I reside in ghana while she is in south africa.What kinda love is she expressing?If someone understands the meaning of love,distance would'nt be an obstacle.I love this special lady deep down my heart.Her name is Shan.Am Gideon...What is preventing us from engaging?Am at sea...i need help...
2006-08-22 21:40:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wrong people to be asking here = We do not know the situation?
Wife & I met on the net (ICQ)
We fell in love
She is from overseas
We met in Canada
We got married (But the proposal was made before she came to visit)
Easy, eh?
Not so if her parents were still alive = then she, being the youngest sibling, would have to stay in er country to take care of them. So what is stopping your 'gal'?
She scared? Maybe 1st time married?
She nervous? Maybe does not want to leave home to go somewhere unknow?
She shy? Again = Never been married, or has been married and it was a bad one?
See? Hard to guess what her situation is --- You need to ask her yourself. Think of HER needs/wants/desires. Will you be able to give her everything she needs to feel secure in a full time, life-long relationship with you?
Talk it out with "her"
We used messenger/icq/yahoo and still wrote letters and called on the phone. Video conferance will get you two closer :-) Don't rush it. There is a reason she has for not jumping at the opportunity, and she will let you know in due time --- and waiting is true love, yes?
2006-08-22 21:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you may love her deeplly, but maybe she deosn't love you the same or as much. Maybe thats whats preventing you from engaging. Not to sound blunt, but I think you can't force someone to love you the way you want. If she turned you down, maybe that is her way of ending this before this goes too far and she hurts you more. Or maybe she is testing your love for her. If she's testing you, I'd try one more time to see if she really loves me deeply, and at some point, find out from her why she either does or doesn't. If she does, thats wonderful and congrats. If she doesn't, as difficult as it may be, I think you have to move on.
She might just be afraid of long distance relationships, and you may have to really talk with her about that issue. Or she may not be ready for a complete life long commitment yet, especially with the probelm of distance involved. At any rate, you should talk with her about it.
I hope that adivce help a bit.
2006-08-23 04:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the fact that you are at sea, and need to be with her more personally. It might be also that a marriage proposal is a permanent thing and she is not completely convinced yet. Spend more time with her. She is telling you that she needs to know you more before she gives that kind of an answer. Good luck.
2006-08-23 04:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is just a Internet thing you are better off finding someone that's close to you and is not a computer a net dating thing is very unhealthy not for you but for the other person as well. You will never get to no somebody by a computer. How will you know what they are really like what they smell like what there real personality's are like how do you know if there not a serial killer its better that you find someone face to face.
2006-08-23 04:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by sweety yhi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love u doesnt mean she has to marry u now at this point of time ya? Who said distance is not an obstacle..... if u love tat person u would love to see him/her everyday.....parting fr each other is v painful....N u r in ghana...so aft married u gng to move to South africa or u wan her to move over to u? If u r thinking of askin her to move over....hv u ever thought of her? Leaving all her family & friends behind...hv to restart fresh again nt easy u noe.... Y nt turn it around if ask u to move over to her place can u? How would u feel? R u ready for it? Perhaps she is nt ready la....gv her some time to convince her tat u r "safe" to b with la.... n if u reali love her tat madly...consider moving to her place then!
2006-08-23 04:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by D@ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time, space, and the vast ocean you ride on.
2006-08-23 04:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So keep being friends.
2006-08-23 04:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not good situation
2006-08-23 05:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rashil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋