I'm deeply in love with the most fantastic guy in the world - he's caring, intelligent, interesting, polite, good looking and we share the same views and values. He is on love with me too. We have known eachother for 1.5 months and he sends me letters (by post as he finds it more romantic than e-mails), he calls me every 2-4 days and sends me text messages. There are only 2 problems:
1. We live in different countries but as he has already moved from other country then I don't really think this is a big problem, I'd be willing to move too if needed.
2. He has a girlfriend, they have been together for 4 years. I've met her too and she's a nice person but too boring. He's very emotional and active, she's rather quiet and rational. They don't show any affection in public at all.
We haven't made love and I told him that I will not sleep with his unless he's single again. At the beginning he told me that although he's in love with me, he can't leave her. Now he said that I can hope.
2006-08-22 21:09:15 · 17 answers · asked by rottentotten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, about his girlfriend. I met her because we were together at a seminar and she was there too. She is also 7-years older than him. He is 30. I think that there are financial reasons of they staying together (he never said me that though) because she is a rich businesswoman. Somewhat I respect him for not leaving his girlfriend for a girl he has only known for a short time. We'll see eachother again in 2 months in a conference in his country. And maybe he'll come to my country soon to do a training.
He told me that he has never cheated on his girlfriend and that he loves her but more like a friend. He was actually honest with me from the beginning and it's only now when he says that I might have some hope.
Of course I could find another boyfriend but the thing is that I have very specific interests and he is really 'my dream guy'. Now, after I know that he exists, I don't want anyone who's below these standards...
2006-08-22 22:30:32 · update #1
The Question is actually: To be or Not to be !
The young man that you are in love with, has already a girlfriend for almost 4 years..but how come that he hasn t left her during tthese 4 years for another girl?Has he never met other girls during this 4 years before?
Well in this case I doubt that he will leave his quiete girlfriend for you or any new girl...
And you said that have so many things in common like beinga ctive,energitic, intelligence and maybe beauty...But there are some intelligent guys who want to choose a stupid , silent girl not a sociable and intelligent girl like himself...so that could be possible for fooling her whenever they can.
Maybe he doesn t like to have a girlfriend to be a bit show off but more a girlfriend who will stand quiet next to him, listening to his conversation with his gals..
there are so many might, maybe and it could be..
but there is also other kind of guys...the guys zho like to enjoy their life and have fun , be with nice and active girls...this gives them a good feeling for having a girlfriend who admire them and stands so active at their side..
And I will give you a hope too
there was a computer student zho was so kind, active and witty and sociable and he loved me...he wanted to get married with me, but I denied because he was a bit fat ..but we shared too much common but I never liked him or intended to win him...but he tried and tried..and I denied every time...when I heard he married,he invited me to meet his wife..and i did so..and his wife is my best friend...but every time when he look at me, he feels somthing for me...he is more nice with me than his own wife..and if I show a bit compassion for him, then he will tell his wife that he is gonna divorce...
But I don t like his life get into the hell.......
and you know...
If you really like this guy, you should never and never sleep with him........this is my piece of advice........
If he is in love with you not in love with having only sex with you, then it s better to try him...
Do Not sleep with him.....and if he still wanted you, then you can realise that this is more than having fun....
good luck my friend
2006-08-22 22:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by princessFiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like her just because she is getting a little overweight then you probably shouldn't be together. My first tip is get over yourself and find a way to help her get back into shape without letting on that she is getting fat. Get the both of you a gym member ship and make it a weekly or daily (depending on how much you want to go) type of thing. If you are doing it with her she won't feel singled out and she won't know. *If you have been together for so long and love each other so much then you should be able to let her know nicely that she has been getting a little overweight. Then offer to work out with her so you can both get into better shape. Otherwise if you really are growing apart from her then it is time to move on. If you are not willing to help her with her physical appearance then you don't deserve her and it would be the best to break up. Just tell her you feel like the two of you are growing apart and you think you should start seeing other people.
2016-03-27 02:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl, i do that ma self especially when i meet beautiful girls; i make ma self look like an angel and the girl falls then i take ma chance then i run; Good Decission to not sleep with him but he is not done cos he might even show u a letter to tell u they have broken up; the truth is that he likes his Girl friend for him telling you he wants u to be aware of how he holds his relationship of 4 yrs in high esteem. Have done that before cos its safer to protect your relationship by telling a girl u want to fling; if he really likes u he will not tell u about the Girl, he will want the girl to even know something is happening so that u guys move on then he will give u the full gist later; then beware the distance is there!! take care
2006-08-22 21:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by segsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm,,, to tell you the truth...I would dump this guy. Why start a meaningful relatioinship with so many doubts? I think your prince is still out there waiting. Someone with no baggage. Hey girl, 4 years is a long time with his gf.He could be playing you. And how was it that you met his girlfriend? And showing affection in public is not a rule. It doesn't mean they are not in love. I would get a new boyfriend. He sounds like trouble. I can see him breaking your heart,,,so dump him.
2006-08-22 21:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by sonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he's coming...that is unless she kicks him out. you will be a pleasant place for him to be in a holding pattern, until he plans his next move. remember opposites attract so her quiet nature probably compliments him perfectly. there is no reason he "has" to stay with her...it's a choice. 1.5 months is 45 days...it's a fantastical infatuation...let it be just that a fantasy not a reality. he said you can now hope huh? sounds like he may need a place to stay or is lying. and if he cheats on her he will cheat on you. think about it.
2006-08-22 21:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by formerlylunesta@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Th e question is will he leave her. Well, he just might. But do you want a man who will leave her for you, because that just means he'd leave you for someone else.
He's playing you sweetie, walk on!
He is not any of those things you said either if he were he wouldn't be carrying on with you behind his girlfriend's back
2006-08-22 21:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by N search of truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sends u letters coz his galfrnd probably checks his mails and knows his pass word, such men are dangerous n will lose all enthusiasm, kindness etc after he has slept with u! be firm n make sure he doesnt cheet with u coz he will also cheat on u!
Find some one single n in ur country
2006-08-22 21:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by aasweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation right here shows what his true character is. He's a complete skeezball and chances are, if he's doing this to his current girlfriend, and he leaves her for you, he'll turn around and do it to you too. Please open your eyes and be wise. Get the hell outta Dodge and never look back!!!
2006-08-22 21:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not get my hopes up....he has been with her 4 years and he refuses to leave her....he could be just telling you things...not all guys are honest...but i would not move or get to involved with him unless he really broke it off with this girl....i would not quit dating right now because you think you care for this guy...i would not move either unless the move helped you besides just being closer to this guy......
2006-08-22 21:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on get a life you have only know each other for 1.5 months. He is not going to leave his gf he is only trying to get into your nickers
2006-08-22 21:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋