mingling advice?

Question

setting: a gettogether of large church group, i'm the newbie/rookie.

if 2 or 3 of them are talking, is it alright if i join in the conversation or is that considered rude?

what kind of mingling advice can you give me? serious replies, plz.

Answer 1

You should wait for an invite to join the conversation. Find someone on their own, introduce yourself and ask that person to introduce you as a new member. If you 'butt in' on conversations you will be considered very rude and remember 'you only get one chance to make a good first impression'...............

Answer 2

Well, I would say that unless they are having some sort of "prayer" going on then it would be rude to try to mingle at that time.

If their just chatting about other church affairs or how the weather is, it would be alright for you to walk up and say perhaps "do you mind if I join you?" Then it would be up to them to make a decision as to whether the subject of their conversation is private and not for the ears of the masses.

I would say that the direct approach, asking if you can be part of the group, is the best route. Coming across as some sort of fake know it all can be a bad way for the newbie to begin in the social arena of church.

If your asked a question, try not to give the "answer you think they'd most like to hear" and be yourself so you can answer truthfully. It's always better becoming the "guy who doesn't tell lies" than the guy who has no clue about what he's talking about.

Mind your manners and don't be afraid to join each and every one of those committees, volunteer for the Day Care Center, or become the next soloist in the Choir as church is there for everyone to feel their a part of a congregation of people who attend to lift their spirits with friends alike.

.....................think about it......................

Answer 3

I've been is similar situations and I really suck at it (so stop reading now, lol!).

But all I can say is that, since it is a church group, at least you are in a (hopefully) warm, friendly environment. At a recent church meet I went to I was stood at the side trying to look for somebody to talk to, but I was so nervous I just couldn't get my legs to move! In the end, one lady saw me looking all left out and invited me into her conversation.
I suggest that you try and judge the situation at the time as to whether you join in particular conversations (obviously if it looks like they are talking about something private you probably shouldn't) but remember that you are much more worried about the situation than any of them so it won't matter to them as much. If you were ina situation you were comfortable with and a newbie came and joined in your conversation would you be offended? I think probably not.

It helps to have something to talk about - maybe engage somebody in conversation when they are at the food table, something simple like asking them whats in the sandwiches or commenting on how something tastes (nothing derrogatory in case it turns out they made it!). This should give you some little confidence boosts and can be useful later since you have now already spoken to some people.

And of course, pray about it! Unless this church is wrong for you or something, He is going to want to give you a hand!
I hope ou have a good time :)

Answer 4

If you don't already know someone there you should introduce yourself to someone and ask who you need to talk to about signing up to be on the church's mailing list! This will get you in touch with a person who's involved in the church and probably knows most of its members. While you're there this person should introduce you to members of the church. Get to know each person as you are introduced to them! Remember names, it will help you start conversations with people throughout the day. Entering a conversation where there's someone you already know isnt nearly as awkward as if you were a complete stranger. Good luck, and remember that people at church value their fellowships. They are all eager to meet and include new people. This will be nothing like the first day of school.

Answer 5

be polite and of course join in.. that is what youare there for! it isn't hard to start in, it is hard to not feel flustered when the attention shifts on you while you are with new people.. jsut relax and enjoy it. break the ice and if you flub, laugh at your self and be sure to be kind in the sharing of the conversation...!