Please answer professionally because this is for a community outreach program, me and my partner will implement an activity regarding this question because we noticed that "an extended family living in a single home" is a bit awkward, so, we will try to inform the family in a good way why they should do something about the way they are living. Here's a little info: head of the family,wife,3 daughters,2 of the daughters both have a husband, and one of the 2 couples have a daughter, a few months old. And, if possible experts' answers please, or maybe provide me a link. Thanks.
2006-08-22 22:25:42 · 6 answers · asked by JC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm sorry, but i think their house is really too small for all of them, and I also stated "in a good way". The task that was assigned to us is to interview a family and site 2 of their main problems, then try to provide an activity that would help them. We already submitted 2 problems and were already checked, so, I don't think we can change the chosen problems. But you guys have a point there,.. i'm confused now..... @.@, please just help me with the activity
2006-08-22 22:45:04 · update #1
First of all, everyone needs their own space. That means children should grow up feeling confident that they have privacy. It helps them build confidence. And gives them good emotional health. Second, people tend to argue more, because it is only natural that when you look at a home as your home, you have a tendency to be lax in the way you feel about things.Like you look at them differently. You wouldn't think twice about using something that belonged to someone else verses if you were just a visiting family member you would be more considerate before just using something. To many in a home creates confusion. Children need stability. If someone has a sick parent, that is different. But if each person is healthily and normal, why would they want to not have their own space. If you live piled into an apartment, you will never learn to have any drive - drive to be out there - doing things- that people do when they have their own homes. We are not meant to live with our parents for the rest of our lives. They could seek out living in the same building if they really had concern. I am wondering if they are all working. If someone isn't and living off a family member, then their eyes need to be opened about that situation.
2006-08-22 22:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by RITA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold separate meetings - first with the head of the family and his wife and second with the married daughters and their husbands. Once you have noted their feedback and problems including financial implications that could arise from 'splitting' them up, then hold a meeting with all of them. The main problem for extended families is the lack of privacy especially if they are living in small houses. Everyone in the family - the elders, the youngsters and even the children - need to have their own space and time for the relationship among them to remain strong and healthy. If they don't get this because the house is too small, the best thing is for the married children to move out with their spouses and kids as quickly as possible. The head of the house may feel disappointed or may even be depressed for some time but he (or she) can get over with it. They will begin to adjust and enjoy the time and privacy they have for themselves!
2006-08-22 23:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need their privacy. A single house is meant for a single family. If 2 of the daughters are married, then they have their own family, esp. the one with a child.
2006-08-22 22:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They lived in single house coz they believed that its a strong family ties.The more the merrier and they can help each other well in their daily household chores. The parents can communicate easily with their child and the sibling will be close to each other and be the helping hand in case of problems.
2006-08-22 22:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by richel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the house is large enough, there's no reason an extended family shouldn't live in the same house if they wish to do so. They know what they're doing and you informing them is just rude.
2006-08-22 22:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just an akward, somewhat uncomfortable situation. But since their in it, I'm pretty sure they are already aware of the fact that it's not the best living arrangement. If you really want to say something, I'm not sure how you'd do that without sounding too imposing.
2006-08-22 22:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋