Am I wrong?

Question

Ive always been short on the phone dont know why but I have I suppose I just dont like talking on de phone.
Yesterday I got up at 5 drove to the airport flight was at 630 had a meeting at 9 had to do another few things as iam setting up a company got a flight home bout 730 got home bout 9. I was wrecked tiered.
During the day I had been on the phone to my gf bout 4 times. Short calls I will admit. when i got home she pnoned me and I wanted to make dinner so I told her and that was fine. then later she phoned me back I was half asleep but I still answered we had a short chat and she basically hung up on me. then I got an sms sayin 'is this what it is going to be like not being able to talk to my bf'.
Am i Being unresonable here or am I right? please say what you think and thanx

I had spent all wkend with her its just during the wk that things get busy.

Answer 1

mmmmmmm...

Answer 2

From what you've written, I think she's being a tad unreasonable. Surely she must be able to understand that you have a lot to do right now. At least you're making an effort to keep in touch with her despite your commitments. As long as you are doing everything else right, short phonecalls shouldn't be a big deal. Apart from that, be straight with her and tell her you don't like being on the phone for very long anyway. It doesn't mean that you don't care for her!

Answer 3

Dude, I totaly understand. Been there myself quite recently.

But look at it from her perspective, she's calling, more than likely just to hear the sound of your voice and every time she puts down the phone feeling at best disappointed, and at worst like she has got the brush off.

Sit down with her, say your sorry for what it looked like but that she has it all wrong. Tell her that she means a lot to you and that if you cant express it on the phone it doesnt mean you arent feeling it.

Then have make up sex. Try not to fall asleep immediately afterwards and tell ehr atleast once you love her.

Situation resolved, and you are almost assured a nice breakfast the next day.

Answer 4

I dont think you are being unreasonable at all. You should tell her, gently, when you are too tired to talk or too busy to talk, and she should accept that. What you are probably forgetting is that back in the day, when you were giving women the brush off, before you met your gf you propably acted in the same way with women you didnt really want to make time for, and this is what she is picking up on. Just be nice, and understand that our brains work overtime sometimes, especially when you are too busy to talk.

Answer 5

i think u should explain to her what life is all about. i don't know how old is she, but seems very immature and selfish. maybe she is sitting at home bored, so of course she wants to chat on the phone. she has nothing else to do. tell her to get a life ofr her own. i think (as a woman) that u didn't do anything wrong, any human being has the right to be tired and to have rest. the main point in relationships not to suffer. so what is good in continuing talking if u re tired and the only thing u think:"will that ***** ever shut up"? so maybe u should tell that to her too.
to me u seem hard working guy, keep it on. good luck

Answer 6

I can see both sides here --- she missed you & wants to chat wit you now that you are back. You ahd a rough day/night and just want to get some rest. Both have a valid point.

Hmmm...

Tough call. but being as I need my sleep or all hell breaks lose? I would have to say that she needs to be more understanding... Then again, if you two chatting makes her happy, then you have to be more understanding too...

It's a 50-50 split... Either both win or both lose = Up to you... Good Luck!

Answer 7

I reckon you should just ring her once (a day) and make it a long conversation... and in the end say you've got a really busy day ahead, and will text/ring when you can.. She will understand then that you are really busy... obviously give her call before her bedtime to have a gud kip :)

Answer 8

Neither you nor she is wrong. You seem to have a hectic life style and she does'nt seem to understand that. You need to take a day off, spend some quality time with her and make her understand your problems with time and space. A good communication is important for any relationship to remain healthy.

Answer 9

four times in one day is bit much to be talking to her relax your not wrong at all she'l get over her little hissy why not have one phone call a day where ye talk properly about yer days that way there'll be no shortness and she wont get the wrong idea that your grumpy

Answer 10

I think you just need to try and explain that:

a) you were very tired because of the long hours and travelling
b) tell her you'd rather talk face-to-face as it's very impersonal on the telephone.

I don't think you're being unreasonable, there are many people, like you, who don't 'do' telephones.

Answer 11

Umm... you are a guy, and thats not your fault. But if you actually like this girl maybe try putting some effort into this relationship. If not, then just keep on not caring, and it will eventually end. WHy drag her along?