i am so depressed today. anyone got anything nice to say.?

Question

i know there are people starving in the world and i know my problems are not big ones in the grand scale of things and normally i try and be positive. but today i just feel sh*t. i am 32 and have had such bad luck over the past 6 years with relationships and stuff. i hate my job. i am doing all the proactive stuff i know i have to do to make things work but seems like i never get a break. i need to be hopeful again and get that you never know what's round the next corner feeling but i just feel like it will be more of the same. i give out good. i do concern myself with my friends and family and people in general. i watch other people get breaks and i genuinely try and feel happy for them. today i just feel like going back to bed. can anyone say anything inspiring please :-(

thanks guys. i don't think i'm depressed tho or need anti depressants. (no nothing wrong with it if you do - of course not) i just think i'm fed up. bad choice of words. fed up cos i've had a run of bad luck. i know i need to pull myself out of it. i have a plan for getting out of job but takes time. just aving a bad day. know what i ;mean. last relationship ended very badly cos he was depressed + acting v weird n just feelign sorry for myself!!

Answer 1

If you hate your job, there is no reason to feel stuck - get out of it there are so many other options. We work so much of our lives, you can't be miserable there - it will come out in the rest of your life - believe me - I know.

I know life can be hard and sometimes you need something to help you through the down times like an antidepressant - there is nothing wrong with taking one. I have when I needed it and felt better - some good ones that are low in side effects are Lexapro, Wellbutrin, and Celexa. Maybe you should see your dr. cause it sounds like you have been trying to keep your spirits up and can't and it may be a chemical thing in which case there is nothing you can do but take some meds for a while. I always felt that if I took them it would be this fake happiness and why bother but that is a sillly way to think - your brain chemicals just aren't producing enough serotonin or norepinephrine and you need to level them out.

There is no reason you have to feel like this - there really isn't and I know how it feels. I would really recommend looking for a new job - that is #1 - it sucks dreading going to work and coworkers and never being recognized for anything while it seems everyone else it - it is hard. You should not have to deal with that so start looking and interviewing. Ask foir a raise if that would help but sometimes, no matter how much money it is or would be, it is not worth that horrible feeling of waking up every morning and dreading that job - 9-5 is too long - it never ends and your work problems come home with you - time to change. It really is and yes you can change. But - you may not have the energy to bother right now so I really say try to get on an antidepressant - maybe not forever - but you need it right now.

Things will get better if you do these two things. Imagine kind of - looking forward to work or at least enjoying it and not waking up wishing you could sleep all day Relationships wouldn't work right now cause you don't love yourself and you don't feel complete so you can't love someone else - as cliche as that may be - it is totally true. And you don't have the best you to put out there. You need this time to focus on you- not someone else. No one else it going to make you not feel these things - they may help but it won't work til you are happy with your own life. Then you would have so much to offer. You would be more confident and outgoing and when you are feeling good, these people just seem to fall into our lives - not when we feel crappy and hopeless and always never when we are looking for them.

That is why they haven't worked probably - cause you never got "you together"- and you have to. If you do this - get on an antidepressant right now and then when it starts working in a few weeks, start looking - get a resume together, get the paper and go on interviews - get out there. You could totally turn your life around and it is possible. You just can't see it right now cause you are down and lacking that vision, desire, motivation and energy - and you have to believe me cause I have been through this and I did those things that I am telling you to do and though I am not the "happiest person" alive, I am much better - I feel complete and fulfilled and every day gets easier. I have learned to love who I am. You have to make things happen and that is hard. That is why everyone else gets the breaks - they make it happen - they have that energy and motivation and you need to psych yourself up and move on from the past. Try adding some workouts to your days - it helps serotonin and lets all those feel good chemicals in your body out - helps motivation, etc - - but that may be hard too until you take some meds.

Taking medication doesn't mean there is anything "wrong" with you - you just need a boost and I swear almost everyone takes them now - really. So - don't be ashamed or feel like why bother -just get up enough energy to make an appt with your primary or a psychiatrist for meds-get on one now. Don't wait - before long you'll be 40 and saying the same things - just a little motivation to get to the doctor and you will feel better soon. I promise you that. And then , the rest of your life will fall into place - relationships will work once you are complete and happy with YOU - it's about you and as long as you feel like this you will never see the things you want to see happen in your life - you CAN feel good again, have energy, be motivated, ba happy for you and not just everyone around you - it IS possible - I swear this to you. Sometimes one med won't work for one person so there are times where you will need to try other ones. There is a new one out for physical depression symptoms called Cymbalta - tired, sleepy, aching,etc - so I don't know your exact symptoms but some are made for more anxiety/depression - they differ but the ones I mentioned are virtually side effect free and they work and they are safe - and there is NOTHING wrong with taking one. It may help to see a psychologist too to talk to - someone who has a neutral perspective on your life and that you can vent all these stressors to - they have coping skills to offer and can help too - you decide.

But this letter shows something - it shows you don't want to feel like this anymore so you don't have to - get that little motivation to make an appt with your dr, get on meds, give them some time to work, adjust if you need to or increase dosage, start looking at your other job options, make the move, and be happy again. There is too much sh*t in life to make us sad then to make these choices in our everyday lives that will make us miserable- it's not worth it. Sometimes you have to take a risk to get to where you want to be so it's time to take it - NOW not tomorrow - not next week - NOW.

Please do these things. I know how you feel and you :o( can be a :o) - I promise you with all of my heart you don't have to suffer anymore. And I am not some freak either - I am a 28 year old, "normal", working woman who had some ups and downs - and have been where you are - this was the first step - saying hey I don't want to feel like this anymore - so take the next one and then you will feel better to take all the others. 32 is young and you shouldn't feel like this. Change your mind - get motivated, work out, eat right, do things that you love to do - be happy with you, give yourself a break - love the person that you are - you can be happier - I promise you.

:o) (and get some sleep...)

Answer 2

Hi, I felt like you a couple of days ago, listen you have to take a good look at yourself, and your situation. You dont like your job, ok change it. Go back to college, or a technical school and start doing something that YOU want to do. Your young, training is just the thing you need to get the experience and money that you need to better your situation. And hey there are alot of us oler folks out there starting new careers because of the economy, so you might meet some really interesting people on campus, new blood so to speak. And there is nothing wrong with you except your bored with your current situation, nothing that alittle weekend trip couldnt fix, something fun, different. I do the appalation trail for 10 days, something about walking and thinking, meeting new people sharing experiences, talking about our lives. Taking a deeper look at myself and what I need to do to improve my situation ect.... Just remember your never alone, God listens, sometimes a good cry and prayer does wonders. I hope you have a wonderful day, your a good person, start liking yourself and others will see your inner glow and want to be part of your circle.

Answer 3

Please believe me, you are not the only one who feels like that, there are plenty of others out there who feel that they get nothing but bad luck, and no matter what you do nothing seems to go your way. And I am in the same boat as you regarding jobs, most people hate their job!! Take a deep breath and write down the good things in your life, even if it is just one thing, and then concentrate on that thought. Do something nice for yourself today, get your hair washed and blow dried at the salon, have a manicure or massage and cook yourself your favourite thing for dinner. Rent a good movie and have an indulgent night on the sofa, that usually makes me feel better.

Answer 4

Take a vacation. Relax, and enjoy life for a week. There are many things in life that can bring you down, but take time in the day to count your blessings, and take notice all the things in life that can bring you up. Plan something wonderful for yourself in the near future, and maybe ask a lady friend to go along with you. But don't be upset if a female decides not to go... Take this opportunity to have fun with as many women as you can! I'm assuming you're a guy... If you're a female, ask a guy friend. And if they decide not to go, take that opportunity to meet Mr. Right, or even Mr. Rightnow. There are always many different views to look at situations in life. And always the option to give up, or stay strong and conquer your problems. Find ways to make things better. I have faith in you. I'm sure you will find what makes you happy.

Answer 5

Smile!!! Just do it! get out of the rut youre in...you may hear inspiring words but only you can make things work..in the meantime take a nice warm bath, linger if you must...put on some soft music, light some aroma therapy candles...lavender would be soothing...( dont fall asleep though ) when you're done make yourself some warm tea, sit on your favorite couch and read a book...(inspirational if you must but a romantic comedy would be great too)...or you can sms or text your friends, your mom..say something nice...making others feel good can make you feel good as well...good luck

Answer 6

Do you know the story of Robert Bruce... Having losed a battle, he hid himself in a cave and resigned to give up fighting... He saw a spider spinning a web, but each time it failed and fell down... Seven times it fell but it just got back up and started spinning again each time... The eighth time, it managed to build its web... Robert Bruce learned a lesson that day, a lesson that put him on the throne... Never give up, life sucks, others seem to have all the luck and you might be the loser but things can only get better not worse... Most importantly, don't lose faith.... Faith is the one thing that won't let u down... I'm saying this cause I never lost faith... in MYSELF

Answer 7

Sometimes in life I feel like that too you are not alone.I try to remember that each day is gift from God but it is hard because of all the ugly in the world.I think sometimes we have to try press on to make it through the day, through the year, through life because so many things come our way that could wipe us out and let us deny ourselves happiness.I heard a Native American women say to me once find three things that make you happy everyday,that are beautiful to you and things that are less beautiful will fade away.

Answer 8

Hi,

I'm sorry to hear what you have gone through. I know someone who can give you peace. Jesus has said :

Matthew 11:28
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

He also promises :

Philippians 4:7
and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Don't focus anymore on the negative things which have been happening. But today, look up towards Jesus, confess your sins, and accept Him as your Lord and Saviour, and I promise you, everything will fall into place :)

God Bless

Answer 9

Hi, maybe you should really take a break and try to relax. Sometimes you don't have to try so hard, take it easy.

Take a day off, walk in the sun, just enjoy the moment, the moment is all yours, don't have to think what the others are doing.


*If your depression persists, and you still lack of interests in all the things you once liked, please consult your doctor asap.

Otherwise, breathe and relax~

Answer 10

Don't always use "depress". There is a fine line between depress and just being sad. Being depress may means depression state.

Just tell yourself you are just sad about something. Soon you will get over it and everything will be fine.

Be careful of your words. Don't hypnotize yourself.

Answer 11

My dear be focused just look back and find where you went wrong and try to ion out all issues which led you to where you are.the issue of relationships is nothing stick to wat is good,you are better off to concentrate on your job.There are things which depress pipo.All I can say is have enough rest and perform your duties at work.
Good luck.