all love their parents me too. but i don't know y sometimes i feel that i don't love them as i love my friend.he is the problem between us b4 i was very close 2 my parents but now i'm not. i found that they r not giving me the right freedom they need me as their kid i'm not a kid still they r treating me like one. is it all my imaginations that they don't love me or doesn't give me what i deserve? is it true that they don't at all care about me they r selfish or sth? pls i need a gud answer .
they don't let me go out alone n with my friends.
they always want to know about my friends their whole details. always asks me about my boyfriends(friends) some times get rude on them i really don't like it. they don't love me if they do they won't behave like this. Am i wrong?
Please help me i love my parents i don't want to do anything that hurts them.
2006-08-22 22:13:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok, I am going to give you a "gud" answer. Loving parents act like this. Parents that no not love you, do not care. They do not care where you go, nor who you go with. You did not say your age, but I assume you are about maybe 13,14 or 15 thereabout. I know that this is hard, but if you could put yourself in their place. Ok, they have this really great little girl, and they see her growing up, and they are afraid. They read about girls being raped, in car accidents. They can just see it happening. This world is just tough, and then too, the pregnancy thing. If you got pregnant, would the, could they, get you an abortion, would you keep the baby, it would ruin your life being so young, could they raise it. You see, they play all this out. You can say, oh that would never happen, and they are too protective, plus they just do not trust me, I know better than them. But do you? Just let them be parents and they will eventually let you have more freedom. You just cannot imagine what a parent goes through, and it is always that the teen cannot see what the parents go through. You just want to get out and experience life, but you have to reassure your parents, let them meet the kids, tell your parents where you are going and when you are coming home, and check with them on your cell phone if you have one. If the kids make fun of you, then you are running with the wrong crown. Good luck. Just love your parents and don't go so hard on them, they just don't want anything bad to happen to you.
2006-08-22 22:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by shardf 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your parents didn't love you or care, then they wouldn't care where you went or who you were with! parents know how kids are..they were once young too. you may not go through the exact same things as your kids, but it's a lot closer than you realize too!!! respect your parents. LOOK, parents do the best that they can for their children, most of the time!!!!!! it's not easy being the parent either. try talking to your parents about some of this, they will understand more than you know.
freedom should be earned too...have you done something that should leave them feeling they can't really trust you? honestly? are you being selfish? ask yourself this honestly too! it's hard to just let go, especially when other kids are involved! you wanna know if they are raised with the same values that you've tried to give your kids! look at your friends, and see if your parents should be worried! make sure you make good choices there too!!!
i just want you to think about things, and see from a parent too!
2006-08-22 22:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are under 18 and live in their home, you should be happy your parents care enough to ask questions and want to know where you are and what you are doing. It is hard when you are young to understand this, but that is what is called tough love. If you are over 18 and living at home, do you act as an adult. Are you working, why do you feel you deserve something? Do they clothe you and feed you? Do you have a warm home over your head? Are they making sure you are getting a good education? If you are an adult, then act as adult. If you are in college and they are paying for it, you live in their home, you abide by their rules. If you are older and don't want to abide by their rules, then move out.
2006-08-22 23:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by RITA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents DO love you. They care about you enough to want to know important details of your life.
I don't know how old you are, but you sound like you're young and trying to break loose and be yourself. It's very hard for parents to let go of their kids, even when they grow up. (I'm speaking as a parent.)
Show them you respect them and--more important--show them you respect yourself. This is something you can't do just with words. You have to demonstrate your maturity. Sometimes that means developing and enhancing your maturity.
You want to be your own person. Cherish your parents--humor them a little. They won't be around forever. But their love for you will last as long as you do.
2006-08-22 22:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your parents are trying to protect you .. because THEY LOVE YOU.
If what they are doing upsets you there is only one course of action, you need to sit down with them and explain how you feel. Parents are in a really tough position because they have to do what they think is best for you regardless of whether you like it or not. Sometimes that means being cruel to be kind.
If all of you sit down and understand each other then you can come to a compromise where you both ease up a little and over time develop the trust and confidence to move forward.
You love them, they love you .. sometimes all thats needed is a little communication :)
2006-08-22 22:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your parents ask you lots of questions about your personal life because they are trying to protect you from some nasty people and things in life that you (hopefully!) haven't (and wont'!) ever come across. It sounds like you are trying to just establish a little bit of your own independence and this is fine as long as you can show that you can handle this with responsible behavior. Just because they might not be doing or saying what you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you - it means they do.
2006-08-22 22:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. My Daddy passed in 1997 and I still miss him a lot. He was a good man and always good to all of us. My Momma is still going strong and is feisty and fun at age 88. And I am so very thankful to God that I have the blessing of having had a wonderful Mom and Dad and I love them with all my heart.
2016-03-27 02:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not always understand why your parents do what they do, but for the most part parents make decisions which they feel are best for their children. Keep in mind, parents are people too. They are not perfect, they will make mistakes. But for the most part they will always try to help you. They want you to be the best you can .
2006-08-22 22:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jon H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you mean...when i was your age, my parents won't let me go out with my friends alone, or go out on a date with my bfs before...they would always make me tag my brother along. it's either he comes, or i won't be able to go out. what else can i do, i wanted to go out, so i tagged my brother along. they would also asked every little detail about my friends & bfs. they are always present when we have some events in the school so they can get to know my friends & their parents, same for my bfs. i never understood why they did that, i often ask myself if i'm doing something wrong. coz all my friends were always free to go out anywhere...that's coz their parents are either divorced or always away on business...or their parents passed away...they never have enough time to show they care to their children. then there's curfew...or when i go to a party, they always want to pick me up.
now that i have kids of my own, i fully understand how it feels to be a parent. they were trying to protect me from harm, from bad influences & bad company of friends. i'm quite sure that when my kids are old enough, i may be doing the same thing, if not, i'll do things my own way. just be thankful in everything that they do...it means they love you. at least you could go out, right? but of course, with precautions, in case something happens, they know who to call to find you.
2006-08-22 22:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by kevkatz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say that?I feel you're lucky to have such parents.
2006-08-22 22:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mummy is not at home 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋