even though im in an unhealthy relationship, i continue to try and pursue something i know isnt there? ive been seeing this guy who (in the beginning was great) is flat out rude to me and told one of his friends that im just his "friend with benefits." i like to think that he'll change back into the guy he was 8 months ago, but in my heart, im know this is probably the "real him" and he had just put on that show in the beginning to make the catch. i continually keep getting myself hurt more and more each time i talk to or see him, but i cant seem to pull away. i still have feelings for him and love him (not to be confused with being IN love). why? i know he doesnt appreciate me for who i am, so why do i keep making myself the object of ridicule and hurt?
2006-08-22 19:47:03 · 16 answers · asked by justlivinglife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, so everybody is making you the baddie in this whole thing.
Come on guys, help this girl out!
My advice would be to leave him ( I know I know, it is easier said than done, I've been there done that and best part of all, I got my fiance out of the whole shebang!)
The saying is as follows: If you set him free, and he comes back to you, he will be yours forever! (BELIEVE ME, IT WORKS LIKE A BOMB!) If he doesn't come back, it's not meant to be!
2006-08-22 19:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by poepies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally in the same path as i used to be 2 years ago..Even how that guy insult my dignity,i will still sway my tail like a faithful dog at him..I feel as sux as how you are feeling now..
To be frank, it very difficult to move on at this point of time as you may already feel that you have already been thru so much with him, he will change, he will sure change..You don't wanna let go as you are afriad that when you let go,he start to change and you will regret right?
You know that being with him is only hurt and saddness then can you try to move on without him?Know more guys to occupy your time..Go for many dates..you will feel that you are still on demand and you don't need him..even some nights you will still feel lonely and you need him..When that happens, call one of your dates..have a heart to heart chat to make yourself feel better..slowly you might be falling in love with one of your caring dates..and eventually you will move on without him...This is how i do it...
2006-08-23 02:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time it happens during initial stages of relationship. people tend to be more pretier & positive than they are. Even you would have behaved better than what you are actually. As time passes by the natural self comes out. I would suggest you should have a frank & truthful discussion of what has gone wrong in the recent days.
2006-08-23 02:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by arnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"why do i keep making myself the object of ridicule and hurt?" It's an awfully good question, isn't it? You know the truth yet you fail to act. Ask yourself this: what would it take to make you leave this relationship? Most of it has already happened. Please leave. Anything is better than this.
2006-08-23 02:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz u r afraid not being able to find better guy than him.
Thats why u cant let go even he treated u like trash.
Advice: Ditch him and move on with life. Plenty of good guys out there. :)
2006-08-23 02:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with the boy you are having first then go for other boys. I think you must tell him what you are feeling about him and don't pile up the things. May be he doesn't know what you like or dislike. Make him understand, if he doesn't. Then approach boys as boys are not indanger species.. :-)
2006-08-23 03:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by heart_intelligence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to me before, so i speak from experience. ask yourself this- are you gonna marry him? do you wanna be close to him? I know you have feelings for him, but not for the REAL him. So my advice is breakup with him and tell him that you miss the person he was 8months ago, and that in order to win you back he has to become that person for real. <3
2006-08-23 02:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can see exactly what the situation is, you just don't want to accept it.
Walk away, no don't walk - RUN!!
Go find someone hotter who treats you with the respect you deserve girl.
2006-08-24 02:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have more respect for yourself
you are worthy of love and respect and a man who wants to love you and have a family with you
Good Luck to You and God Bless!!
2006-08-23 02:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r getting addicted to being ridiculed by him. break off with him now before this gets out of hand.
2006-08-23 03:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋