boyfriend problems?

Question

I'm so confused. I don't mean to whine, but I'm planning on leaving my bf of over two years by the end of this month, due to the fact that we could not reach a compromise regarding his weed problem. He's been stressing me out lately, by having me stressed- he refuses to come home because he wanted to avoid a fight. ( I think it's stupid for him to depress me then avoid me like it's all my fault) But it's 1:30 am now and he's still gone. He said we needed some space but I really want to call it quit. I feel he is choosing weed over his 2 year relationship. Has anyone ever stumble upon this situation? Thanks

Answer 1

i lived through this too! he's out of my life now, and you should not feel guilty because of this! my ex use to tell me that i just didn't understand what it was like because i didn't use...i don't wanna understand in that way, but it's no way to live your life either! you deserve to be happy, and it only gets worse over time!!!!

Answer 2

Unfortunately the nature of addiction means it blots out everything else and becomes the dominant force in that persons life.

The easy answer here would be to leave however if you care about this guy it may be that you leaving would send him further down the wrong path.

Perhaps you could compromise .. leave him as his gf (ie cool things down) but stick around as a friend because sometimes you cant see the good things in your life and need a good friend to show you the way back to the right path.

It is your decision though and you must do what is right for you and not allow yourself to become depressed and miserable over it so if leaving completely is the best way to protect yourself then you shouldnt feel guilty over it.

Good luck in a difficult situation!

Answer 3

I think that you're doing the right decision. This relationship won't turn into a long long term relationship. Cause if he did really care about you more than weed then he would've stopped or try to work things out with you.

Answer 4

This situation is called addiction. Even if weed didn't mean more to him than you do, he still would need it. It's a physical thing. Same goes for tobacco, alcohol, and any other drugs.
What he needs is to become clean. But this is easy said and hard accomplished. And he must be the one who wants it.
So if he can't stay away from drug you should stay away from him.

Answer 5

a lil weed never hurt any1, if thats the only reason you have is his smoking habbit that results to him not comming home then dont quit just yet. tell him he can stay home and smoke and if he still isnt comming home then leave his ***. dont stay somewhere if ur not happy, stress can cause more than u think, and i'm sure ur a pretty girl you can find u a clean guy who is drug free

Answer 6

i know how you feel ,,,, my best advice is to get out of the relationship,,,,try to work it out, if it doesn't work then leave him,, i wish i left my bf when we were only together for 2 years. now we are going on 5years, and are relationship can get no worse,, it so bad,,,,but, i heard and expereinced that after two years of being together things start to get bad, and for a relationship to be good after that,, you have 2 work hard at it, but it takes 2,, if your trying alone,,its not worth fighting 4

Answer 7

What are u still doing? Move on. He'll never be a MAN as long as he's on weed. Life is too short, relieve urself. dont waste yo life like he's doing to hes

Answer 8

Save yourself. Leave him. Be careful though, an addicted person may do dangerous things. Good luck.

Answer 9

set things right. you can't just be with someone who prefers to be addicted on something that could destroy both of your lives. compromise then moved on. you can find a better relationship with someone.

Answer 10

Nope but no one needs a dope head.Pack and leave now! Why wait?