Let me start from the beggining, My boyfriend asked me to marry him 8 weeks ago, It was the happiest day of my life, i thought he would never asked, i was feeling like that the happiest women on earth you know? But then a week later, He passed away. I felt angry, sad, felt like killing myself. Days went on when on, when my grandmother invited me to church, and well I'm atheist so it felt weird as hell. But then while they were all praying, a man started screaming out while crying "The lord says, do not cry over what wasnt yours, for his life is mine, do not cry no more, for i was the one that loved you first. But i had never been to that church, i felt.....was someone talking to me?? Could it be that there really is a God??? Then i started crying but not over my boyfriend, but because i was feeling guilty of something.....I'm still worried, what if there really is a God?? i dont know what the hell to do...
2006-08-22 19:46:42 · 23 answers · asked by Infamy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You need to decide for yourself what you feel or think....sorry for your loss
2006-08-22 19:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lost my husband 6 years ago. I'm sorry for your loss. I know how much that hurts. It will take you a long time to get over it but you will never quite be the same. Things will get better though I promise.
I am a christian. For many years I would go to church and either feel an emmotional high or nothing except what time is it? is this going to be over soon? I wasn't until recently that things began to really make sense. I finally started acknowledging God's existence even when or especially when things were bad. The bible talks about praising Jesus through your trials. I've had some trials. I stepped out in faith and with all my trials I actually looked up to heaven and said thank you Jesus. When you begin to acknwledge that jesus is with you always not just in church then you begin to see changes in your life.
All I can say is to ask God into your life. All you have to do is say father, I know that you are my creator, I know that your son died on the cross for me and rose again in three days. I ask that you forgive me of my sins.
It's actually that easy. I doubt you will have any earth shattering experiences. Lots of little baby steps. Sometimes when you ge saved things actually get worse. That is when you are being tested. God knows what you need just be willing to except it.
I don't want to sound like a bible thumper but christians are commanded to spread the word about jesus. I would not be a christian if I didn't do that.
I will pray for you that God will get you through this time of great need and that you will come to not only wonder but you will know the love of jesus.
2006-08-23 01:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Stand 4 somthing Please! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My sincere sympathies. I couldn't imagine losing my pretty,little,Tanya. I'm Catholic myself,but I'm not pushy about it. You should maybe try talking with the priest/minister at the church you went to, or maybe a theology professor at a local college. Really you should ask yourself, does a concept of a God feel right to you? I reason it this way. This whole idea of a world, a solar system,a Universe is simply too much to be a coincidence. Everything seems to follow some kind of law,i.e.gravity or something. Doesn't it seem more than an accident to you? The answer for me is no.It is no accident. For you, you may agree with this or you may think I'm a loon!!:) Good Luck to you! May only the good memories remain!
2006-08-22 20:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you step very carefully. Prom personal experience I can tell you that grief can do strange things to a person, knocking them off their pins and sending them down unfamiliar territory--such as "what will I do with them gone?".
Frequently that is when the religious predators move in...when you are at your most emotionally vulnerable and asking hard questions. They provide easy-sounding answers and offer more...and empty your will and your wallet at the same time.
Take a vacation. Take some time off. Spend time with supportive friends who won't move in for the easy convert. Let your feelings wash through you and then settle down. Be careful of descisions you make while the pain is this raw.
I am very sorry for your loss. I had a nearly identical experience (the loss, not the church), and it nearly destroyed me. I got better. You will too.
2006-08-22 20:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Scott M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel that there is something bigger than you, don't deny yourself. You don't have to follow any particular religion to believe in God. You can accept his existence, if you feel he does exist, and that can be enough. If you feel like you believe in God and want to start following a religion, look into all of them and see what fits for you. There is no right and wrong for a person's personal beliefs...
I suggest that you be open to other people's opinions, but be sure to come to your own conclusions.
2006-08-22 19:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by meKrystle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no god. Don't make a tragedy cause you believe something so outragous. This is the reason mankind created religions, as a last resort to believe someone close was still there. I'm sorry, but he isn't. He will always be there in your heart and memories, but he is dead. This is the natural course of life and is unavoidable. Beings die, only to pass the torch down to the next generation and so on.
Peace
2006-08-22 19:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by some guy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just because he's speaking religiously does not mean there can be no truth. He's a priest, and good at giving advice. It may be that what he said struck you as true. He gave good advice, and you followed it.
Although, you must also consider the possibility that there is a God. If an event such as this can shake your beliefs so much, perhaps you are subscribing to the wrong belief system.
2006-08-22 19:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by drink_more_powerade 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First off, I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you find a way to heal yourself, and as a new Christian myself, I have to let you know that God is not a bad way to go. What's wrong in believing that there is something better for us? You are not ghuilty, my dear, there are ways to find happiness. God bless you.
2006-08-22 19:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by traydenma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that was God speaking to you through that man. Please don't ignore what happened that day at the church. If you don't have a bible, get one and start reading it. Get on your knees and talk to God like you would talk to me if we were face to face. Tell God, that you believe he was speaking to you that day, but you don't understand exactly what he was saying or what he meant. Ask him to reveal himself to you in a way that you will know for sure that he is real!! If you are sincere in your request, he will answer you!! The bible says, "God will draw near to you, if you draw near to him"......God loves you more than you can ever know!!!! Read in Matt. (the whole book of Matthew)what he did for you because he loves you sooooo much!! It is amazing!!!
2006-08-22 20:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Monique 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God speaks in amazing ways. He loves you more than you could ever know. My advice is simple: "Trust in the Lord, and he will make your paths straight." In short, God can fix many of the problems in your life if you let him. He won't if you don't ask him to.
2006-08-22 20:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by That Kid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well,, if there IS a god, then that would be great. for example,, you could see you boyfriend again.. sadly,, and i do mean sadly,, i think it's way more likely that your grandmother told the church about it ahead of time, and they set something up.. that, or you're looking too deeply into a coincidence because of the emotions you're having. i wish i could tell you there was a god, but i really don't think there is one. i'm sorry for your loss.
2006-08-22 19:55:13 · answer #11 · answered by tobykeogh 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋