon as possible.
2006-08-23 06:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by thegoodson2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and get away from him. Just think if you were married to this creep. Find yourself a normal guy with no temper problems. You are your bests friend, and what would you advise your best friend with a situation like this. JUST LEAVE HIM AND QUICK. These types can go nuts and hurt you.
2006-08-23 06:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is not normal. He has a short fuse and does not know how to control it. Most likely he never will unless he gets professional help in anger management.
You should be looking closer to your relationship. Is he normal when he is sweet or is it just a show and he really is a shot fuse ready to do damage.
He needs help.
2006-08-23 06:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i dun think he is normal, but u could try to make him change, but if you really wanna make him change, you should do that before marriage. (my advice). if you really can't change him or you see no point in doing so then i advise that you break up with him. these men that are short tempered , i can confirm you wouldn't get along with them next time after you two have been together for long or even married. i have tried before and it didn't succeed, many of mi frens have such experiences as well. just don't. or you will regret it. for now, give him some time before you break up.
2006-08-23 06:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by TrUffLe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be an age thing. Young men (teens-twenties) are at times unable to direct their frustration in an appropriate manner.
Or, perhaps he is suffers from some form of mental disorder such and Manic Depressive behavior.
No matter what, he should not direct it at you regardless if it's a mental disorder or his lack of maturity.
2006-08-23 06:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the type very well.. my advice..RUN RUN as fast as you can because most likely he will never change... he is ok now but when he will marry you eventually he will become worse.... If he is able to manipulate you with sweet words don't fail to them. Just be realistic and see what he has to offer you. And tell him to change if not you will leave him . Because we deserve the best!!!
2006-08-23 06:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont want to put up with that now do you it will eventually rub off on you. Because of his temper it will bring you down dont make the mistake so many other people make dump him
2006-08-23 06:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by misspris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, I don't want to disappoint you, but usually these types are complete 'you know what'.. especially the name calling and the yelling.. it's terrible.. why do you people put up with this?? watch out because in all likelyhood you are being cleverly manipulated by a dominating type
2006-08-23 06:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋