Why do women as they get older move from making men have a relationship to being okay with casual sex?

Question

I am noticing from talking to my single friends women at the age of 30 and above don’t’ necessarily require a relationship for sex. In fact it seems the roles of what men and women want begin to switch. The men tend to want to cuddle more and are cool and kind of look forward to women spending the night. While on the other hand the women are just like…well I will call you and then they are out. They don’t expect to even want to have the intimacy they seem to want when they were younger. I am totally over generalizing but you get the idea. It is not like all women or even most women are near, at, or over 30 think this way. I am also generalizing men saying most want to have a meaningful intimate experience and not just meaningless sex. I am using a limited number of circumstances to pose a question to see if there are those out there who have found similar evidence to support my hypothesis. Holla @ yo’ boy. Why is this happing? Do you have similar experiences more frequently tha

Answer 1

Hmmm I actually see the opposite on my end .. where they want the relationship but the guy is completely enjoying their freedom. However with that said .. I know that a lot of older women like to take their time in a relationship to see if this person is really sincere. They may "claim" that they want something casual but that is out of fear of being hurt. Also I maybe generalizing. If there is a girl that you like, have patience, show your true side - one that is there no matter what, always honest and I guarantee a relationship will bloom.

Hugs Mel

Answer 2

Lisen you can wait forever to "be in love" with a man, it is not somthing that happens over a period of time, that is companionship based trust and respect with very strong affections for each other. Love on the other hand is a very irrational and at times illogical emotion that can take you totally unaware. No matter how unsutable the person is or how impossible the situation, when love happens it does not see anything (It is not called being blind in love for nothing you know). So you can either wait and wait and wait, or take life into your own hands and live in today, and not when or if. You oviously like and respect the man and have warm feelings towards him, and he makes you comfortable, so I think you should stop giving a damn to what they say or how old you are, just do it if you want to, not cause you feel as if you should. See you loose these years looking for love yet ignoring what is in front of you, you will regret it someday when you still have not managed to "fall in love" with the right person. If I were you, I would give this man some serious loving attention. Just rember, marry a man who loves you and who you respect. You may not get love out of it, but I am sure you will get some wonderful memories and plus point is he is not a fumbling boy, but a man with plenty of experience, and can teach you a lot, and satisfy you. But it is your life, and you can decide if you want to wait or start living your life while you are waiting. Emotional hurting is a part of life, and if you are afraid what might happen afterwards, you might as well not step out of the house. Live, learn and always look forward!

Answer 3

..I notice you are holding a baby in your arms in the picture ,,so you have done some cuddling,,,on one date ..hummmmm And in your third sentence you say looking "forward to woman staying over all night"it doesn't matter what age this is going on more now than before it's not what just older women (and men) do ,all age do it and it has a lot to do with the fact ,a lot of men gaves women the idea that's all they want just "meaningless sex "..Why ?Because women and men don't care about intimacy any more ,

Answer 4

We have learned that it isn't worth the hassle of repeated failed relationships, the heartache and the tears we shed when we are younger. We are basically wiser and we get more peace in the long run ...lovin and leavin' than to stay and eventually be hurt. Although I am in a relationship now and for the most part love it. But I have been single for most of my adult life and tried like crazy to have a decent relationship with a man and it just winds up miserable. I wanted to give it one more try before I was going to the position of lovin and leavin, but I would rather be celibate....I think! lol

Answer 5

Because they have already been either in love way too many times or divorce. They're already established in their careers and family so now all they need is a warm body rubbing up close and that's all. So all I can say is that I can't wait until I turn 30ish.

Answer 6

Hey, we get older and hate dressing up and wearing spiked heals and sometimes you just want to go casual, like, maybe your french maid outfit is at the cleaners or your just too tired to cinch up the corset, why get all dressed up, when you're just gonna take it off

Answer 7

Because when men are younger they only want casual sex, not a relationship, so it's role reversal I guess, payback time!

Answer 8

Because at that age, women start to peak sexually.

Maybe even with a man's slightly lowered libido, their sexual desire is closer than it has or ever will be.

Answer 9

absolutely
for myself i reconize that i want a meaningful intimate experience
with the man i love
its all or nothing

Answer 10

Im over 40 and i have never heard of this...hmmmmm i missed out...